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My gut told me not to take ds to 9 month check up but I did it anyway. I told the nurse practitioner I was (at the very least) delaying vaccinations and was especially not comfortable with the 5-in-1 they give at their practice (DTaP, IPV, Hep B). She was somewhat understanding but for some reason got the doctor anyway who proceeded to question my intelligence, research, concern for my son, etc. I stood firm but that really hurts you know? So we're looking for a more "crunchy family friendly" doctor/nurse/ped in our state (MO) but it's very disheartening. I don't want to hate all doctors but between my experiences with OBs and pediatricians I'm just about there!<br><br>
I feel like a strongly worded letter is in order but I don't think I should write it today!!!
 

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I've heard that Family Practitioners tend to be less pushy than Peds and OBs.
 

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So sorry you had to deal with this!
 

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I hate their tactics,<br><br>
when I gave birth to my youngest in 2002, I declined all the routine hosp procedures and they couldn't stand it. The ped on call drilled first my husband than me about declining the vit k and eye goop. It was now 2 hours after my son was born and she was telling me the importance of administering the eye goop within the first hour after birth or it would not be effective (I wonder if she had a reference for that statement!), I looked at the clock and advised her it was now 2 hours after he was born, so that takes care of that one! She didn't miss a beat, went straight on to her argument for the vit k. She even had the gall to ask me if I cared about my baby!!! I guess she didn't take into consideration the time I put into reading about these procedures, looking up my state laws, printing out 5 copies of each birth plan that included the laws AND the waiver info......<br><br>
we finally agreed that I would read the inserts for both,<br><br>
when she came back, I pointed out to her that in each insert it stated NOT TO GIVE if allergic to any of the components.<br><br>
"How do you know if he is allergic to any of this, he was just born?"<br><br>
She didn't have much to say after that, other than she didn't agree, and then went on to sick the hospital social worker on me, at 9:00 in the evening!<br><br>
The social worker basically told me they (hospital staff) get bent out of shape when someone goes against their normal procedures, apologized for even being there, and went on her way.<br><br>
Bottom line, the majority of these people don't know squat about the procedures they are performing, other than it's what they are told to do. And when you decline them, they are at a loss.
 

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I just switched too. Not only over the vax issues but over general incompetence.<br><br>
Good luck in your hunt. You can probably find referrals from someone here.<br><br>
Dont know if you have one where you live, but go to the Christian Blue Pages and find a Dr. Even if you arent a Christian ( or are) if the Dr is a Christian I think he will be more open to your philosophical disagreements with vax. That is the route i took. And i really like our new Dr. When i told him of my vax concerns he said he understood but had to give me both sides of the story and then let me make my mind up. He just had to present the info. I wanted to hug him for that. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br>
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What a crappy visit <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"><br><br>
Amy that is great that you like the new one!<br><br>
We went at 4 months and haven't been back. It's just not worth the time, stress and anxiety on our family to take my well child to a ped.
 

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<span style="font-size:300%;">((((HUGS))))</span><br><br>
Good for you standing your ground!!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up"><br>
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Whoa, for a minute when I read the thread title I was afraid I was going to read that you gave in and let your DS get the shots!<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up"> Good for you for being strong and standing up for yourself and your son! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/banana.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="banana"><br><br>
Your now ex-doctor sounds like a real gem. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/shake.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="shake">
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/grouphug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="grouphug"> i think you need a group hug! so here's one from me, dd, & dh! we've had bad experiences with peds too! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/eyesroll.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="roll"> cheers to you for standing up for your beliefs! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/bow.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="bow">
 

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I was also afraid I was going to open and see they bullied you into it. A great big <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up"> for staying strong! You're the mama. You know what's best for your baby.<br><br>
Hold your head high mama!<br><br>
-Angela
 

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Sara, this is the most important thing you can do for your child. Where possible, never go anywhere without knowing your stuff. Of course they will question your intelligence and everything else.<br><br>
But read the thread called "Bunch of tossers!" and remind them that the majority of advice that they have given over the years has proven to be wrong, and superceded with other advice, which may well prove to be wrong again. They just have their heads in the sand. It's quite extraordinary actually, that they can't see that with their history of incorrect advice, they haven't a foot to stand on questioning your integrity. Their integrity isn't exactly gliche free.
 

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Phew! I held my breath reading your post, I'm so glad that you didn't let them bully you. It is so hard, isn't it. They just make you question your gut, don't they? Your baby's very lucky to have such a strong mamma. Good luck finding a new doc! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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I too, just wanted to pop in and say good for you for standing your ground! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up">
 

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Much congratulations to you, I thought you had bowed to the pressure too. I don't know how to say this w/o being patronizing, but, I am so proud of you. The same thing happened to me, and now I have a vax damaged child. After one vax.<br><br>
Much love to you!!!<br>
Amy
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Whoa, for a minute when I read the thread title I was afraid I was going to read that you gave in and let your DS get the shots!<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up"> Good for you for being strong and standing up for yourself and your son! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/banana.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="banana"><br><br>
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Ditto!!!! WTG for not giving in but standing your guard. That must've been so draining....and enraging!! Lots of hugs!
 

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Way to go not giving in! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up"><br><br>
We fired our doc too, he was a GP. but not ours anymore. We don't have another one yet, but a new clinic opened up close by so we will be trying that out next time we need to go. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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Yay for not giving in! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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Great job I know how you feel, between general lack of thought on their part and over stepping their role as your "employee" it can make anyone crazy take a deep breath and hug your dc and think of what you saved them from!
 

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good job NOT giving in!<br>
better then i did...my last ped, whom i interviewed before hiring him and told him i would delay some and not get other vaccines, somehow ended up strong arming me into getting SEVERAL for my 3 kids that i didnt want to.<br>
I now see a different doc/practice all together.<br>
but it is SOOOO hard to stand up to these docs, especially when they are complete arrogent a-holes!<br>
congrats!
 
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