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My ds had corrective surgery for his meatal stenosis back when was 4, he is 7 now. The meatal stenosis is returning.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> Its not to the point where he needs surgery because he can pee but its deflected with a small stream. He isn't in pain. I'm so worried its going to get worse. So, I was wondering about a product called <a href="http://www.spenco-arch-supports.com/Spenco-2ND-SKIN-Bacterial-BarrierCircles-Non-Sterile--Green-Label-10-603_p_68-1535.html" target="_blank">second skin</a> and having my ds use it for protective purposes.<br><br>
I hesitate because, this is something else thats going to "mess" with his penis and I'm very reluctant to do that. I want him to feel normal, not a 7 yr old who will grow up recalling his parents having him put something on his penis every day until the day comes for him to decide weather or not to restore his foreskin, if thats what HE wants to do. He should reflect on his childhood as a very vibrant playful child. Would this interfere with that? Or would this be a legitimate routine that'll genuinely protect his meatus from further damage. I truly believe in the latter. But I just don't know. I really don't want his meatal opening to get worse than it is.<br><br>
What do you think?<br>
I'll understand if you think this is just really weird.<br><br>
I hope you'll understand my concerns and try to see why I'm even considering this.<br><br>
For those that don't know, my first was circ'd out of his parents (me and dh) ignorance and the evil doctor's greed. We know better now and have since had two other boys and left them as whole as God created them. Any other boys we have will also be left intact.
 

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I've never heard of this product. It might be okay, as long as it doesn't contain anything that would irritate the meatus. I would make sure it didn't have alcohol in it. Have you ever read a review (from another site) from someone who used it on the glans or did someone recommend this for your son (his doctor)?<br><br>
As far as your ds using it, you could just casually bring up that the product might help prevent what happened to him before and ask if he would want to use it daily. That way the decision could be his. And if he said yes, I doubt it would bother him at all using it since it would seem more like his choice (instead of mom worrying about his penis). It's late. I hope that made sense...<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">As far as your ds using it, you could just casually bring up that the product might help prevent what happened to him before and ask if he would want to use it daily. That way the decision could be his. And if he said yes, I doubt it would bother him at all using it since it would seem more like his choice (instead of mom worrying about his penis). It's late. I hope that made sense...<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment"></div>
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Makes perfect sense, and I completely agree. If he were having problems with any other body part, say blisters on his toes, it would be the same. But I've never heard of this product being used on the penis, so... I can't really comment there.<br>
There is an "undergarment" that I can't find the link to that is basically a stretchy silicone sleeve that fits over the penis. It is flesh colored and something he would be able to put on by himself and take off by himself. (I'll be back here as soon as I find it <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue">)<br><br>
But I don't think there is anything wrong with taking precautions to avoid another surgery. And your son is old enough to understand that <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up">
 

