I don't know how I feel about that honestly.
I mean, I recognize that cases DO happen where someone tries to get pregnant on purpose etc, but I think it is really rare when speaking in terms of trying to get money. I think more often people will try to do that to like "hold on" to a relationship they already have (not that it is AT ALL HEALTHY). In other words, I think few women are like, let me get pregnant so I get some child support from this guy!
I honestly don't know. While I feel it is the responsibility of both parents to take care of their child, both financially and emotionally...sometimes financial help is all you can expect or get. I feel though, if I have to force anyone to do anything...like take someone to court for money or whatever... I would probably not do it. F- them ya know? I mean, that way I feel like I would have more of a leg to stand on because if they were not contributing in ANY way financially or emotionally, then they have less of a say in how I parent which is fine with me.
Of course there are many women who really need the financial support they recieve and they really do use it solely for their children and in those cases, of course I think they deserve it. However, it has to be said that I have known women personally even who seemed to want the hassle more than they needed the money and used child support or seeking of it as a way to "get" their deadbeat ex or whatever. In other words I heard more conversations along the lines of "he created this child too, he is going to PAY UP!!" rather than... "man, you don't know how hard it is, I need that money for our child..." type statements -- which are more conducive, I would think, to someone who is doing it for the right reasons.
However, there is always the case of what is the woman's responsibility in all this? Should a man have to pay for 18 years financially for one night of sex? Yes, it can be argued that he should have known better, he made a choice, etc... but at the same time, so did she... she could have like, said um, you put on a condom or no lovin'...
Crap I dunno, it is hard all the way around. I do know though that if you are um, well, what is a nice word for this... *unbalanced* enough to intentionally get yourself pregnant by the means you mentioned above ..on purpose... without discussing it with the guy, and doing it behind his back... I don't know as he should have to pay anything... that is a really weird, kind of um, not healthy thing to do...
In the case of the woman who allegedly raped a boy who was 12 and he had to pay child support.. I won't even touch that. I dunno any of the details and how the heck would a 12 year old go about paying anyone anything? Do his parents have to or what? Weird...and kind of sick.. a grown woman having sex with a 12 year old, even if it were "consentual"... but hey maybe they will get married like that crazy teacher and her student and it will all be okay *sheesh* *blech*