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My 20 month old daughter has always been 'spirited' or 'fussy' though those terms do not describe her accurately.<br><br>
She throws several terrible tantrums a day when she doesn't get what she wants, she will kick, scream, flop around until she ends up falling and hitting her head on the wood floor. Lately, she doesn't want to sit in her carseat in the van and arches her back and SCREAMSSSSSS and I'm so winded it's hard to get her in. This morning, she asked for a banana for breakfast. I gave it to her and walked by with my bowl of shredded wheat. She followed me, threw down her banana and started wanting my cereal. I gave her a few bites, but then she wanted to drink all the milk out of it. I told her "No, mommy will get you a cup of milk" to which she totally flipped out and screamed and shrieked and of course, fell to the ground. I nonchalantly finished the rest of my cereal and went to get her some milk. I handed it to her and she threw it down on the kitchen floor. I walked off 'cause at this point, I'm totally pissed.<br>
She did this last night with her dinner, we had baked ziti and for some reason, she wanted to sprinkle tons of pepper on it. I wouldn't let her so she threw her ziti all over the floor and poured her cup out. I cannot bear these food messes. It's bad enough that there are toys everywhere, but then having to clean up this crap too???!<br><br>
She is acting like a little tyrant. I have two children who act this way, luckily my first is an easy going kid. I don't cater to her every whim. I just don't see how I'm going to have the energy to deal with her attitude with a new baby.
 

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Sending you BIG hugs because I've BTDT. Luckily, I found out (not soon enough!!) that Pixie had food sensitivities that were causing her to act this way.<br><br>
Read labels- if she's acting out within minutes of eating a certain food, that food might be the issue. Of course, foods that cause issues can stay in the system for 2 weeks and it's so hard to tell.<br><br>
For Pixie, she is sensitive to Red #40 and Yellow #5 (and something in Juicy Juice but I can't figure out WHAT!!) which I've read (the food dyes) are big culprits for a lot of people and can cause aggression, headaches, and exacerbate ADD/ADHD problems. Of course, if you are still nursing her, you'll want to cut these from YOUR diet too. It could be something like dairy or wheat though... I've heard people talk about the Feingold (sp?) program for eliminating foods- you might want to try that.<br><br>
It's really hard to remember to read ALL the labels, but if you don't and that little bit of whatever it is she's sensitive to slips by, it can still affect her (if that is the issue.) I would go anti-food coloring for a week to 10 days and see what happens... can't hurt!<br><br>
Hope this helps! I totally sympathize.<br>
Manda<br><br>
(Oh and PS- The thing that REALLY sounds like Pixie is the self-inflicting pain. She would bash her head or fling herself down on her knees so hard it would make me want to vomit sometimes. And what did the ped say? Oh... she's just a typical toddler... YEAH RIGHT!!!)
 

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Thanks for the response. I will definitely try to make sure no food dyes cross her lips and see if that helps. She did have some cherry Kool Aid yesterday which is something she doesn't normally have.
 

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I am so glad food allergies were brought up - I wouldn't have thought of that this morning!<br><br>
But I wanted you to know, I have also BTDT! And especially my last son went thru this faze of arching his back in the carseat. Willful lil boogars! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue">
 

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Oh, you need a big <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">, mama! My DD is 24 months and we've also dealt with (and still do) tantrums and the food throwing thing.<br><br>
I usually just take her food from her and tell her she's all done eating until she can "eat nice".<br><br>
Tantrums are so frustrating, but I remind myself that they are a normal part of her development and try to walk away and ingore them as much as I can. (I learned the hard way with DS!)<br><br>
She also used to bite herself when she got ticked off. *sigh*
 

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I was thinking food sensitivities / food reaction also (althoguht might not be it but worth looking into) artificial crap is bad for everyone so that is a no brainer to avoid <a href="http://www.feingold.org" target="_blank">www.feingold.org</a><br><br>
when you get into wheat and dairy and other ones it can get trickier but worth it to figure out.. The only really good way to figure it out is with elimination diet.. good luck<br><br>
my assistants DD goes NUTS if she eats wheat.. like freakazoid tantrum violent etc.. it is frightening..
 

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I'm going to have to dig out my old mothering back issue that listed the feingold stuff in it...I went to the website - but apparently to get any in depth info you have to join as a member.<br><br>
Hmm, never heard that about wheat. Thanks for responding!
 

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Hmm, maybe I should lay off the wheat <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> I think part of it is the age too. My DD went thru a bit of that. Kids can be so irrational. LOL
 

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Aahh...the fiesty spirited ones...<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
It's always good to investigate dietary stuff. And, to breathe and walk away...while muttering "tenacity and strength of character will serve her well as an adult." It's actually getting to that adulthood that's the challenge!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue">
 

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I can't remember it but when I go to my ofc on Friday I wll post the password for feingold (member since 2007!!) they have changed their site , you used to be able to get the basic info w/o joining.. will post PW.. sorry pregnesia and it just changed...
 
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