[Halfasianmomma]

My DD is 18 weeks (4.5 months) and admittedly, she's a big girl. She was born at 42 wks +1, at 6 lbs 15 oz, really scrawny but very long.
http://i231.photobucket.com/albums/e...inclothing.jpg
She's now 19 lbs, 67 cm and wears 9 month old clothing.
http://i231.photobucket.com/albums/e...aat4months.jpg

*Everywhere* I go, everyone asks me WHY she's so big, what I'm doing to make her so big etc etc. I've even had a nurse accuse me of starting to feed her solids because she's above the curve for length and weight. And the worse is, all I do is nurse on demand. Nothing else. I'm not a big girl myself (5"3, usually 115 lbs), which is perhaps why I get accused of stuffing DD's face. No one else in my immediate family has breastfed so perhaps they don't know just how effective breastmilk is, but at this point, the comments are getting rather annoying.

So is anyone else in the same boat as me?

 

[nummies]

She is a cutie!! I just want to say that I know how you feel. I had a 20lb 4 month old too!

Take heart, my 18 month hold is still only around 25 lbs. Breastfed babies tend to gain like crazy in the first 6 months and then they taper off.

 

[AlpineMama]

I'm on the opposite boat.

I also nurse on demand, and DD is healthy as a bug, but tiny as one too. They really do come in all shapes and sizes!

 

[AlpineMama]

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Originally Posted by nummies Breastfed babies tend to gain like crazy in the first 6 months and then they taper off.

Hope that's not true for us! DD was still not even 10 lbs at 6 months.

 

[Kappa]

OMG, your baby is gorgeous! Put all those people on IGNORE. You're doing a great job, your baby is exactly the size she's supposed to be!

 

[pumpkingirl71]

I think I might grill you too

My dd is 8 months old and might weight 16 pounds. We started solids early becasue she was leaping out of my arms at plates of food. But she won't grow...

So people are weird. I don't think most people are really being negative, just surprised. Like most people who comment on my dd don't really think I am not feeding her. I agree the comments are annoying, though

And oh my gosh, your baby is so cute!

Here is my tiny girl at 7 months, a bit smaller than your daughter:
http://pumpkingirl71.livejournal.com/104948.html

 

[Ruthie's momma]

What a pretty babe you have!!!

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I know what it is like to be on the receiving end of somewhat rude baby related questions. My DD was born at 41 wks, weighing 5 lbs 15 oz. Until she was about 7 or 8 mo, I was regularly asked if she had been born prematurely! She has always been a tall, slender girl...but, she has grown steadily from birth.

 

[Mamato3wild ponnie]

I know what it's like to have people say what a big baby...ds is 11 weeks and weighs 16 pounds...he's huge.

 

[sonshine_rae]

been there done that.... both ways..... my first kid was small 6lbs 2oz at birth and didn't grow very fast at all ... only 17lbs at a year.

My 2nd kid was a little bigger 8lbs 6.2oz at birth and grew very fast 17lbs at 4 months!

so far my third kid is growing at a rather average speed.... go figure.

But people just want to talk about kids and if they are at all smaller or larger then what they deem 'normal' then they must 'give advice' or question your parenting etc. Please do ignore them..... tell them your baby is very healthy and make light of it even (if you can).

In the end the kids all even out and no one will know who was big and who was little.....

ETA: all my kids were fully breastfed... they just grow at their own pace

 

[dearmama22]

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Originally Posted by Kappa OMG, your baby is gorgeous! Put all those people on IGNORE. You're doing a great job, your baby is exactly the size she's supposed to be!

She is beautiful!

 

[IloveAllMyBabies]

ur litte girl is soo cute

my boys r big my first at 5 months weighted 25lbs lol and his little brother seems to be following

at birth my first one was 8.8lbs and lost 8oz in 2 days my milk came in and he was back up past his birth weight at 2 weeks he was 2lbs over his birth weight the nurses at the pedi office swore i was feeding formula and over feeding my son and i told the nurse noo formula at all just breastmilk from the breast anyways when i saw the pedi she asked the same thing about formula and i told her noo formula soo she asked how many oz of breastmilk is he drinking and i said i have noo idea i dont pump lol soo just said well he is healthy keep up the good work

my sec baby was born at 7.2lbs lost 2oz then at 3 day check up my milk was in and he gained 6oz in 3 days at the 2week check up he was also 2 lbs over his birth weight my pedi knew he was breast only noo bottles lol

just keep doing what u r doing she is healthy and a cutie

 

[Annalisa84]

Oh, I love me some long skinny babies. Julian was 6.5 lbs and nearly 22 inches, and I loved his little chicken legs!

