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I've been thinking about this since I stumbled on a Baby Story where the family started to deliver at 23 weeks (I'll be 23 weeks tomorrow) and they were able to hold off until 24 weeks. They were told the child only had about a 5% chance to survive. But the child did survive and was quite rambunctious as they were expecting a new child, a year or so later.

I know money shouldn't be so high in my mind, but now that the bankruptcy laws have changed, and you can't file on medical bills, I'd be more hesitant to go this early because the chance of survival is so low. And I can see myself after losing a few weeks' struggle, and the nasty collections and garnishing of wages constantly reminding me of the struggle to save my child and the anguish I'd feel for years afterward, trying to pay off those bills on top of the grief of loss.

I think I've come to terms with the fact that not every baby makes it, and not every pregnancy ends perfectly, finally. I think I'd wait a little more to do anything if my body began to end the pregnancy... I've thought about the tiny babies at the hospital with all the tubes and the needles, and the fact that the smallest ones are so unlikely to live. Sometimes I wonder just because we CAN do something - like intervene with extremely early deliveries - if we necessarily SHOULD... Lower chances of survival, higher chances of illnesses and diseases, being on tubes and needles for the first several months of life, and not feeling much comfort and nurturing because of the dangers of the outside world. This must have some kind of effect even in the long term...

My mothering instincts of course never want to be in that situation to begin with, but yeah, the "what ifs" are there...
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