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My almost 13 month old daughter is having some trouble with being seperate from me. This isn't for long extensive periods of time, since I stay home with her. It is when I need to go to the bathroom, cook dinner, and other daily household tasks. I wear her in a sling most of the time. She use to be a great sleeper, and would nurse to sleep and sleep the whole night. Now she will nurse to sleep, but wakes up shortly after I put her down to sleep. It breaks my heart to hear her scream, I don't believe in letting her cry it out. What does anyone suggest. I try reassuring her that I'll be only a minute, during the day. I know that this is the beginning of the time when children start to get upset when seperate from mother, but as I said before I am not ever away. Any suggestions!!!???
 

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When my babies suddenly become very clingly like that, they often are about 24hours away from a cold, a tooth, a big developmental milestone, or a week-long growth spurt with lots of sleep/nursing/carrying.<br><br>
They get heavy about this time! Do you have a nice framed backpack? They're worth the investment to get a good quality one. Some days I wear the toddler a lot on my back - I can get a lot more done than when he's on my hip.
 

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My ds was just like that. He's 26 months now and I JUST YESTERDAY posted a post stating how I was so glad I endured the first year + of his life to help him to be who he is becoming now. Meaning... I held him most of the time. He came to the bathroom with me and slept on top of me. He was sucha high needs infant and my first. I just did what he seemed to NEED and that was HOLD HIM ALL THE FREAKIN' TIME! But, now at 2+, He ASKED to go to his Gram's house and stayed for about 4 1/ 2hours on the first time! And since, he's not cried of fussed once about being seperated from. So, I guess to each in his/her own time. It's us Mama's that need a little more hand holding during those difficult times!<br>
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benjalo~ I do have a framed pack that I could carry her on my back. I also just ordered a freehand mei tai. Hopefully when that gets here it will be easier to carry her and get things done. I keep thinking she's gonna start cutting a tooth, but nothing has popped up yet. I guess they must just be making their way up.<br><br>
Edamommy~Thanks for the reassuarance. My daughter has always been an easy child. I guess that's why this seems so strange to me. But, they do change and grow, and I can help her through it!<br><br>
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mother nurture I remember at that time dd going through that. It didn't last, but it did come back and it still does. At that time I don't know what task was ahead, but after about 18 months I could always see some task budding. Even now at 2 1/2 when she gets super clingy like that something is going on. The last was heavy duty imaginary play. Somehow it's easier to tolerate when I know something cool is about to happen...<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> I second benjalo on getting some sort of carrier...sling, pack, whatever! I slung dd until she was 2 regularly (and she's huge!) and now very very occasionally.
 

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BAbybugmama,<br>
I carry my daughter in a sling all the time (out, around the house, etc.) and have since she was born. It is so hard doing dishes and other stuff like that with her on my hip, and I don't feel comfortable having her in the back with a sling. That's why I got a mei tai!<br><br>
I guess the hardes is when I have to go to the bathroom. I bring her in with me and try to give her toys, but she isn't so interested in them. She always comes up to me and tries to climb on me. Sometimes I even hold her, but that can only last so long.<br><br>
Thanks again, everyone for all the advice!!
 

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I often wish I had branched out with my carrier format. At this point I really don't carry dd that much and when I do it's often on my shoulders. Does a mei tai allow her to be on your back? I am clueless when it comes to carriers...I just know the basic slings that I had. That's why when I suggested carriers I was suggesting whatever works for you.<br><br>
Bathroom - there were many times at that age that dd sat on my lap while I went potty. As she has gotten older I have read her a story while going potty and frankly I have learned the art of going really fast :LOL<br><br>
You're right though, it will only last so long.<br><br>
BTW...I love your username!
 
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