[shakenbake]

ok my MIL is getting married the 30th and i am starteing to show we have been waiting to tell extended family but she informed me easter that we NEED to tell everyone before the wedding so as she said dont still her thunder on her day WTF i was floored i NEED to tell people? um NO this is my baby not yours and if they ask at the wedding so be it i understand this is Her day but i dont plan on makeing a toast during dinner and say we are preg! GRRR im not doing it till I want to blah to MILS

 

[belltree]

Don't be mad. It is just not worth the effort. She wants this to be her special day, most brides do

. So, although I think she is a bit overreacting, I understand where she is coming from.

You are really not that far along yet, so you could just where something nice and loose. I would not lie about it, if someone asks at the wedding, but I definitely would do my MIL the favor of not making a big deal about it.

Do you think you could talk to her, and explain to her in a calm way, that you are just not ready to tell yet, but that you do respect her feelings? I know some people have a harder time listening than others. But at least you can try.

 

[georgiegirl1974]

Tell people when you feel comfortable telling them. I agree that you should not make a big announcement (since MIL is sensitive about it.) But if people ask and you feel comfortable telling them, that's fine.

One of DH's best friends announced his wife's pregnancy at my wedding, and I didn't mind. (His wife wasn't there...all of DH's college friends were from out of town so it worked out well as a place to spread the news. It might have happened the night before my wedding, but I don't remember.)

 

[BoringTales]

I wouldn't be mad, personally.

 

[shakenbake]

well as far as the clothing goes she made me go with her to pick out a dress and get her approval and i def look preg in it

 

[Norasmomma]

I think it probably is bothering you because it's your MIL. Really though it is her wedding day and no matter how old she is or what marriage she's on, she wants to feel special. Let her and just tell who you want before hand(or not). We told everyone before his G-ma's 90th b-day just because it was easier to tell everyone, I was only like 7weeks and I just felt like everything was just fine and dandy, so we told people. do what you feel comfortable with.

 

[LionessMom]

i understand why you dont want to tell. as a woman getting married in 16 days, i would be a little upset about someone stealing my thunder. it is the only wedding i will ever have. it is not like you are going in with a megaphone shouting "look at me im pregnant". but a big belly showing is almost the same thing. while i would be hurt if people were giving you more attention than me, i am the one in the white dress. how long until her wedding? would you feel like doing it before then? if not i would just try to keep it low key. everytime someone asks just say yes i am and then change the subject to the bride. this jmo as an expecting bride. i will be showing on my wedding day, so i doubt anyone will be able to steal my thunder

 

[PoppyMama]

I see her point. Do the considerate thing and tell people before the wedding.

 

[umbrella]

Her approach was totally rude. Her position is understandable.

 

[adoremybabe]

If you don't want to tell people before the wedding then don't.

Don't make an announcement at the wedding.

Wear something that won't reveal that you are pregnant. SHe doesn't have a say in what you wear. Tell her, if you don't want people to know that I am pregnant at the wedding then let me wear something else.

 

[kawa kamuri]

Since you'll only be ten weeks pregnant with a one inch baby on the 30th it shouldn't be difficult to hide. If you don't want to tell then don't tell, your body won't be screaming the news that early anyway.

 

[DJ's_Girl]

Wow! Yes, I would be mad, too. Good luck. Tell people when you are ready. not on anyone else's time frame. Congrats on the baby!!

 

[mysticmomma]

Quote:

Originally Posted by kawa kamuri Since you'll only be ten weeks pregnant with a one inch baby on the 30th it shouldn't be difficult to hide. If you don't want to tell then don't tell, your body won't be screaming the news that early anyway.

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No one will ask if you are pg because they'll prob just htink you gained weight!

 

[jeliphish]

tell your MIL that you're only 10 weeks pregnant and to RELAX. No one is going to think a thing!! Just don't say anything.