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We accompanied my husband to San Francisco on a business trip. Our 2.5 year old and I went to the aquarium and Pier 39. I was having trouble getting the carousel to take my money for tokens. I messed with it maybe 20 or 30 seconds. I turned to my son and he was GONE. Nowhere in sight!!!!<br><br>
I read "Protecting the Gift" and the really long thread here so had some ideas on what to do. Unfortunately, the most important one--writing my cellphone number on him--I didn't do. He's gotten so into fighting me when I write my cell number on his arms that I've started writing on labels that I stick to his back. Except I didn't have a label today and was too lazy to write on his arms. I just didn't want to fight him today (it took a lot of work to just get him out the door today.) Besides, I was lulled into security since he sticks so close to me all the time and I've never had him wander off.<br><br>
So when I couldn't see him I started telling all the people around me, "I need to find my son." They asked what he was wearing and I could describe it. I didn't know who to ask to stop anyone from leaving the pier--and could they even do it?<br><br>
Then I sighted him about 100 feet away talking to a man. When I went running up the man said, "Sorry about that," and left. Some people nearby said they'd watched him walk past as if he knew where he was going. They thought he must have thought he'd seen me.<br><br>
Okay, if you saw a 2 year old in a busy place like that (and we're talking busy!!) and he's by himself would you just let him wander?<br><br>
And why did that man say, "Sorry" to me. When I saw them together in the distance I figured the man was just trying to help my son. So why did he apologize?<br><br>
I've told him before that if he can't see me he should go to a Mommy with kids and ask for help. I didn't do that today.<br><br>
He's fine. Actually, he nursed a little bit then asked to ride the carousel. Then we looked at the water and rode the bus back to the motel. He's sleeping soundly and I'm still full of adrenaline.<br><br>
I'll see if I can find and bump that really good, long thread that has all kinds of info in case anyone is interested.<br><br>
If I can't find it, I think I've summarized most of the things one should do in this situation--though many of them I didn't or couldn't do.
 

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The search function isn't working right now. I'll try to remember to look for the other thread later.
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">'s mama<br><br>
I haven't read that thread yet so I'd love to check it out if your find the link. That must have been so scary for you.....
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/hug2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Hug2">The guy probably just was trying to sympathetic that you had been scared (like when one say "sorry for your loss" at a funeral.)
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/hug2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Hug2">The guy probably just was trying to sympathetic that you had been scared (like when one say "sorry for your loss" at a funeral.)</div>
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I like that interpretation better. I usually have good radar and he didn't seem like anything but someone trying to help. But in replaying the event, his comment seemed so weird. I do think you may be right. I do believe most people are good.
 

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I agree. I think he was probably just saying sorry as something to say. Like "sorry he ran off" or maybe you looked at him in horror and he meant it like "sorry I freaked you out"<br>
My EXH used to run off all the time so my MIL would buy these really ugly winter hats in awful flourecent colors and make him wear one whenever they went out.<br>
That said, my 8 yr old went to get a soda at a cart in Magic Kingdom and took the wrong way back to the bench I was sitting on with sleeping, nursing Andrew.. I couldn't see her for a few minutes and it was the ugly ugly flowered hat I made her wear that made her super easy for me to spot :)<br>
I'm glad everything turned out OK. Kids have a way of giving us heart failure
 

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Oh, that must have been so scary! I'm so glad to hear it all turned out ok. Thanks for reminding me about the writing the cell phone number on your child - we're about to travel and it frightens me to think about how quickly DD could get lost in an airport. Hopefully she'll just hang out happily in the mei tai, but those days are getting fewer and farther between. Also, I LOVE the hat idea! I was thinking about having DD wear one anyway for a different reason, but now I definitely will!
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/grouphug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="grouphug"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/grouphug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="grouphug"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/grouphug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="grouphug"> mama. So scary. I've been to the Pier, and it's crazy busy. I can't imagine losing a LO there. So glad it ended well, and thanks for the cell phone reminder.<br><br>
~maddymama
 

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As someone who lives in San Francisco, THAT is my biggest fear. I'm sooooooo glad you found him. That is a little weird that that guy said sorry... sorry for what? Creeeepy.<br><br>
a close second: my son darting out in the street. He'd never make it <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/yikes2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="yikes">:<br><br>
third: walking up Taylor or something and a huge gust of wind comes and he goes rolling down the hill.
 

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How scary! Glad it got resolved quickly!<br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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<div style="font-style:italic;">Okay, if you saw a 2 year old in a busy place like that (and we're talking busy!!) and he's by himself would you just let him wander?</div>
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A lot would depend on how the child was acting. If they were obviously scared I would probably try to keep them calm and in that spot for a few minutes since most of the time parents aren't that far away. Then bring them to the attention of wherever we are for things like loudspeaker announcements.<br><br>
If they seemed fine but I didn't see an easily identifiable caregiver I would most likely watch for a while to make sure before actually approaching the child. People can get quite funny about strange adults talking to their kids (rightly so).
 

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How scary. Huge relief that you found him. How scary. I had that happen with my 2yr old. She vanished in IKEA- my only thought was "well atleast she's holding my credit card- it has my name on it" and then I about lost it when I did find her. EVERYONE there heard me YELLING "JENSEN- where are you!" they all froze and started looking- one reason I love Sacramento. More people in nothern CA seem apt to help in scary situations.<br><br>
I have started making these necklaces <a href="http://flickr.com/photos/[email protected]/sets/72157605578488816/" target="_blank">http://flickr.com/photos/[email protected]/</a> in hopes of helping parents in situations like this. Sometimes just having your cell number, and name ON your child is enough for YOU to calm down and think rationally. Please PM me with questions about these.<br><br>
I'm so glad that everything is OK.
 

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I have started making these necklaces for friends <a href="http://flickr.com/photos/[email protected]/sets/72157605578488816/" target="_blank">http://flickr.com/photos/[email protected]/</a><br><br>
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you are a genius. i'm jacking your idea.
 

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I'm also so glad it turned out to be ok. I like OP's interpretation of "sorry" but sadly that wasn't my first thought.<br><br>
The other thread was started by me, so I'll see if I can find "all threads started by maxine45" and put up the link.<br><br>
ETA: I can't make sense of the search function anymore so I can't find the other thread. - Sorry! :)
 

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So scary! I'm glad your son is ok and safe. My dd wears a stainless steel ID bracelet. It's name is "special" and we don't take it off--<br><br><a href="https://shopping.webformix.net/lifeline/" target="_blank">https://shopping.webformix.net/lifeline/</a><br><br>
I know not all kids would tolerate that, but maybe a temporary tattoo?
 

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how scary, mama! i'm so glad you were able to find him quickly!
 

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A lot would depend on how the child was acting. If they were obviously scared I would probably try to keep them calm and in that spot for a few minutes since most of the time parents aren't that far away. Then bring them to the attention of wherever we are for things like loudspeaker announcements.<br><br>
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I also just watch the child until I see he/she is meeting up with a parent again (usually that happens quickly), to not scare the child but to make sure she/he is allright.<br><br>
Carma
 

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A friend of mine got <a href="https://www.roadid.com/common/default.aspx" target="_blank">these ID bracelets</a> for her children, and she wears once identifying herself as their mother. I am ordering one now!<br><br>
Sorry that you had that experience. Hugs.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/grouphug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="grouphug"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/grouphug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="grouphug"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/grouphug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="grouphug"> mama. So scary. I've been to the Pier, and it's crazy busy. I can't imagine losing a LO there. So glad it ended well, and thanks for the cell phone reminder.<br><br>
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Totally this. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> to you both--they can wander off so fast!
 
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