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For the first time in six years, I find second income necessary. DH will be starting out as a new reporter in August (which pays very very little) and I am desperate to not rely on my MIL for financial help because she's too controlling about it. My ds will be 20 mos. by the time I start working again.<br><br>
I'd love for anyone to share the best way to find care for my ds and my dd (who will be 7) for an AP mama like myself?<br>
I'm willing to pay for a live-in or live-out nanny. But I have no idea how to choose an agency, where to find trust worthy nannies, and how do you establish a rapport where you're on common ground. What are the signs you look for or questions to ask to ensure your cp won't be one of those nut cases you see on the evening news?<br><br>
Thanks in advance!
 

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We have a private sitter who only watches our son (he's 2 almost 3)out of her house....<br><br>
I guess if you go through an agency you'll know for sure whether or not they have all their licenses, background check etc...if you do a search on your own just ask to see their paperwork.<br><br>
I did two interview with my sitter. The first was us alone and i basically just went through and ask about what parenting beliefs were about certain things (such as tantrums, discipline, etc) I think as a mother you can tell too whether you feel this person is right or not. I've interviewed people before who i could tell within the first 5 minutes that this wasn't a good person to watch my son....<br><br>
The signs I always look for:<br><br>
1. Does she actually look me in the face when talking to me.<br>
2. Extremely nervous (being somewhat is fine and i expect that )and fidgety<br>
3. Can't clearly explain her policies or is vague about issues<br>
4. Believes in any physical punishment<br>
5. House is messy, cluttered and un childproofed<br>
6. Doesn't respect my beliefs about what i believe is right for my child<br><br><br>
I hope this help somewhat...i know its not precisely what you asked <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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Thanks. That was useful.<br>
I'm wondering if it's harder finding a good nanny or day care?<br>
Just having lots of anxieties leaving my dc. That's my real issue.
 

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I gotta say, so far my experience is that it is a LOT harder finding a nanny. But we're looking for someone PT, so maybe that's why. But I found a good daycare fairly easily when we used one last year. Now that I'm coming back from maternity leave with my second DD I've been searching for a nanny for 3 months now and I've got no one. I'll be happy if I can get some people to show up on time for the interview!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">:
 

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godsh, i hope that doesn't happen to me. does it have anything to do with how close you are to a metropolitan area?
 
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