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I'm rather impressed with any school offical who can use the word 'bacchanalian' correctly--or at all.
 

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Good for them. I would never allow my child to go to parties after a prom or anything like that. They could invite some friends back to our house and have good, clean, well-supervised fun. And that amount of money is insane! That's a good start on a college fund. Oy!
 

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I dunno... I am kind of sad for the kids to lose their prom. I do know many teens that look forward to it. In their shoes I might not spend my money the same way (not renting a house in the Hamptons. Ever <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1"> ) but so what? Not my money not my choice.<br><br>
I'd be cool with my teens going to a party after a dance if it's what they wanted. Like anything else we'd be discussing it and talking over the details before hand until we all felt comfy with what was happening. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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I have to say Bravo to the principal. I mean the reasons he stated were fantastic. Sex/Booze/Drugs will almost always tiptoe into teenage events, however to have that much commercialism and consumptionism? All I can say is wow.
 

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Sad for the kids whos expecting a prom and <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up"> for the principal.
 

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It sounded like they had it coming. I mean, one year a group of my friends rented a limo, cost 20 bucks a piece or so, but it certainly didn't have alcohol in it since it was being used by minors! And I remember hearing rumors about some kids renting hotel rooms, but going out to IHOP after was more common. We were in a WAAY different financial bracket. 1000 was like the max the richest kids would spend, for a limo for just a couple, and a fancy dress, and tux rental, tickets, pictures, dinner, etc.<br><br>
Many high schools in the area where I grew up had to ban the tradition of wearing a mum for homecoming. A few girls would show up in like 3 huge overdecorated monstrosities (one from bf, one from parents, one from grandparents or something). Our high school just put size/number restrictions on them. (ribbons can't hang past waist, limit one). But there were girls who were devastated because they either didn't get or couldn't afford one of those ridiculously fancy mums.
 

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To spend that kind of money on one night is insane. I didn't spend that kind of money on my wedding. Kudos to the principal.
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> at MG<br><br>
My dh is a high school teacher so I get to hear about the ridiculous things that some students are doing for homecoming/prom. I keep trying to get him to volunteer to chaperone so I can go and gawk for myself, but no dice.<br><br>
After my prom, my bf and I walked around Coconut Grove and then took pictures climbing all over some of the fountains in Coral Gables. We were weird, but damn it was fun.
 

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My dh is a high school teacher so I get to hear about the ridiculous things that some students are doing for homecoming/prom. I keep trying to get him to volunteer to chaperone so I can go and gawk for myself, but no dice.<br><br>
After my prom, my bf and I walked around Coconut Grove and then took pictures climbing all over some of the fountains in Coral Gables. We were weird, but damn it was fun.</div>
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yo, are we neighbors? where did you go to high school? i went to gulliver. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/bag.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Bag">
 

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I'm sure one of the students has seen FOOTLOOSE. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wild.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wild">
 

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First i'd like to say that i feel sorry for these kids. It is one thing to cancel a prom if what these kids are doing affects the school (Ex. arriving drunk/drugged-leaving drunk/drugged). But if the parents or teens are paying for limos, dresses.etc...what right does he have to say how much is spent and on what! What happens off school grounds should not be ruled by school officials. That's what parents are for! My friends and i rented limos and stayed over at friends house after prom and we did not drink in limos (most limo services will not even include alcohol if they know your underage) and we had plenty of good times at our after party. I think if the principal had stated no drinking before prom and after prom (on school) grounds that would have been sufficient enough, but to tell parents what they can spend their money on is outright wrong!
 

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Well it is a private Catholic school. They have different rules than a public institution. I don't really feel sorry for anyone in this situation, I hate to say. One, it is prom, their lives will not end without it. Two, I agree parents should be responsible for their kids, but obviously they haven't been so I can see the school, stepping in. Parents are more than welcome to spend their money on anything they want, the school is under no obligation to provide a reason for it.
 

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Yes, but then he said "in a word, financial decadence"<br><br>
Um.... that's 2 words. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/upsidedown.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="upsidedown">
 

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"Not my money not my choice."<br><br><br>
Bingo. If it's not happening at school, it's not the business of the school to be involved, period full stop end of story. I understand that a private school can set whatever nosy-ass policies they wish (mine made me sign an agreement that I wouldn't have sex with other students!), but as a parent, I would be furious to get a preachy letter from a school administrator ripping on my financial choices. Drunk kids at the prom? That's the principal's problem and responsibility. Rich kids renting a house in the Hamptons? That's the parents' problem and responsibility.
 

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If the obscene consumption surrounding the prom is in conflict with the spiritual values of the school (as it very much is, IMO) I think they have the right to decide not to sponsor it. As the principal said, anyone can plan a prom. Ideally, he would give them enough advance notice to do so.<br><br>
Just to clarify, I don't think these near-adults should be prohibited from doing whatever crazy shit they wanna do. I just think it's the perfect right of a religious school to not invite the behavior by sponsoring a prom.
 

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C'mon now. This is real life and real society. If kids that are 17 or 18 can't deal with choices as what do with their bodies and others think they need to be sheltered, how are they ever going to deal with college (as said before) or the corporate world. Teach your kids to be able to make decisions or else they will have to learn how to do it well behind everyone else. They'll be sitting around hoping someone else will be making the decisions for them. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"><br><br>
((Also, I went to a prom like this, albeit not in the hamptons. I survived. I hated my date. The girls in my limo... I swear they were snorting coke in their flower boquets or just had before getting in the car. My date bought us a hotel room, and I told him we would be having two beds. At the end of the evening when he wanted to party, I ditched him and read the book of buddha (first time I saw that in a hotel room) more entranced with it than the rest of it all. It wasn't my best prom, as I went to a couple. But it is funny to think back on and laugh about.))
 
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