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DS (will be one on the 17th) has been needing me to hold him nearly constantly lately. That doesn't bother me as I have quite a few slings, pouches and mei tais, but recently he has started freaking out whenever even DH has him. I SAH with him and so am better able to read his cues and respond to him so I'm sure that has something to do with it, but I'm really worried that it's going to affect DS and DH's relationship. DH is totally dejected about it and lately when Collin needs something (to be changed, picked up, etc) DH will just say "Jess, you better do it...he isn't going to want me anyway." I don't want them to drift apart...Collin has always been such a daddy's boy!!!<br><br>
Help, anyone...
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> I don't have any advice, sorry. However, I do know that my husband's little cousin went through that exact same thing around 1 or 2 years. She wouldn't have anything to do with her Daddy. She is now three and loves her dad more than ever! She loves to cuddle with him on the couch. It sounds like a bummer for you both right now, but it is most likely just a phase.<br>
Another couple that I know was going through the same thing and her dad would basically try to force her to let him hold her while her mom would hide so that she was out of view. Didn't seem like such a good idea to me because I thought the little one might grow to resent her dad even more....<br>
It's a tough one. I'm sure you are both handling it well and just be reassured that it's a phase. I wouldn't doubt if it happens a lot with SAH moms just because mommy is with her babe so much (which is a good thing!) <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up">
 

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It's a natural phase, as painful as it can be for the dad. Give it time, try not to pay too much attention to it, and especially try not to force "daddy time" which will only freak out your babe and it won't make your DH feel better. Just take it in stride. It will pass, although it probably doesn't feel like that now. Good luck, and hang in there!
 

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My son is a week younger than yours, and is going through something similar. Mine has always been very much a mama's boy, but, over the last few months, he has started wanting his dad more. This past week, he's gotten pretty good at walking, and, at the same time, has become very clingy with me. I have noticed his separation anxiety going through strong and weak periods. I think it's just a phase.<br><br>
I hope your dh doesn't get too disheartened.
 

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I feel the same way as you about the DH. My DS is starting to do the same thing and he's only 6 month!<br><br>
I guess we just have to hang in there...I'm sure every baby goes through this phase and worked out fine.<br><br>
I love the attachment I get from DS but sometime it does get annoying...<br><br>
hang in there!
 
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