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I was at the dr's office today waiting to see the nurse for my first visit. There was another mom there waiting to have her ultrasound. Apparently she knew the secretary from outside of the office because she was running her mouth and talking about getting ready for the baby and such. Okay, she wants these sheets for her nursery that are lime and hot pink. They're $389 right now, but someone told her that if she keeps tab on them, the price will fall.<br><br>
Okay, this is my second baby, and while I will duly admit to being very concerned about things like decorating the nursery and what type of diaper bag I was going to use when I was pregnant with my first, I hate to say it but this time my only real concerns are diapers (cloth) and getting a car seat. It's such a contrast it's almost laughable.<br><br>
I mean, you can tell when someone is a first time mom because they're stressing over all these trivial details that second time (and beyond) moms really don't care about. I do have a short list of things that I really would have loved to have with my first, such as a glider, but I have a pretty good idea of what I want.<br><br>
No offense to first time moms - I was a classic case myself. I'm just amused at the contrast this time around.
 

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Almost $400 for sheets? Sheets that will get puke and poop on them no less! That's insane. My big worry during my first pregnancy was that we wouldn't have the king size mattress set in time. We never had a nursery or even a crib, so the whole nursery thing is totally foreign to me...
 

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I have to laugh at myself everytime I think of this story:<br><br>
I was very pregnant and at Babies R Us grabbing anything and everything I thought one could possibly need for a babe. We got to the mobiles and I actually stood there and debated for like 10 minutes which mobile to get...the one without the remote or the one with the remote...because (and I actually said this) "if he wakes up during the night, you might just want to stand at the door and turn it on so you don't wake him up more." <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/biglaugh.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="laugh">:<br><br>
How many things are crazy about that sentence? <i>If</i> he wakes up at night? And hello! He is in bed with <i>me</i>! He never slept in the crib, used the mobile, stroller, or about 95% of what we bought that day. I was a crazy first time mama <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/nut.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="nut">
 

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I dunno Tana, I may defy your 1st time mama classic case scenario a bit. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/innocent.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="shy"> People keep trying to tell us how we're gonna need all this <b>stuff</b> and DH and I are just like, uh, yeah, no. We tend to be pretty minimalistic over this way and don't feel we need a lot of extra stuff in life in general.<br><br>
We've got blankets, some clothes, boobies, CDs, a sling and a bed. Not going to need that much more for squirmy here for a little bit. But I've never been interested in shopping or anything really so... <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/shrug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="shrug"> In fact, I'd have to say that I'm not stressing over the minor details at all. My panties get all up in a bunch when I feel that the care providers I'm seeing are trying to push things on me that I don't want or will try to micro manage my birth and make me get all <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/demon.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="demon"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/fencing.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="fencing">: <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/FIREdevil.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="devil"><br><br>
So all in all, I think it really depends on the person, not necessarily just cause they're a 1st time mama. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink">
 

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I hear ya Pageta. I know I was just like that as a first time mom (not spending that much $ of course!), but w/all the little fancy details. Now, as a 4th time mom to be, it's the bare essentials and nothing else.<br><br>
Another thing that always makes me smile is how well first babies are dressed - perfect little matching outfits, shoes, hair ribbons, etc. I tell people by the third baby, we are lucky she is clean, dressed, and somewhat matching!
 

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Well I was not the "typical" first time mom I guess. I bought things as we felt we needed them. I didn't even want to shop or have baby stuff in our house (dh was deployed so no one to share the joy with). The one thing that was important to me was the stroller/carseat, crib (we do not cosleep) and a diaper bag. I think the next baby ill be gaga over baby stuff because we wont be in Germany and he will be home.
 

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Yeah, I'm another atypical first-timer popping in to defend myself... lol... I really did very little shopping beforehand, and still don't understand the whole nursery thing. My kids don't get their own room for a few years. I like plain, simple clothes... mostly mine are hand-me-downs or bought second-hand. We were given a crib and gave it away before too long. No stroller, swing, bouncy seat, mobiles... the moses basket we were given was nice for bringing sleeping ds around the house with me
 

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I'm pregnant with my third. There is a difference.<br><br>
Mostly I have been busy checking out what I already have put away from my other two and what can be used for a boy (I have 2 dds.)<br><br>
My big thing is getting my CD stash ready. I didn't CD #1 at all, and only got smart with #2 when she was 17 months old! It has been tons of fun making all his dipes!
 

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I am actually kinda of peeved at the crap we thought we would need for dd. Luckily, I didn't buy alot of equiptment (walker, swings, jumper) but I could have banked alot of money if I knew then what I know now - but then again, if someone told me that I didn't need a crib, baby bath, pacifiers, disposables and all that other misc. crap I wouldn't have belived them.<br><br>
I still LOVE my glider however and it was the only non-neccessity that I actally used.
 