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You may want to look into the hydrogel discs that bf moms use. They are standard care for a lot of wounds and ulcerations. They are for use in healing those typesof wouunds and if it safe for the nipple than the penis is probably okay. Check with dr.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I've never heard of this product. It might be okay, as long as it doesn't contain anything that would irritate the meatus. I would make sure it didn't have alcohol in it. Have you ever read a review (from another site) from someone who used it on the glans or did someone recommend this for your son (his doctor)?<br><br>
As far as your ds using it, you could just casually bring up that the product might help prevent what happened to him before and ask if he would want to use it daily. That way the decision could be his. And if he said yes, I doubt it would bother him at all using it since it would seem more like his choice (instead of mom worrying about his penis). It's late. I hope that made sense...<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment"></div>
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Sure, that makes sense. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> Its made of a water based silicone. I bought the 200 (1 inch squares) count. I applied it on my own skin to test it out and its really soft and very moist. But its too small. I'm going to have to get the 48 (3 inch circles) count. It would really be ironic if it was one of those products actually made from infants foreskin. I made sure it wasn't. I boycott anything made from infant foreskin. ugh, I'm sick now from thinking about it. Your approach to this seems very logical. That makes this a whole lot easier.<br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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<div style="font-style:italic;">Makes perfect sense, and I completely agree. If he were having problems with any other body part, say blisters on his toes, it would be the same. But I've never heard of this product being used on the penis, so... I can't really comment there.<br>
There is an "undergarment" that I can't find the link to that is basically a stretchy silicone sleeve that fits over the penis. It is flesh colored and something he would be able to put on by himself and take off by himself. (I'll be back here as soon as I find it <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue">)<br><br>
But I don't think there is anything wrong with taking precautions to avoid another surgery. And your son is old enough to understand that <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up"></div>
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I think I know what product you're talking about. Is it called the senslip? Thats something specifically designed for an adult tho right?
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">You may want to look into the hydrogel discs that bf moms use. They are standard care for a lot of wounds and ulcerations. They are for use in healing those typesof wouunds and if it safe for the nipple than the penis is probably okay. Check with dr.</div>
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Wow, I didn't know nursing mothers using this on their sore nipples. Thats interesting. I did a search on hydrogel discs and found a site that sells 10 dressings for $53.00.. Thats pricey. I'll still look into it to see if I can't find anything cheaper. It definitely looks like a high quality product.<br><br>
About consulting a doctor, I actually thought about going to this very foreskin friendly urologist here in Fort Worth. There was thread here about her not long ago. I need to find her. I'm reluctant of all doctors to begin with, which is why I haven't gone to her already.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I think I know what product you're talking about. Is it called the senslip? Thats something specifically designed for an adult tho right?</div>
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Yep, that's the one. It comes in super small sizes as well. And you can pee while wearing it... Oh, and I'm pm'ing you <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Yep, that's the one. It comes in super small sizes as well. And you can pee while wearing it... Oh, and I'm pm'ing you <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"></div>
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Oh wow, thats really interesting. Thanks for the info. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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I origionally pm'ed this to fruitful-- and I'm posting it here because it's just not as radical of a concept as it first appears. And I think it could help out other mothers going through the same thing:<br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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Just didn't want to post that on the main forum because I feel strange recommending a tugging device for kids- even though, I know he has devices that aren't tugging....<br>
And I have a different view than many on the CAC forum. I think foreskin restoration is more like a corrective process. As in, if I were a parent that found out FGM was wrong and could be corrected, and it's not painful, I would encourage my daughter to do it. Ultimately, it would be her choice, but, especially if it were causing problems that could result in a later surgery-- well, I don't think that would give my kiddo a complex... it's preventative care.<br>
Gosh, I hope I'm making sense. It's such a delicate issue BECAUSE it is genitalia.</td>
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I have posted before about telling circ'ed sons to pull their remaining foreskin forward during the bath. Just to establish a habit that may help (in opposition to the doctor's advice of retract, retract, retract- which I believe does more harm and causes different types of "stretching growth")... anyway, please, don't flame me. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/shy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="innocent"> I really do believe it is a corrective measure, not something that will give a child a complex if their mother is worried about their penis. I worry about all of my dd's body parts at some point! I can see where it could cross lines (forcing your child), but I think it is important for parents to admit their mistakes and try to correct them-- especially when their child's health is at stake.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I origionally pm'ed this to fruitful-- and I'm posting it here because it's just not as radical of a concept as it first appears. And I think it could help out other mothers going through the same thing:<br><br><br><br>
I have posted before about telling circ'ed sons to pull their remaining foreskin forward during the bath. Just to establish a habit that may help (in opposition to the doctor's advice of retract, retract, retract- which I believe does more harm and causes different types of "stretching growth")... anyway, please, don't flame me. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/shy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="innocent"> I really do believe it is a corrective measure, not something that will give a child a complex if their mother is worried about their penis. I worry about all of my dd's body parts at some point! I can see where it could cross lines (forcing your child), but I think it is important for parents to admit their mistakes and try to correct them-- especially when their child's health is at stake.</div>
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I absolutely agree with you 100% thixle! I think people are afraid to talk about it b/c they're afraid of the reaction. I was. I certainly don't think you'd ever be flamed for this idea. I really do think this will help. If anything, this topic will stress the value of the foreskin of an intact boy. The ultimate function of the foreskin in a child is to protect the meatus. Distraught parents who have ds(s) with bare glans and deeply regret it will feel comfort in knowing there is an option to protect their ds's penis, I hope. This especially applies to the child who is vulnerable to meatal stenosis, the ones who have had corrective surgery in the past and the ones who's stenosis is threating to return.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Makes perfect sense, and I completely agree. If he were having problems with any other body part, say blisters on his toes, it would be the same. But I've never heard of this product being used on the penis, so... I can't really comment there.<br>
There is an "undergarment" that I can't find the link to that is basically a stretchy silicone sleeve that fits over the penis. It is flesh colored and something he would be able to put on by himself and take off by himself. (I'll be back here as soon as I find it <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue">)<br><br>
But I don't think there is anything wrong with taking precautions to avoid another surgery. And your son is old enough to understand that <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up"></div>
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Are you talking about this product?<br><br><a href="http://senslip.com/" target="_blank">http://senslip.com/</a>
 

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I know what you're talking about...second skin...like <a href="http://www.jnj.com/innovations/new_features/BANDAID_Brand_Liquid_Bandage.htm" target="_blank">liquid bandage</a>, right? If so I would strongly discourage using it anywhere near the genitals. I've heard that even on a cut it *really* stings.<br><br>
Or is it one of these products?<br><br><a href="http://www.spenco.com/products/category/secondskin" target="_blank">http://www.spenco.com/products/category/secondskin</a><br><br>
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<div style="font-style:italic;">I know what you're talking about...second skin...like <a href="http://www.jnj.com/innovations/new_features/BANDAID_Brand_Liquid_Bandage.htm" target="_blank">liquid bandage</a>, right? If so I would strongly discourage using it anywhere near the genitals. I've heard that even on a cut it *really* stings.<br><br>
Or is it one of these products?<br><br><a href="http://www.spenco.com/products/category/secondskin" target="_blank">http://www.spenco.com/products/category/secondskin</a><br><br>
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Oh goodness no! I wouldn't put liquid bandage on his genitals.<br><br>
The link to spenco is the product I'm speaking of.<br><br>
Isn't the liquid bandage made from infant foreskin?
 

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Uh uh on that product. I thought you were going to have him wear an artificial foreskin on his penis under his clothes (assuming the products would fit him). That might work.
 
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