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Our family has recently made the transition from dd (23mos) nursing to sleep, and nursing back to sleep at each night-waking, to having dh put her down and soothe her back to sleep at night. This happened without a whole lot of tears (she accepted dh much better after I slept in the other room, and after a few nights I was able to come back to the family bed with no problem). Over all, everyone is getting a lot more sleep because she wakes SO much less at night, or at least, when she does wake up, she just goes right back to sleep because she isn't expecting to nurse. (By the way, I do not regret in any way nursing her to sleep for her first 21 mos of life! It worked great for us for a long time, but we were all ready for a change.)<br><br>
Anyway, the "problem" is that now it takes sooooo long for her to go to sleep!!! My dh will literally lie in the dark with her for over an hour, and this is after at least a half hour of quiet play, nursing, getting into pj's, reading stories, saying prayers, singing lullabies... I mean, this kid has a sweet bedtime routine, one that we are fairly consistent with, and yet it still takes her forever to actually give it up and go to sleep. We've tried messing with the bed time (a little earlier, a little later) and this girl is tired by the time she's going down. Perhaps she's to tired...? She goes down between 7-8...<br><br>
So my question is, how did your family make the adjustment to having your dc fall asleep without a parent? At what point is it reasonable to think that we could work toward putting her to bed awake, and leaving her? We do the family bed, so we don't have the issue of her waking up in an environment different from the one in which she fell asleep. I know that each child is different, but I think I would be really encouraged by hearing stories of other families and how you made the transition to having your child fall asleep on her own. We would really love to have some couple time in the evenings, and as it is right now my dh spends 1.5-2 hours each night putting her down. This is hard for us.
 

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Well, IMO, if I'm spending an hour getting her to sleep, then "bedtime" needs to be an hour later. We 100% follow baby's cues here - tonite they may be tired at 9 p.m., tomorrow it may not be til midnight. Just like me.<br><br>
Anywho, I digress.... of three children, I've never ever put one of them to bed awake or drowsy. Doesn't answer your question, I know - but they ALL "self-weaned" - got an independent streak - around 2 years old or so, where they no longer wanted rocked/cuddled to sleep. Then they began crawling up on the couch and passing out on our laps, or on the floor in their bean bag chair, or sometimes asking to go to their beds.<br><br>
I guess my answer is - you don't have to do anything - they'll do it all. In the meantime, enjoy the time cuddling and loving your baby to sleep. As the mom of a now-teenager too, I can tell you that you will miss this time! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"><br><br>
Hugz, and good luck.
 
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