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We went thru really serious separation anxiety when dd was around 18 months.<br><br>
Dd is now almost 3. I work extremely part time (around 10 hrs a week) and leaving to go to work has been brutal lately. Dd has same caretaker (except we moved this summer, so caretaker comes to us, not us to them). She stayed with her beloved auntie and cousins (who she sees every couple of days or so) and her even more beloved grandma the past few days and it was just as bad. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/mecry.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="crying"><br><br>
She's just hysterical when I leave, I feel terrible and am almost in tears myself. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"><br><br>
Is the "almost 3 yr old" anxiety normal? Please tell me it will pass soon.
 

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really, only us?
 

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My dd is only 18 months, so I can't offer any helpful experience for your dd's age group, but I saw that you've had no replies, and i just had to say that it is NOT just you all--I STILL remember going to nursery school at 3 and 4 yo and staring at the kids who evidenced horrible sep anxiety at the door with the parents parting. There were plenty. (and this is at a daycare that I remember loving, so not the dc's fault! ) (btw--funny that I remember watching other kids do this, without such behavior myself, imagine my surprise when my dd starting showing EXTREME sep anxiety when she was 8 mos and 12 mos.)<br><br>
You are not alone, hope someone else chimes in mama!
 

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awww, thanks for your thoughtful response. it's really difficult and I kinda thought we were through it. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">
 

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My DD has basically had the same experience that your DD has. She had a lot of separation anxiety around 12-18 months then it seemed to get better for awhile and now at almost 3.5 years, it's back. I left her, being pulled off my leg while screaming, at daycare the other day. She talks about how she's going to enjoy daycare (she only goes 2 days a week, she'd been out for a month and I was really late to work so couldn't stay for a long time to help her adjust - I did stay for about 10 minutes though) and then we get there and it's soooo hard for her to leave me. She's even been upset/reluctant to leave when I drop her off at her grandmother's house... and she absolutely LOVES to go to her grandmother's house.<br><br>
It's really hard. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/hug2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Hug2"><br><br>
Unfortunately, I don't have any pearls of insight or wisdom to share - just empathy!
 
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