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In 6 weeks, when school gets out for the summer and I don't have to be so strict about bedtimes and bedtime ritual, we're going to move MT into the big bedroom with his older brother. He'll still sleep in his crib, but we'll have them both in the same room. For all practical purposes, they share a room now anyway. Their clothes are all in the same closet, MT prefers to play in T's room during the day and they spend most of their joint playtime on T's bed together with legos or whatever.<br><br>
But 4 years is a big gap between two boys this young, especially one still taking a nap every day, and who goes to be 30 minutes before his older brother. Any btdt stories to share about sibling room sharing? My biggest concern is of course bedtime!
 

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No BTDT from me, but one of my friends just recently separated her two boys (10 & 6) into their own bedrooms so I know it can be done. They had bunkbeds for the longest time.
 

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My older share right now.. Aidan just plays when I send him up there. Ky and Kobi have shared for quite a few years, if you have separate bed times then you shouldn't have too much of a problem with them adjusting but you might need to be a little more lax either on the little ones or your oldest in terms of time.. maybe now would be the opportunity to allow him to tack on another half hour before bedtime. I'm probably going to have to move Aidan upstairs this summer (we'll see still debating it really) and will need to establish more of a routine at bedtime because I am typically more lax on this than most people.
 

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My sis and I (3 1/2 years apart) shared a room for a few years. I don't remember how that went though. I had the top bunk of a trundle so I think I was allowed to read for a while after baby sis went to bed. It worked out fine for us!
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">My older share right now.. Aidan just plays when I send him up there. Ky and Kobi have shared for quite a few years, if you have separate bed times then you shouldn't have too much of a problem with them adjusting but you might need to be a little more lax either on the little ones or your oldest in terms of time.. maybe now would be the opportunity to allow him to tack on another half hour before bedtime. I'm probably going to have to move Aidan upstairs this summer (we'll see still debating it really) and will need to establish more of a routine at bedtime because I am typically more lax on this than most people.</div>
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That's why I'm waiting until school is out. MT is usually in bed no later than 7:15, and that's if he's had a good long nap. Otherwise, it's 7pm. T stays up until 7:30 or 7:45, any later than that and he's just impossible to pull out of bed the next morning, and he gets tired and grumpy by mid afternoon. He really needs that extra half hour. So does MT. If I do put them both down at 7:30, I pay for it the next day when MT cries all morning long, takes an early nap and then needs to go to bed at 6:30 that night. Seriously - 1 night of screwing with his bedtime can take 2 or 3 days to fix. T can stay up later during the summer months, but not until then.
 

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My three girls share a bedroom. My 3 year old and 5 year old share the bottom (full size) bunk and my almost 7 year old sleeps on the top bunk. For bedtime we read to them all on the bottom bunk and then tuck them into their seperate spots. It all works really great, except for the fact that the three year old still comes into my bed in the middle of the night most nights. eek.
 

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I shared a room with my brother (he's 5 years younger) for a year or so and I shared a room with my sister (she's 9.5 years younger) for about four years total - not all in a row.<br><br>
I was 6 years old when I shared a room with my brother and other than me being a pest by waking him up sometimes on purpose when he was fast asleep, it worked out well. He just looked so peaceful lying there that I had to rile him up <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/duck.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Duck">: My mom never caught me doing it... but I thought it was hilarious!<br><br>
I was 11 years old or so when I started sharing a room with my sister and that was fine. We had bunk beds and I had wanted a top bunk for YEARS so that helped me be okay with sharing my room. The only thing that bothered me a bit was the fact that my sister would talk in her sleep sometimes. It didn't bother me all the time, but sometimes it would get annoying. Other times it was really funny or cute <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/loveeyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Loveeyes">:<br><br>
Your kids are much closer in age than I was with my siblings... I would think it'd be fine though <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up"><br><br>
I don't remember there being any problems with my siblings going to bed earlier than I did either... I would read in my bed with a flashlight or spend time with my parents during that time. If you let your older ds feel important by telling him how much he's helping you out by being quiet and sharing and whatnot then I think it'll work out. Make it a team effort between you and him so that he feels grown up. That always helped me to be more understanding and helpful when my parents needed my help/cooperation with my brother who's 5 years younger especially. I loved collaborating with my parents when I was 4-7 years old - it always made me feel special and grown up <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"><br><br>
love and peace. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">That's why I'm waiting until school is out. MT is usually in bed no later than 7:15, and that's if he's had a good long nap. Otherwise, it's 7pm. T stays up until 7:30 or 7:45, any later than that and he's just impossible to pull out of bed the next morning, and he gets tired and grumpy by mid afternoon. He really needs that extra half hour. So does MT. If I do put them both down at 7:30, I pay for it the next day when MT cries all morning long, takes an early nap and then needs to go to bed at 6:30 that night. Seriously - 1 night of screwing with his bedtime can take 2 or 3 days to fix. T can stay up later during the summer months, but not until then.</div>
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That's what I meant when I said prolonging it.. wait until the summer when things are a bit more relaxed. Sorry if my post was a bit unclear.. my head was in the clouds at that point in the day.
 

