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Back in the day, I had a few friends whose parents slept in different bedrooms or beds. I remember thinking "how awful!" Well, guess what?<br>
Me and my hubby do exactly that!<br>
We have a spare room and he sleeps there most nights and our son sleeps with me in our king size bed!<br>
For us, this is a good option. Our son wakes up every hour or 2 and there is no sense in both of us being kept awake. Besides, I breastfeed him to sleep, so daddy can't help calm him down back to sleep.<br>
I know if I told my friends or family of this sleeping arrangement they might jump to certain conclusions. "No sex" being the top one!<br>
Well, we do have sex. It just doesn't happen at night!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/loveeyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Loveeyes">:<br>
Do you sleep in separate beds with your SO?
 

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Dh and I haven't slept in the same bed for a w hile. He is very restless, and both my babes are light sleepers. You dont' have to sleep in the same bed to be husband and wife, you know? I tell everyone who question me that! I say, however all of you get the best sleep and babes are taking care of. We actually sleep in the same room, we have cal king bed and a queen up next to it <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/bag.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Bag">: A lot of rolling room, but the queen is slightly lower so DH doesn't disturb our sleep
 

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That is exactly how my dh and I do things...<br><br>
Instead of creating a nursery for our babies to sleep alone like so many other families do...we instead created a spare room for "nurturing" our relationship... <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
It works great for us...<br><br>
That is how we do things while I am nursing and co-sleeping...<br><br>
That is how many families work in other parts of the world...<br>
It seems strange here...but, in many parts of the world it makes perfect sense!<br><br>
Why have both the mom and dad up all night and both being tired...<br><br>
This way my dh gets the rest he needs to work the next AND take care of his wife and family and home....<br><br>
We have three children and have been married for twelve years....obviously we are not lacking in the sex or relationship department because of it....I can make things more difficult at times (It would be nice sometimes to sleep together) but, just as in other areas of parenting...sometimes the kids have to come first...and we have all of our lives to sleep together....<br><br>
~Charlene~
 

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Once DD #2 was born we gradually did come to sleep in separate beds more often than not. Someone usually sleeps with DD#1 and someone else sleeps with DD#2. We usually end up switching off during the night. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">: Sometimes we do actually sleep together and once in a great blue moon we even sleep together in one bed while the children sleep together in another bed. But it's a rare thing and neither of us really have a problem with how things are. We'll be moving soon and the girls are going to be getting a new neat bed that can be either a full bed, or twin beds or a bunk bed and we're definitely going to be trying out the sibling bed a bit more. If they go for it great and if not then I'm sure we'll keep things like they are. It works for us.
 

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And I thought that I was alone in this. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> Most nights, dh and ds end up in one bed in one room and dd and I end up in another bed in another room. There are times when we literally are a family bed but with only having a queen sized bed and our two being 4 and 6.5 yrs...its just not really comfy anymore. Plus, dd and I are both morning people. Even when I am not on the day shift, I am awake no later than 7am. Dh and ds are both night owls...an early bed time for them is 1 or 2am. So splitting the way that we do actually helps everyone involved.
 

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Dh sleeps on a separate mattress, DS is a TERRIBLE sleeper and DH is a roller and a bouncer and fidgeter in bed.<br><br>
I used to encourage him to go into another room to get some sleep...he's the one going into work in the morning, but he wants to be with me and the baby.. lately he's been very happy because the baby will sleep deep enough on his first "leg" of sleep for DH to come onto our bed and snuggle up with the baby in his arms sleeping... something he's been waiting for since the wee one was born. He's also looking forward to #2 popping out so that #1 will be snugged up to him at night instead of me <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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We slept in separate beds until a couple of weeks ago when we upgraded to a king. I really wanted all of us to sleep together again, so that both me and DD could have more intimacy with DH. There are days when he wont see DD since he works late, so it is nice for him to be there at night when she rolls over and wakes up momentarily.
 

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i sleep in one room with the baby and dh sleeps in another with the toddler!<br>
we have another bedroom for 'us time' but it only has a single bed!
 

