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For those who take a pro-active approach to sex education:

I've always been pretty up front and honest w/ds (age 8) about sex, reproduction, etc. (And, I guess I'm weird, but it never really bothered me.) Anyway, I found out he tried to find YouTube videos by searching under "Sex."

I asked him what he was wondering about, and asked him about what he saw. He said he saw nothing; "I have to sign in to see anything. All I saw was a video about safe sex!" My first thought was, yay, youtube!

So, he asked about condoms, female condoms, etc. I wanted to show him a regular condom, and realized I don't have one! And I didn't think there was anyway to show how a female condom works... you know, I don't keep "props" around the house. LOL


Anyway, I thought, hey, I'll call Planned Parenthood. I've heard of lots of mommas who take their daughters there to talk about birth control. And they have props!

So, I call the local PP to set up an appointment. The receptionists says, "Well, I know we do that for girls, but I don't know if we offer it for boys. Let me check w/ my manager."

What??
Don't boys make up the other part of the "unplanned pregnancy/ STD" equation? Granted, my ds probably won't be all that fascinated about the Nuva ring or anything, but I think it's pretty important for both genders to know how to use a condom!

In any event, she said that it was ok, I could bring him in. But, like, am I out of line? Is there something wrong with taking my ds to planned parenthood? Did I miss something?

I could always go get a box of condoms and a cucumber, I suppose, but I think the check-out clerk will think I'm a pervert!
 

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I loaded up my step son with pamphlets a while ago. They had quite a few skewed to boys. What young men need to know about.... birth control - your body - pregnancy all that kind of thing. Hopefully the girl who answered just doesn't know what they do for boys but they DO have something. That would be dissapointing.
 

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I am disturbed that PP was so unprepared for the boys. Hell, giving the information to them early and pre-empting any crap from friends is almost more important that doing the classes for the girls. Boys transmit some of the diseases more easily than girls and are more likely to refuse protection and have misinformation. You've given me a great idea and I will calling the local PP very soon about my son.
 

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age eight? wow! thats pretty young but these days who knows! I've been on youtube to see what my kids have access to there is no porn videos but there is nudity! Anyways, at age eight (i dont know how curious your child is) but i think I would just show him the basic concepts. He probably wont understand everything they are saying. I would say definatly a great idea when he gets a couple years older. Thats just my opinion thought, its better to be safe then sorry!

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I wouldn't say that PP in general is unprepared for educating boys. It just sounds like that particular receptionist was kind of clueless. For all you know that was her 2nd day at PP and simply wasn't yet aware of most of what PP has to offer. Or maybe that particular PP just didn't get a lot of boys coming in for sex ed- not that it isn't offered, just that it's never been requested.
 

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My brother had a hard time with Plan Parenthood and the welfare system. He was trying to get a vasectomy and he got the run around.

I found litature was scant on male reprodcution from them.
I think some of this goes into the mentality girls need to be protected boys will figure it out
 

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I wonder if it's just that most folks don't bother to educate their sons the way they educate their daughters. Women are still stereotyped as the sexual gatekeepers.

In any case, it's great that you're talking to your son and that he feels ok asking you things.
 

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I agree that they should do it for boys. Perhaps the lady at PP just meant that they didn't have anything for boys as young as your son is. I think 8 is a bit young for "that" much information but maybe it's just me. I talk to mine about stuff at home, age appropriate ofcourse. I'm thinking PP probably does offer education to "older" boys, more of the age when they are actually more likely to have sex.
 

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Well, I agree, I never thought that I'd be explaining birth control options to an 8 YO. But, since he brought it up, I figured I'd run with it now while he feels comfortable learning it from me.

My big fear is that as a pubescent young man he'll be too embarrassed to come to me. He could go to his dad, but he's not really the role model for family planning! (Started at age 19, 3 children with 2 different women, etc.) And I don't want him to learn from his peers. I feel fine starting now, and maybe when he's 12 or so, he'll want to go back for a review, who knows.

I talked to my fiance, my ex-H (ds's dad), and even my ex-MIL (who's still very involved in Eric's life), and we all agreed it would be good to go now and start.
 

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The Unitarians have an incredibly wonderful sex-ed program for boys and girls that they offer, I believe, to anyone regardless of membership in the fellowship. My son is attending now (we aren't members) and the curriculum is really fabulous. There is no religious content (other than just maintaining healthy, ethical relationships).

They are getting a TON of good info - you can google the program, it's called Our Whole Lives.
 

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The Unitarians have an incredibly wonderful sex-ed program for boys and girls that they offer, I believe, to anyone regardless of membership in the fellowship. My son is attending now (we aren't members) and the curriculum is really fabulous. There is no religious content (other than just maintaining healthy, ethical relationships).

They are getting a TON of good info - you can google the program, it's called Our Whole Lives.
Yes! And they change content based on age. It's all age appropriate and parents review the material before hand to make sure there isn't anything they object. For instance, our jr. high program feature sketches of sexual positions and parents objected therefore, it was removed. But it covers a LOT of stuff.
 

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Originally Posted by PancakeGoddess View Post
The Unitarians have an incredibly wonderful sex-ed program for boys and girls that they offer, I believe, to anyone regardless of membership in the fellowship. My son is attending now (we aren't members) and the curriculum is really fabulous. There is no religious content (other than just maintaining healthy, ethical relationships).

They are getting a TON of good info - you can google the program, it's called Our Whole Lives.
Yes, Our Whole Lives is a fabulous program and I am so thankful it will be there when DS is a bit older (I think the one at our UU church starts at 8). Our church offers it to everyone regardless of their religion or lack there of.

Also BRAVO for you being proactive. I really hope my DS will feel that comfortable asking me when he is curious about such things.
 

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