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OK, I know most people here like the surprise of finding out what sex the baby is after birth, But what do you think in my situation?<br><br>
I had some early testing done for the first time ever (based on some issues in my last pregnancy). When she gave me the results she asked me if I wanted to know the sex of the baby. I said "no". Now I'm not so sure. Here I am at 12/13 weeks, and I can know if this is a girl or a boy! Seems like a pretty cool perk after going through scary testing.<br><br>
I didn't think I wanted to know, I have a boy and a girl, this baby is #3. I found out with both, and was glad I did. I had no desire to wait, and didn't regret it for a second. This time, I thought it might be fun to see what it is like to find out at the birth. I don't plan on decorating anything in a girl or boy way, and I love neutral clothing, so I don't have that incentive. My main reason for trying to find out is that my dh (and I THINK I might agree) thinks it would help prepare our other kids. Our girl really wants to have a sister, and I think our boy probably really wants a brother. I don't want to cause any issues after the baby is born. I also am positive, really positive that it is a boy, so I know I will basically go with that feeling, so perhaps if I am wrong (although I can't imagine <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> ) it would be better for me to know now! Plus, since I already feel like I know, what's the harm! But, then I wonder if I will regret it. I kind of like the idea of people guessing, finding out at birth, all that. On the other hand I think I need some more bonding, this #3 thing is pretty shocking for me, so knowing might help. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">:<br><br>
What do you think?
 

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I found out for my two girls and I like to think that I can hold out and not find out when I get prego for the next baby... but I REALLY want a boy... I'll be happy either way, but wow that anticipation is gong to kill me!!<br><br>
I think only u can make that decision!
 

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If they've already found out you may as well enjoy the information!!!!<br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">If they've already found out you may as well enjoy the information!!!!<br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"></div>
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That makes so much sense!
 

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We are on # 3 with one girl and one boy already, and I would really like to know what this one is (I think girl). I would find out, it does seem like a reward for getting through the test.<br><br>
Sleep on it at least one night, and if you still want to know, go for it. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
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It's a joyous surpise whenever you find out the gender of your baby - be it at 13 weeks or at the birth. I'd go for it, but of course it is a purely personal choice!
 

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I would find out! I couldn't stand it knowing that someone else knew but I didn't.<br>
Just curious, how do they know so early?
 

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I also had one girl & one boy before becoming pg with #3, & I found out both of their genders beforehand. I decided, since I had one of each, I might as well just enjoy the surprise of finding out at the birth with my 3rd, & <i>OH.My.God</i> I am so glad I did. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"> I can't even describe how FUN it is to wait. You go through the whole pregnancy wondering & guessing, & by the last weeks you just can't wait to find out who's in there! I don't think it affected the bonding with my baby at all, especially by the end, there was a little person in there who I couldn't wait to meet! And during my labor, focusing on how excited I was to get the baby OUT so I could learn whether it had a penis or vulva was SO AWESOME. It gave me something superbly positive to focus on, it worked so well. With each contraction I was closer to finding out! And then when he came out & it was announced that "it's a boy!!", I burst into tears, my mom burst into tears, we all burst into tears at the excitement. I kept saying "I had a boy..... he's a BOY!!" constantly for the 1st 24 hours. The absolute joy of that moment that the gender is announced..... omg it's just dreamy. It is so much fun I will never ever ever ever find out the gender before hand again. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/happytears.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="happytears">: Even though we do u/s, we look away when the tech is looking at the nether regions.<br><br>
I am already totally excited about my birth this time because I know I'll get to experience that divine moment again..... <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love">
 

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I agree with zjande! Waiting is SO MUCH FUN!!! We did not find out for DD and it was so magical during my pregnancy to wonder about who was inside of me. We had a water birth and when she was born, my DH placed her on my chest and I just held her for 5-10 minutes without knowing. It was quiet, still and peaceful-my baby was finally in my arms. Eventually, I said, "what is it?" and DH checked and announced, "it's a GIRL!!!" Those first moments of her life were like a dream. it also took us the rest of the day to name her since we didn't know her sex and have a name all picked out for her. I felt like we named her after meeting her. She was and still is very small for her age and we picked her middle name to be Jill, after my petite sister-it means youthful. It's perfect for DD.<br><br>
I also agree with your DH that knowing the sex may help better prepare your kids for the baby. Whatever you choose, it will still be exciting whenever you find out!
 

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Let us know if you decide to find out!! How exciting. I am waiting this time since it might be our last. I would really like a surprise even though it makes much more sense to know so we can prepare. It is definitely a personal decision.
 

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AAAhhh, I'm so torn. I'm not going to make a decision yet, but those surprise stories just sound so cool! Thanks everyone!
 

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We are finding out. We just don't want to wait.<br>
I think you have a really good point about preparing the younger siblings for whatever the sex of the baby will be. I hadn't even considered that, but it just makes me want to find out all the more.<br><br>
That is crazy that they could tell so early!!!<br><br><br>
Maybe you could flip a coin to make your decision?
 

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I wasn't going to find out with our #3. But then I was nearly two weeks overdue and felt like I was never going to have a baby - I felt like I was just old and tired. We went for an ultrasound to make sure all was well. While we were there the tech asked us if we wanted to know what it was. I just said yes. When she said it was a girl my daughter and I screamed for joy. It helped me get through those last few days of waiting (I ended up being 15 days overdue). We even went out to celebrate after the ultrasound!
 

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I'm expecting my first and thus have no experience but - I agree that if someone else knew and I didn't it would drive me insane. I would want to know everything that the doctors knew!
 

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I say do what your heart is telling you! I found out with my first and this time I'm not finding out! It's so fun waiting IMO!
 

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I say, if you can find out NOW w/o having to wait, then GO for it!!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/innocent.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="shy"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/innocent.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="shy"> Keep us posted <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1">
 

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I think you should find out......and tell all of us <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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its a surprise either way-- way not find out sooner rather than later
 
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