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DS is 9 mo old & we are all back to not getting much sleep at night. Basically, he wakes around 3:30-4am & as soon as he cries (or shortly after) either me or dh goes to him and picks him up. As soon as he is picked up from his crib, he falls alseep. 10 or so minutes after being placed back in his crib, he wakes and cries again, and the process repeats until one of us ends up holding him in a chair in his room just to get him to sleep without waking until morning. We thought it was teething, but he really doesn't seem in discomfort. But on a couple nights that we've given him motrin b/c teething pain seems bad when he goes down for night, he's slept until 6 or 7am without any wakings/crying.<br><br>
During the day, he naps in his crib w/out issue. Co-sleeping does not work for us, so that's not an option. any ideas of what we should perhaps be doing differently so that we'll all start getting better sleep??
 

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I don't really have any suggestions, but I can totally relate. Dd just turned a year old and up until she was about 8 months, she slept through the night. Once she started teething, she started waking more at night. She does still have teeth coming in, but it isn't the constant teething like it was at first, yet she still wakes numerous times at night and won't stay asleep. I've slept many a night in the rocking chair. We do semi co-sleeping, meaning the girls fall asleep in our bed, we move them to their bed after they are asleep. When dd3 wakes during the night, most of the time I just bring her to my bed to nurse, that is the only way we both get some sleep, otherwise we are both miserable. Sometimes I will move her back to her bed once she is good and asleep, other times I just curl up next to her and go to sleep myself.<br><br>
It could just be teething, or maybe you should try finding some sort of self soothing thing for him - like a blanket or stuffed animal or something. I'm not much help, I'm sorry. I hope you are able to get some much needed sleep soon <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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My ds3 is like this right now. He is 8 months and for about the last month and a half he has been waking about twice a night. It started about the time that those darned top teeth started working their way down. The second top one popped through last Thursday and he slept through the night that night, but it only lasted one night. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/eyesroll.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="roll"> Of course, I had to go in and wake him to feed him at around 4:30 cause my boobs were busting! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">:<br><br>
This seems to be a pretty common occurance among the moms at my bfing support group. I think it starts with the teeth, but continues on for a variety of reasons. My ds will turn 9 months in a couple weeks and he is becoming much more active. He really wants to crawl, but isn't quite there yet. He is much more of a little person and less of a baby. Now when he wakes up at night, he knows he's in there alone, and that if he cries, I'll come in and feed and cuddle him. My mom would say that he's manipulating me <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">: and if using what language and abilities you have to share your needs and wants is "manipulating," than I suppose that he is. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/eyesroll.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="roll"> I don't really care what his reasons are, he seems to need me at night and I am happy to oblige (Okay, honestly, I'm not really happy about it in the wee hours of the morning, but you know what I mean.) We also don't co-sleep due to bed issues (mine is way to soft and we had to quit co-sleeping at six months when he began to prefer sleeping on his stomach -- it was a major suffication hazzard. His crib is round and can't be sidecarred and frankly doesn't even fit in our bedroom.)<br><br>
It stinks, but it seems to be pretty common.<br><br><br><br>
Neither of my other boys did this. One slept through from four months on, and the other never slept through. Does anyone know when this waking phase ends??????? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">
 

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It's comforting to know that we're not alone with the wakings...<br>
We used to have ds' crib in our room, but he kept waking everytime we came to bed. So we moved it to his room & for about a month his sleep improved.<br>
I think it must be related to teething. No teeth yet, but an opening in his gums where i can feel a tooth coming.<br>
For whatever reason, he slept no problem last night all the way until 6:30am (yeah!!).<br>
But when he wakes at night, i agree with you - he's not manipulating, he's just communicating. And i can't NOT go to him...<br>
sigh, i do wonder when (or...if?) sleep will become a reliable thing again.
 

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We co-sleep, but my almost-9-month-old screams and cries when I sneak out of bed to go to the bathroom. Last night it was so bad that he woke screaming when I turned over in my sleep! I freaked out b/c it has been getting worse for a couple of weeks now. He cries all the time, even when I hold him. Just wanted to let you know you are not alone.
 
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