People always ask me "WHAT ARE YOU FEEDING HIM?" he's not chubby just large, at 6 months he often gets mistaken for 10-12 mths. I just tell them that mama milk is good for the body.

 

[rightkindofme]

My babe is six months and just over 20 lbs and 28" tall. People think she must be more like 10 months old. So yeah, I hear you.

I tell them I make cream.

 

[tabasco]

My DS is huge, too. He was 19 lbs, 3 oz the day he turned 4 months old. He is now almost 5 months old and while I don't know how much he weighs at the moment, I do know that he is solidly in 12-month clothing. Some 12-month stuff is too small for him. He is the same size or large than my DD was at 10 months, and she was not a small baby.

Fortunately, everyone I meet has always been pleasantly amazed by DS's size. I would be annoyed, too, by accusations that I was doing something wrong. It goes to show that moms just can't win--because if you had a small baby people would probably accuse you of underfeeding.

Oh, I also wanted to add this: at one point I plotted DS on the WHO growth chart, and he was in a significantly lower percentile. (Maybe 85th or 90th, as opposed to well above the 97th.) So when compared with other BF babies, he isn't quite so enormous.

 

[MySunflowerBoys]

She's super cute! I just wanted to pop in an say good job mama! I remember reading your posts when she was born & you were having problems nursing. Looks like you two worked them all out!

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[kalamos23]

DD was 20 lbs at her 4 month appt. - She was 22 inches and 8.7 when she was born and reaaally skinny - she fit into preemie pants (which were more like capris on her) for the longest time because NB pants were too big in the waist. She's been off the charts (like 3/4 inch over the 95% line) since then! She's in 12m and some 18m clothes, although the 18m stuff is too long in the arms for her. She's now 5 months and I don't know what she weighs, but I'm guessing 22 lbs or so - and she is 28.5 inches long. I'm 5'10" though and DH is 6'3" so it's to be expected - I still get all the comments though! DD has 4 teeth already so it doesn't help the looking older part.

Our ped (whom I normally love) said at her 4m appt that if she was still gaining weight like that at her 6m appt that we would have to talk... I'm thinking - what? you are going to put her on a diet? She's already only getting BM!

Anyhoo, yes, we are in the same boat. If you want, you can check out pics of my chunkalunk through the Riley's blog link in my siggy.

 

[Melly24]

I'll agree with others that she certainly is a cutie!

People say some weird things. My DD is 18 pounds at 9 months and we get "shes a big girl" comments through to "shes so little"...sometimes in the space of a couple of days!

Their comments are more of a reflection of their own experiences/parenting rather than directly aimed at you. I try to remember that whenever someone comments negatively on my any aspect of my DD/family.

 

[Blucactus]

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Originally Posted by AlpineMama I'm on the opposite boat. I also nurse on demand, and DD is healthy as a bug, but tiny as one too. They really do come in all shapes and sizes!

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Us too! My DS2 is 14.5 months and has been 'stuck' at 19 pounds and some change since 9 months. He's happy, healthy, and nurses like crazy. Of course, we BF on demand, AND he's a toddler *gasp* nursing, AND we didn't get into solids till 9 mo, so all those things get blamed for his littleness. Funny, a mom I'm in playgroup with has a big-for-her-age LO who does the exact same as us, and people blame THAT on BFing on demand. As mamas, we just can't win. If our kids are above or under average at all, there has to be someone to blame.

 

[esmicosaquehago]

she just looks exceptionally healthy to me. good job mama! sorry about the comments

 

[tashaharney]

i'm with you mama! mine's just about a week older than yours and about half a pound lighter.

i just tell people it's all the rbst i'm injecting.