I'm sorry that you are feeling so stressed...I know it's frightening to think that you might not get the support you need. On the bright side, you still have time to either figure out a plan to implement your birth plan, or to fill in the gaps in your support network.
As a doula, I will say that it is very rare to have an ob who spends any time at all in the labor room. Sometimes they're in and out (esp during the day) but I've also attended many, many labors where the first time anyone sees the ob is after mom has started pushing. When your ob isn't there, the nursing staff is in charge and they often go by "standard orders."
You may get a nurse who wants to support you--or you may get a nurse who has her own ideas about how your labor should go. It would be difficult for anyone to really guess what might happen.
Do you have a doula? If you do, you can talk to her about her advocacy skills. Ask her what she has done in the past when the nursing staff has made suggestions that weren't in keeping with her client's birth plan. If you don't have a doula, you might want to think about inviting one to your birth. A doula can really take the pressure off your husband--especially in regards to advocating for your wishes and helping you communicate with the nursing staff.
Another option would be to think about what might be problematic and come up with some strategies for each situation. Of course this might require your husband to be fairly assertive...the two of you will have to figure out how comfortable he will be with that role.
Best of luck, mama.
As a doula, I will say that it is very rare to have an ob who spends any time at all in the labor room. Sometimes they're in and out (esp during the day) but I've also attended many, many labors where the first time anyone sees the ob is after mom has started pushing. When your ob isn't there, the nursing staff is in charge and they often go by "standard orders."
You may get a nurse who wants to support you--or you may get a nurse who has her own ideas about how your labor should go. It would be difficult for anyone to really guess what might happen.
Do you have a doula? If you do, you can talk to her about her advocacy skills. Ask her what she has done in the past when the nursing staff has made suggestions that weren't in keeping with her client's birth plan. If you don't have a doula, you might want to think about inviting one to your birth. A doula can really take the pressure off your husband--especially in regards to advocating for your wishes and helping you communicate with the nursing staff.
Another option would be to think about what might be problematic and come up with some strategies for each situation. Of course this might require your husband to be fairly assertive...the two of you will have to figure out how comfortable he will be with that role.
Best of luck, mama.