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We talked about it in this other thread - lets do it. Support thread for those who have shop-a-holics in their lives. Feel free to vent, complain, ask for advice.<br><br>
I'll start. In the kitchen decluttering challenge I did my kitchen, I really got the kitchen doing well and wanted to make it feel like a great space. I painted the walls and thinking about Delight and small spaces, I decided I wanted everything to be something I really liked or was functional, not just there to be there. I then remember I had taken a really cool photo of a sunflower on my DH's aunt's farm a few years ago, we love that picture, so I printed it really big and framed it and hung it on the wall, fit the decor perfectly. I love the simplicity of it - the wall has just that photo and a french memo board over to the side.<br><br>
But WAIT, apparently this means I now have a "Sunflower" themed kitchen. My mother told my grandmother this, and so I was given sunflower towels and oven mitts by her (not for any occaision) - of course the kitchen is yellowy orange and red and the oven mitts are green, they do not go. Then she gave me a sunflower picture. I love my grandma, but all this came from teh dollar store - the sunflower picture was just the generic picture that came in the cheapo frame, its not artwork! Sigh. Then I went over my mom's house the other day and she produced another piece of sunflower art that my aunt apparently brought from Texas! At least since my mom wasn't a part of this sunflower extravaganza it gave me a chance to vent about it and thus subtly put in her head that I didn't want any sunflower stuff from her... <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1"><br><br>
Okay, end rant.<br><br>
Share please tell me what kind of stuff your shopaholic relatives press upon you. Maybe we can give out prizes - just conceptual ones, not ones that take up any space!
 

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mightymoo, thanks for starting this thread! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
Wow--the "sunflower themed" kitchen is a good story! I can totally see members of my family doing this.<br><br>
Something I realized after I got married and saw the difference between my family and my in-laws is that my family sees shopping as a family activity. So weekends are spent shopping wherever... Costco, the mall, Wall-Mart, looking for antiques, whatever. That's the plan. It's like they can't think of anything else to do. Taking a step back from it all is interesting. It's in large part a social activity.
 

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Yeah, my mom loves to get me to go shopping with her, its her fun thing to do (besides golf, which I don't play) and something we can do together. But she also is aware she's spending more money than she should, so she tried to get me to spend it instead. Classic scene: "MM - Look at this dress for DD isn't it so cute!?" (I nod politely - she places it in our one cart) Then at checkout time "Aren't you buying this mom?" "oh, I'm already buying X,Y and Z for DD so..." as its being rung up. ARG. But if I say well I'm not buying it, she will, but will then act like I'm trying to make her buy stuff for my DD and I get the covert passive aggressive sarcastic remarks every chance she gets. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/banghead.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="banghead">
 

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It bothers her to no end, but I do not go shopping with my mother. ever. when I used to, I would come back with tons of stuff I didn't need, want, or even like.<br><br>
like a car.<br><br>
when I was fresh out of college, I drove the 4 hours to visit my mother in my broken-down old car. after "that car isn't really reliable" and "let's just go look honey", I wound up driving home in a brand new ford contour.<br><br>
not my dream car. (cue the waa-waaaaaah sound from the price is right)<br><br>
dh was just dbf at the time and he said he didn't feel like he could interfere. but we both got stuck with the car payment for years. (he interferes now, thank goodness.)
 

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my father...i love him....alot....BUT<br>
last year he brought over 10...count em....10 large...little tikes plastic semi trucks!!!! they are big enough for my 2 yo to sit on! AND......he rarely plays with them...since they HAVE Tostay outside. In the garage.....I feel terrible...I want them gone....they will be disappearing next week when dh ins on vacation.<br>
My dad does this alot! My kids have a TON of worthless junk....and some really nice stuff....but he always brings over a ton! I wish I could get him to realize that we only want the really great stuff....LIKE the melissa and doug ark.....that was really nice!!
 