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This is one of the times when I wish there was a closer age gap between the two kids. My ds keeps talking about BUNK BEDS and I keep thinking about he might feel about that a few years down the road when Baby X has grown out of the all-night-with-mama cosleeping stage. I think it's sweet though that he's into the CONCEPT, at this stage of the game.
 

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My kids have shared a room in various configurations over the years. It can be challenging sometimes - depending on the situation, you maybe to get creative about staggering bedtimes, finding some quiet, private play space for your older DS, etc., but it's doable. Not always easy, but doable. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">This is one of the times when I wish there was a closer age gap between the two kids. My ds keeps talking about BUNK BEDS and I keep thinking about he might feel about that a few years down the road when Baby X has grown out of the all-night-with-mama cosleeping stage. I think it's sweet though that he's into the CONCEPT, at this stage of the game.</div>
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My actual Master Plan includes bunk beds in the near future. I think 6 years old is plenty old enough for a bunk, although the 2 year old makes me really nervous, so I'm looking for one without an actual ladder that my oldest can just climb up the sides or whatever. AND, I've seen bunks with underbed storage under the bottom mattress, which would be fantastic for my smallish space. I also want them to separate into two twins should the kids using them ever outgrow the bunkbed idea, so I might have to wait a while to find what I want at an affordable price.<br><br>
I got the rest of MT's toys moved into the big bedroom last evening, and I'm hauling the big obnoxious Geotrax trainset that took up the ENTIRE toybox over to my dad's this weekend. T doesn't use it anymore, MT is too young to use it with any real purpose and it takes up serious amounts of space that I just don't have. Dad has a HUGE playroom for the boys complete with a big playtable, so it's perfect. I need 3 more storage bins to complete my Master Clothing Storage Plan, and then we should be all done. All that's left is to make the actual Kid Move.
 

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My sister and I shared a room for practically forever- we stopped when we moved to a bigger house when I was in 9th grade. My little brothers also shared a room from the time that the youngest was a baby- and they're 5 years apart. It always seemed to work out really well, but we all liked to be in close proximity anyway. Even before the youngest was born and the older little brother had his own room, he'd end up in mine and my sister's room many nights.<br><br>
I mean, obviously both kept the other awake some nights, and their room was a disaster area once the youngest reached toddlerhood, but nothing unmanageable. They're 16 and 21 now and still share a room at my mom's house, and it's the same story. I think they both did little tricky things once in a while- the youngest when he was about 18 months old figured out how to shimmy his body onto the crib side railing, tilt back and flip himself forward, landing on the older one's bed, and then creating mayhem once he was free. My mom does have cute stories of peeking into their room and seeing the older little brother standing at the youngest's crib and talking to him and playing with him early in the AM.<br><br>
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My dd's have almost always shared a room, they are 20 months apart. We did live in an apartment once for just over a year and they had their own bedrooms but half of the time I'd find them in their sisters bed. They have always been close. Now that they are 15 and 13 there are a lot of fights and disagreements. Especially over bedtime, they have always had the same bedtime! They are older now but they still go up to bed at 9 and can read or one like to do suduko for a half hour! I'm shocked that it is the 13 yo that is the one with issues over how early she goes to bed. Some of her friends stay up till midnight on a school night<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/jaw2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="jaw2"> of course those are some of the kids with really bad grades!<br>
Our twins also share a room and a bed although they are getting really cramped in the single bed. This will be fixed when they move into their 'new' room they will either have a bunk bed or a double bed.
 

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We're also considering moving the baby in the same room with his 3 yr old brother (the baby meaning the 15 mo old). DH and I have been discussing it, but today DH said maybe he can stay in our room for awhile after the new babe is born. We worry that they will be trouble together or their sleep will be disrupted. My 3 yr old likes the light on at night and my 15 mo old is used to it being dark. They do go to bed at the same time, but my 3 yr old likes to lay in bed, listen to music, and read his books before falling asleep.
 
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