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That's us. Except I sleep with an almost 1-1/2 year old toddler and dh sleeps with a 4 year old child. Sometimes dh gets upset and says he misses sleeping with me but it's more that he misses the intimacy. He doesn't complain if we've recently made time for each other. That's what the guest room is for. We just don't tell the guests <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"> When I go to bed it's to sleep so it's not really a big deal for me. Dh and I spend a lot of time in the evening together. It does feel a little funny when we stop outside the two bedroom doors, give each other a kiss, say good night and sneak into different beds <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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I sleep with dh and kiddies.<br><br>
We have 2 king size beds next to eachother <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">
 

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dh starts out with us and then moves to the spare bed in the attic <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment"> he snores like crazy and im a light sleeper now, with db. if he didnt move, i'd never sleep!
 

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DH snores so I can't sleep with him or I wouldn't get any sleep. If I am going to be sleep deprived, it's gonna be because of DS. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"><br><br>
DS sleeps in the bed with DH. When he stops snoring I will move back to the family bed.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I sleep with dh and kiddies.<br><br>
We have 2 king size beds next to eachother <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"></div>
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Oooh don't you love it? We have Cal.king and a queen. I guess it's not so much separate, but I think of it that way because DH doesn't roll around disturbing us. He was sleeping on the king and us on the queen till I thought...why the heck are you on that huge thing by yourself?? I made him switch although he didn't like it at first <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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It's me and the dc in our king, and dh gets a twin on the side near me...it used to be a double, but I downsized his bed, as I'm expecting dc#3 and wanted more room for baby stuff! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> He's adjusted. I got him new sheets, memory foam padding and a soft comforter..he says it's nicer than the king now....<br><br>
I think he just prefers not waking up to a toddler trying to lay on your head while you sleep! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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I booted the husband out to the sleeper couch downstairs last month. Between his snoring and Abby's teething, I wasn't getting any sleep, and he wasn't getting sleep from my poking at him to stop snoring.<br><br>
This is better. I get Abby down, and go visit him downstairs for a while to chat or something. She's usually good for about half an hour when I first get her down, so when she's about to wake up, I go back upstairs.<br><br>
If I have a problem getting Abby to stay down, I wake him up to take a turn walking her around to wear her down.<br><br>
It works.
 

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We have been sleeping separatly for awhile now. I sleep in a single bed in dd's room, and dh and dd sleep in our bedroom. I EP, and kept waking them up when I pumpied. Then dd wouldn't go back to sleep. So we all were getting next to zero sleep. So they gave me the boot. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> They get to snuggle all night together, and I get to sleep alone. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/gloomy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Gloomy">:
 

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I'm in the king with a 8m old and 2.5yr old and hubby is in a full size in his bedroom. It works for us, even before children we had seperate rooms. I like to read all night and he likes to snore. I like to be tucked between two sleeping babes while I dig into a good book in the lovely quiet of night.
 

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DH sleeps in "our" room with DD and I sleep in the kids' room with the baby in a full size bed. When DH leaves for work DD often gets up and sleepily comes in and joins us so all 3 of us wake up next to each other DD LOVES it. I find she is much nicer to her brother on the days when she comes in and we all wake up together.<br>
When DS gets older I am hoping they can share a bed b/c we only have a 2 bedroom apartment.
 

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We have a queen and twin pushed up together in the same room. DS and I sleep on the queen, and DH sleeps on the twin. DS is all over the bed at night and the slight difference in height between the beds usually keeps DS from pushing DH off the bed (sometimes I wake up to find DS sleeping in the crack between the beds though LOL.) Since he's in a separate bed DH rarely wakes up at night unless DS is actually crying, but he's close enough to help me if I need it, and he loves sleeping close to DS.<br><br>
Before we added the twin bed, DH and I were both getting pushed off the edges of the bed by DS's rolling and thrashing, and nobody was getting any sleep.
 

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DH and I sleep separately sometimes. Right now, he's mostly sleeping with DD, because she's been having nightmares and doesn't want to sleep alone. I'm pregnant and really uncomfortable at night and I can't sleep with her-- I get no sleep at all-- but DH and DD do really well together. So they get the futon, and I have the big bed. For awhile, when DD was tiny, DH slept in the family room, too, while I slept with DD, because he was so massively sleep deprived and having trouble at work because of it. And I'm sure once the twins arrive, we'll be sleeping in all kinds of crazy locations, just so that all of us can GET some sleep.<br><br>
I don't worry about it. It's all temporary, until my kids are older, and our relationship is fine.
 
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