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I can relate Both my mother and my mother in law have the same kinds of problems! If you tell my mother that you have a specific like "Or theme" she will take that and run with it! I bought a pair of cherry socks from Target once and apparently had mentioned some where that I was on a cherry kick and for my birthday my mother went out and bought me cherry dish towels! Mind you we only have 1400 dish towels in the closet that probably haven't seen the light of day since we moved in together!<br>
My Mother in law on the other hand loves to go to thrift stores and buy the oddest things! She once bought me a glass shoe filled with some kind of green liquid (I never found out what it was) I threw it out but DH rescued it from the garbage and I found it about a month later on a shelf in the kids room?!?<br>
I've been really good lately I went to Salvation Army yesterday and didn't buy a single thing (I have a specific idea of what I'm looking for!) and since I didn't find it I didn't buy anything! My mother on the other hand bought 2 more picture frames! Soon we won't be able to see her room!<br>
Thanks for listening! Erin
 

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Oy, my dad! He buys stuff at the Dollar Store and brings it over to DD. He brought her a stuffed Santa last fall, and the tag on it said, "Contains substances illegal in the state of California." I about keeled over. Really don't want that in my house! Not to mention, there's a lot of substances illegal in California--maybe it contains something psychedelic. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
Anyway, I haven't quite figured out how to tell him that he doesn't need to bring anything but himself. He's especially terrible at Christmas.
 

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My grandmother sent my mom to my place with 8 or 9 sets of Disney melamine dish sets for kids. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">: She said Target was having a sale. I don't have space for that many sets of kid dishes! Plus I like to avoid buying stuff with Disney character decorations. She thought we could use them when we have playgroup.<br><br>
At least it has gotten better. She used to come over with big bags of clothes for my girls. I kept telling her I appreciate it, but we don't need this many clothes, it creates more laundry for me, and I would like to pick some of their clothes myself! My mom was buying so much that I wouldn't buy any. I also told her that I'm trying to declutter and every time I get a few items out of my house, she comes in with 2 or 3 times as many to replace them. My grandma "decluttered" her house a bit (she hoards...has a little cleared path through the house), she came over with a garbage bag full of brand new towels. Grandma had bought them, of course because they were on sale, and had them for years with the tags still on. She thought I could use them because "with kids around you can never have too many towels." I told my mom, "yes you can....this is too many towels!!"<br><br>
For DD1's first b-day, the both of them brought over stacks and stacks of gifts. I told them that is not allowed to happen ever again.<br><br>
Oh, and junkmail. Holy moly. I guess they think they need to read through all those coupon fliers and sale ads so they can hit the next sale and find more cheap junk to cram pack into the 6 inches of empty space left in some corner of the house.<br><br>
They both collect antiques too. I've tried saying, "you have so much great stuff in here. Wouldn't it make more impact to just see the great stuff, and get rid of the other stuff?"<br><br>
Makes me crazy!! OH and magazine subscriptions...I get magazines I didn't order. Grandma sent them to me. She sent Highlights for kids, for my daughter when she was 2. I told her it was too advanced and maybe she could cancel it and try that one when she is a bit older. She said I should just keep it and bring them out in a few years. It is so exasperating.
 

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I have to admit that I am the shopaholic in my family. But my home is not overwhelming with useless crap. When I go shopping, it is for things that I actually need. If I bring something home, a like item gets donated.<br><br>
We got our tax return so I decided that I needed new shoes (to go with the million pairs that I already own). I bought 4 new pairs. I came home and went through my shoes. I now have 20 pairs of shoes going into my yard sale tomorrow.<br><br>
I have a weakness for the thrift stores <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> I am there about 3 or 4 times a week. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/duck.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Duck">: sometimes I buy a few thing..sometimes I don't. Right now I have 3 kids birthdays coming up and a baby due all within the next 2 months...so my shopping trips are looking for 1.baby items for my sister and 2. gifts for my niece, nephew and sons birthday. I do have a limit and am very picky with what I buy. The kids will be getting nice wooden toys from me. I think my sis could use anything at this point.
 

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Well, my mom and I both have shopping problems. I'm too tired to type it all out, but everytime my ds comes home from there he comes home with bags of junk. So, my solution? For every one item she sends here, I bring two back to her house. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 
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