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I think in general, people around here are more trim to begin with. I mean, it could just as easily be a comparison of non-AP moms to AP moms. I didn't have the baby bucket, we only used our pack-n-play for traveling, I didn't get a bouncy seat or bottles or pacifiers (the latter two everyone said to buy one of every brand because you didn't know which one would work). But I still was a lot more concerned the first time around with all the "stuff" than I am this time. The contrast is just so laughable!
 

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Oh yeah...even after finding out we're having twins our "to get" list is sooooo much shorter and I'm so much more relaxed about checking every little box this time around. A few more CDs, a bigger co-sleeper, one more carseat, maybe a double stroller in awhile. That's about it!<br>
Of course, my SIL is pregnant with her first, so I get to be her primary sounding board for all the irrational junk that "everybody" decides you need for a new baby!
 

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Mamacatsbaby,<br>
DH and I were probably as minimalist as you the first time around. The most expensive thing we put on the baby registry was a $150.00 crib recommended in a Consumer Reports article. Of course we wound up co-sleeping but $150.00 still isn't all that expensive for the extra large glorified combination hamper / toy box it turned out to be.<br><br>
Even now that DD1 is 18 months old and DD2 is due in June their room still is a work in progress, to put it euphemistically. Although the crib does have a nice bedding set that MIL picked out and probably paid a whopping $60.00 for.<br><br>
I think we have our priorities straight.<br>
~Cath
 

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That is interesting... I definitely didn't fit pageta's description of a first time mom. I probably would have enjoyed it, but finances wouldn't have allowed all that frivolty. I was only concerned with having those things I *knew* for sure I would need and need often. I'm very glad I was in such a situation, having my budget so limited, because I have a much more temperate perspective on the "expense" of having a baby.<br><br>
My biggest concern this time is working to make sure I have the supplies I will find useful to work to EC with my baby. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> I also do want CDs for outings and things, but that's more moolah! We'll see. The only extra that I might like this time since we have a little more money is the glider... wanted one last timd and couldn't... still want it - so I think it's worth it to get something I STILL want two years later.
 

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I know what you mean. With my first, we decorated the nursery and all, only to have her never use that room since she taught us to co-sleep. This time we did the basics of clothing, diapers and car seat.
 

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Ha ha ha... We're expecting #3, and we've done little to nothing. As far as I'm concerned, getting a new carseat for T (so Z can have his and the baby can have Z's) is our "to do" list, and the rest is gravy. We didn't go that crazy the first time around, either, but of course, there *was* more acquiring of stuff (which we didn't have).
 

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I'm the complete opposite. I didn't think we needed anything for ds. DSis inlaw passed on all her kids baby clothes. We did get a cosleeper and car seat, eventually we got a sling. Sister inlaw sent us stuff like a sheepskin and other stuff she thought we needed, which was great. We had like 3 baby toys. Mother inlaw gave us all the family baby blankets. People would be like how are you decorating the nursery? Well, we lived in a 3 room apartment<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br>
Now, I'm like we need a Haba baby gym, a glider, maybe a little baby chair thing, a new sling, new clothes.....I don't know what's wrong with me!<br>
Maybe it's because we live in the city now as opposed to more rural? In any case, this time I'm making a list.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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I'm a little opposite, too. Last time everything seemed so expensive to me. Fifty bucks for a sling???<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/blush.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="blush"> I bought it all off of Ebay. Cheap used slings/clothes/sheets and tried making my own slings. This time I plan on buying two or three slings (I did a terrible job making my own, but felt compelled to use them because they were "mine") even if they do cost @fifty bucks. I want a good pouch, a patapum and a ring sling. I want to buy a whole years worth of outfits off of ebay/trading post even if I pay out 150 or more, in the long run I will save. I will be more willing to spend this time around.<br><br>
I think it is funny hearing mainstream mamas go gaga over things that seem crazy to me, though. 300+ sheets! You can buy a car for that! Craziness!
 

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The first time I was somewhat consumed with getting things for the baby, though there wasn't much to get! Initially I had this HUGE list of desperate needs, but as we made decisions, such as co-sleeping, the list got shorter and shorter.<br><br>
This time, I'm all about a good cloth diaper stash (I had to do laundry several times a day with my first because we couldn't afford a good supply... I think I had like 6 diapers total) and postpartum care products. I had NO CLUE last time how torn up I'd feel for weeks afterward! All I did was put pads in the freezer. This time I got the Earth Mama Angel Baby PP Kit, which gives me bottom spray, bottom balm, sitz bath herbs, aromatherapy spray, and PP support tea <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"> Oh yes, this time around, MAMA's getting pampered!
 
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