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Dr Laura disgusted by people leaving babies in cars and Oprah's treatment of them.<br><br><a href="http://www.drlaurablog.com/2008/10/14/shame-on-oprah/" target="_blank">http://www.drlaurablog.com/2008/10/14/shame-on-oprah/</a>
 

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I actually have sympathy for those moms.
 

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I don't understand how you could forget your baby in your car. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">:
 

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I don't.
 

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I am sure those Mamas who left the children in the car to die are suffering in a way we cannot even imagine.<br>
What a horrible situation all the way around.<br>
I have compassion for all involved.<br>
I don't have to understand it to have compassion.
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">baby not part of routine? sad.
 

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I didn't see the show but, I think this article is harsh.<br><br>
Forgiveness - love - understanding<br><br>
This woman has to live the rest of her life knowing her negligence killed her own child. That is a sentence I could not bear.<br><br>
It is not excusing what she did. It is merely empathy for her, as I could imagine how I would never be able to forgive myself if I did some thing that led to my child's death.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I didn't see the show but, I think this article is harsh.<br><br>
Forgiveness - love - understanding<br><br>
This woman has to live the rest of her life knowing her negligence killed her own child. That is a sentence I could not bear.<br><br>
It is not excusing what she did. It is merely empathy for her, as I could imagine how I would never be able to forgive myself if I did some thing that led to my child's death.</div>
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I'm always amazed at the harshness of the supposedly "gentle" MDC mothers.
 

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I have lots of sympathy and compassion for anyone involved in this type of horrible, horrible accident. There but for the grace of God(dess) ...<br><br>
It's not always moms, by the way.
 

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Wow, just wow. I pray that none here will ever be in the position to understand on a *personal* level how something like this could happen. These incidences are horrific all around. Heaven forbid any of us ever live to feel what those moms and family members must feel for any reason whatsoever.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I am sure those Mamas who left the children in the car to die are suffering in a way we cannot even imagine.<br>
What a horrible situation all the way around.<br>
I have compassion for all involved.<br>
I don't have to understand it to have compassion.</div>
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Agree completely.<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/mecry.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="crying">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">i am sure those mamas who left the children in the car to die are suffering in a way we cannot even imagine.<br>
What a horrible situation all the way around.<br>
I have compassion for all involved.<br>
I don't have to understand it to have compassion.</div>
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<b>ita</b>
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Wow, just wow. I pray that none here will ever be in the position to understand on a *personal* level how something like this could happen. These incidences are horrific all around. Heaven forbid any of us ever live to feel what those moms and family members must feel for any reason whatsoever.</div>
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<br><b>ITA</b>. I've never done this that I pray that it never happens to me or my DH. I can't imagine the agony that these parents have to go through day after day.<br><br>
I've heard some of the stories and looked at the pain on these peoples faces, I have a lot of sympathy for them.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I am sure those Mamas who left the children in the car to die are suffering in a way we cannot even imagine.<br>
What a horrible situation all the way around.<br>
I have compassion for all involved.<br>
I don't have to understand it to have compassion.</div>
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Me too. I do not believe that this mother ever intended to hurt her child.
 

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Dr. Laura! C'mon, she's nothing but a self-righteous windbag... I wasn't aware that people still listen to her? Some of these responses astound me. As mothers, can't we have some sympathy for someone who lost their child? To be honest, when I hear these stories the first people I feel sorry for are the ones (moms, grandmas, dads) who mistakenly left their child in the car; their suffering is unimaginable.
 

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I didn't see that episode. There was a baby left in a car a couple years ago in my area. It was heart wrenching to see it on the news. I think it was the dad that left the baby. He thought that the mom had her. I really felt for the parents. It's a horrible thing to happen and a horrible thing to live with.<br><br>
There are times that I'm in the car alone, but it feels like the kids are in the car, so I check. I especially remember doing this when I was sleep deprived with a little baby.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I didn't see that episode. There was a baby left in a car a couple years ago in my area. It was heart wrenching to see it on the news. I think it was the dad that left the baby. He thought that the mom had her. I really felt for the parents. It's a horrible thing to happen and a horrible thing to live with.<br><br>
There are times that I'm in the car alone, but it feels like the kids are in the car, so I check. I especially remember doing this when I was sleep deprived with a little baby.</div>
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I think I know which one you are talking about. Wasn't the Mother a Pediatrician? I think the Father was a Doctor or Specialist too.
 

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I strive to be non-punitive, I strive to be understanding and kind and more Christ-like each day...but this? This I just cannot wrap my brain around.<br><br>
Am I sorry that the family lost their child? Yes...I cannot imagine the pain...I don't WANT to imagine that kind of pain.<br><br>
But do I 'understand' No, not at all. I cannot understand how one could forget their child for a whole 8 hour work shift. I just don't get it.
 

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I have compassion for these mothers. It doesn't mean I *understand* or that I excuse what happened, but I imagine it just rips your heart out.<br><br>
I remember a story on here, a mama, who's two kids were in the bath -- she ran out for a *second* (to get a towel I think?) and she came back in and one of them was under water and had to have cpr and be rushed to the hospital!! It was completely scary to read and she sounded so shaken up (and could have ended SO differently) -- I can't imagine going into that thread being all <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/nono.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="nono"> and being cruel.<br><br>
Most mothers love their children and I imagine they live in absolute anguish for the rest of their lives when something like this happens.<br><br>
I don't *understand* how it happens with a child, however, I have left ovens on and candles lit for hours without realizing it -- yes, that is not a child of course -- but it could have resulted in someone's injury or death (if a fire started or whatever). Does that mean I am a monster?<br><br>
It is just tragic all around and no amount of berating or beating down the mother further is going to save another child or bring the child back.
 
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