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I'm just curious how subsequent births go.. generally. Is there any correlation to the way the first goes, or is it different, depending on the child?<br><br>
I'm fantasizing about a second, although it will probably be awhile.. we have our hands full as it is. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"><br><br>
I had painful back labor for the entirety of Anna's birth. I was having painful back contractions way before I even entered the active labor stage, and it probably took me a good 8 hours to get there. Then active labor for 7 hours and pushing for 2. The back pain didn't cease until she was in my arms. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"><br><br>
I'm not saying it wasn't worth every second and that I wouldn't do it again in a heartbeat. I would just like to be able to fantasize about quicker birth with a little less pain. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"><br><br>
So, does the first one really "pave the way" for the second?
 

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I think that most often, each pregnancy and birth is just as different as the child being born. My first I labored for 24 hours and pushed for at least 3 hours. With my second I labored for 9 hours and pushed for 13 minutes.<br><br>
Now I'm going to have my third in October...I'm fantasizing about the ease of it also. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">
 

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Well, my anecdotal report is:<br>
I had back labor with my first, too (she was posterior), labored for 22 hours and pushed for 3. With my 2nd, it wasn't quite as bad - no back labor, and I was just less tense - labor lasted 8 hours, with 30 minutes of pushing.<br>
My 3rd was born after 4 hours of labor and 5 minutes of pushing - unplanned UC, because the midwife didn't make it in time.<br><br>
Now, I'm expecting birth #4 is going to be like the Catholic mother's in "The meaning of life" - just drop out while I'm washing dishes, no doubt. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">
 

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My second labor was so awesome<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/joy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="joy">:!!<br><br>
It was long-25 hours (pushed for 20 minutes), but it went exactly how nature intended for me to have my homebirth. My first was 43 hours (pushed for over 3 hours), so it was half of what we could have expected. I had back labor for my first due to malpositioned baby & the second time, the baby was right where he needed to be.<br><br>
Honestly, his birth was so great that we are thinking about a third<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love">.
 

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My births get easier each time! First was 8 hours, then 4 hours, then 2 hours, then 1 hour!!! Although that is just 1 hour of serious labor.The last birth was completely different. I was aware of being in labor for much longer than the previous two. My head space is better for each birth and its ridiculous! I think I am getting addicted to giving birth! I love it and love having little babies. Think I might need to train to be a midwife to get my baby and birth fix! Can't afford to keep having them forever! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue"><br>
PS...am not great at labor, quite a wimp actually, but I still love it!
 

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So many factors play into how labor will go, but generally the answer is yes. All things being equal, second and subsequent births tend to be easier.<br><br>
Anectdotally, my first was 37 hrs with 1.5 hours of pushing - the next was only 3 hours of "serious" labor and baby practically slid out on her own.
 

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It seems that 2nd births are usually easier. Mine wasn't, but oh well. It was marginally shorter (18 hours instead of 21), pushing was about the same amount of time (20 min . . . 2nd may have been more like 10 min), but the second was much more painful, which was disappointing since I had found the first to be surprisingly painful (7+ hrs in transition). For both births, the last 8 hours were very tough, but the last 1-2 hours of that second birth were torture that no human being should ever endure, not for any reason.<br><br>
I love my babies <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love">, but I wish there was another way to get them into the world!<br><br>
(FWIW, second was a homebirth, midwife didn't make it in time but mw asst arrived just before pushing. First was a long home labor followed by arriving at the hospital ready to push.)
 

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Ugh. I had back labor for the first too... I thought my back was breaking. And I didn't even realise how much it hurt until I had my second. Don't get me wrong, my second labor hurt like a big old hurty thing, but it wasn't even nearly as tough without the back labor.<br><br>
It was shorter, too; first baby took 13 hours total and 1 hour of pushing, second one took 4 hours total and 18 minutes of pushing. Not that I think it matters. I have this cracktastic theory that short labors are just an equal amount of intensity pushed into a shorter time-frame.
 

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My 2nd birth was in most ways easier than my first. My first was 28 hours of unmedicated pitocin labor and 5 hours of pushing. It was horrible.<br><br>
The second was only 4 hours of unmedicated pitocin labor and 5 minutes of pushing. It was great that I wasn't completely exhausted at the end, but it was so intense that I felt completely blindsided by his birth. I had no time to process.<br><br>
I'm hoping this next birth (my 3rd, at home) will be a perfect mix of the two. Obviously minus the pitocin! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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I don't think I can say! My 2nd hurt just as much as my first but was WAY shorter and WAY easier. But, I was in the hospital for my 1st and home for my 2nd and I know that had a lot to do with it. I'm not sure how much easier it would've been had I gone back to the hospital. Since you were already at home, I dunno! I bet it will be easier though.
 

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My second labor was harder than my first, but it was a much better birth experience anyhow - first was in hospital, second at home. Both natural and drug-free. DS2 was a LOT bigger than DS1 so I guess that might have made a difference.
 

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I'm praying that's how it goes for me.<br><br>
1st birth: Induced, 16 hours labor, 45 minutes pushing.<br>
2nd birth: Induced by midwife breaking water, 1 hr 40 minutes labor, 5 minutes pushing (if that).<br>
3rd birth: I'm hoping this baby is out in less than 2 hours as well. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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Each birth is different, though a first birth can be longer (and usually is, though not always).
 

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All of mine have been fairly similar in length, but different in other ways.<br><br>
1st: 4 hours total. Water broke first thing, then contractions started. 45 minutes of pushing<br><br>
2nd: 3.5 hours total. Water broke again, then contractions. 10 minutes of pushing.<br><br>
3rd: 1.5 hours. Water broke, contractions. 2-3 pushes.<br><br>
4th: 2.5 hours. Contractions started first this time. Water broke about 10 minutes before he was born. 2 pushes.<br><br>
5th: 3 hours. Water broke first (my usual pattern), then contractions (hard back labor). 1 push and he was born. He was posterior.
 

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first is most times a longer process. But often it is just the early labor that really is longer. Not the hard part.<br><br>
My first was very typical first labor.<br>
2nd was much shorter, easier, great birth.<br>
3rd, i expected nothing worse than the 2nd, i was so wrong, baby was much bigger-labor much longer, harder and delivery way more painful<br><br>
you really cant know
 
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