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Has anyone convinced their toddler to share with a younger sib?<br><br>
The story... we are moving to a smaller house and will be downsizing a lot at the same time. I'd like to keep only the good quality, played with toys. My 2.5yo dd has a small waldorf style doll that she has never liked and never played with. It has been packed away for over a year. My 5mo saw the doll and went crazy for it! She focused on it for 10-15 minutes and cried when I put it away.<br><br>
Well, when dd1 saw the doll in her sister's hands she threw a huge tantrum about her sister touching her doll. Even though she has never shown an interest in the doll and hadn't seen it in months dd1 was really angry that someone else was touching the doll. She took it away and stuck it in a box. She told me she didn't want to play with the doll and didn't like the doll but it was "hers".<br><br>
I don't want to give the doll away (it was a gift) but I don't want to bring an un-loved/un-used toy to the new house. I had thought maybe dd1 would like to give it to dd2 for solstice but now I don't know...<br><br>
Any ideas? DD1 does share with DD2 sometimes, and in general loves her sister so I'm not really sure what is going on with this doll. I've left it out for the past few weeks and dd1 just ignores it in favor of other toys...<br><br>
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There's not much 'convinving' to share here, but we make them share all of their toys. Neither of them has a special toy yet that they drag around everywhere with them. If they did I would allow them to have that one that they didn't have to share. They don't though, so they share and take turns with everything. Selfishness just isn't an option around here, as much as they'd love it to be.<br><br>
Then again, I'm often hearing a chorus of "MINE", "NO, MINE" around here too, so take my advice for what its worth! Kids naturally don't *want* to share. They naturally don't *like* sharing, but that doesn't mean they don't have to do it. My kids don't *like* picking up their toys, brushing teeht, taking baths (or getting OUT of the bath), or coming in from outside either, but I still make them do all of that.
 

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I totally agree with sharing as a learned skill. In this case I think it's mostly that dd1 is claiming right of prior ownership (which is true even though she doesn't like the doll) and dd2 likes the doll but has no way to "defend herself" from a grabby toddler. I don't want this doll to turn into a non-stop battle...I mean, why make more work for myself and create friction between the girls?<br><br>
But dd2 would really enjoy playing with this doll... so I'm wondering if it's possible to convince dd1 that it would be nice to give it to dd2 (she does sometimes like to give gifts to people) or if I should just bite the bullet and give the doll away instead of having it turn into some sort of "mine mine mine" trigger.
 
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