HI Janola,
I don't have the previous experience or scientific knowledge that you are probably looking for, but I identified with your situation so deeply, and wanted to send my kinship
One thing that I have tried to tell myself as I hope to embark on ttc #3 is that it's not statistically improbable to even have 2 losses. I've really struggled with fear that there is something wrong with me such that a 3rd loss is inevitable. There really is a good statistical reason why doctors don't treat us as recurrent until we've had 3 losses. However, that does little to quiet a mother's heart. Take good care of yourself mama, and I'll tell you what I wish others would say to me: Don't worry that you're worrying too much. Anyone who tells you that worrying is "making it worse" has forgotten how much every mother worries. And they're neglecting how little control one has about what you worry about. YOu don't need the extra stress about worrying that you're worrying too much
I don't have the previous experience or scientific knowledge that you are probably looking for, but I identified with your situation so deeply, and wanted to send my kinship

One thing that I have tried to tell myself as I hope to embark on ttc #3 is that it's not statistically improbable to even have 2 losses. I've really struggled with fear that there is something wrong with me such that a 3rd loss is inevitable. There really is a good statistical reason why doctors don't treat us as recurrent until we've had 3 losses. However, that does little to quiet a mother's heart. Take good care of yourself mama, and I'll tell you what I wish others would say to me: Don't worry that you're worrying too much. Anyone who tells you that worrying is "making it worse" has forgotten how much every mother worries. And they're neglecting how little control one has about what you worry about. YOu don't need the extra stress about worrying that you're worrying too much
