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Newbie here asking for some advice.<br><br>
I'm considering letting my dh take my 27-month-old ds to his parents' farm for the weekend without me. It's 4 hours away, and they'd leave tonight and be back mid-day on Sunday.<br><br>
I've never spent more than a few hours away from him, and he still nurses several times a day (although I suspect that I don't have much milk anymore). His father has never been able to get him to sleep -- either for naps or at bedtime -- alone.<br><br>
There's no reason that I couldn't go with them -- other than I am just feeling desperate for a little time to myself.<br><br>
Here's what I'm worried about: ds won't sleep, and therefore nobody else will; I'll be so worried the whole time that I won't be able to enjoy my "free" time; I'll jeopardize whatever milk supply I have left and ds will wean before I think either of us are ready; and I'll just plain miss him so much!<br><br>
Here are the positives: ds will get some much-needed bonding time with his papa and grandparents without his reliance on me getting in the way; I'll get some much-needed time to really get something done for a change -- even if it's just to sleep for awhile!<br><br>
I guess I must be feeling really conflicted about this since they're supposed to be leaving in two hours and I haven't even started packing yet.<br><br>
I can't shake the idea that I'm sending him away. I feel like I'm being so selfish!! Everytime I picture them walking out the door, I start to cry??? Am I nuts or what???? Oh help mamas, PLEASE!!<br><br>
--Olive
 

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gracious, if it hurts that much to imagine them leaving without you, go along with them! while you are there, since there will be 3 responsible adults to spend time with your DS, you can get some alone time in shorter chunks. take a hot bath for a hour, or take a two hour walk by yourself. or shorter or longer, you know, whatever you think you'll actually find relaxing and enjoyable, not painful and stressful!
 

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I wouldn't do it. It sounds like it would be really hard on your son. At that age my daughter would have been inconsolable.<br><br>
Could you go but take a short day trip by yourself? Or take some quiet, private time to read/sew/zone while ds is entertained by his grandparents?<br><br>
JMO.
 

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I agree. I'd go with them. It doesn't really sound like you'll enjoy the time by yourself worring about him. A weekend sounds like a long time for a nursling to be away from his mommy to me. My dd is 3 and I can't imagine how she would react if she couldn't nurse for that long.<br><br>
A trip to a farm sounds like it would be pretty relaxing anyway. Just take time for youself while you are there!
 

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I agree with everyone. When you're ready you won't be so upset about it. It'll be a bittersweet moment but not a bawl session.<br><br>
Just a change of scenery can be nice and just the pick me up you need.
 

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You're absolutely right -- I just needed to hear others say it, I guess.<br><br>
DH just got home and we agreed that we'll wait until tomorrow to go and then not come home until Monday morning.<br><br>
Thanks so much for the support mamas!<br><br>
--Olive
 

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I think you made the right choice. If you're looking for some alone time, start small. Give them both time to get used to being alone without you. Go get some coffee alone and work your way up to a movie at bedtime and let daddy do it.
 

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DH just got home and we agreed that we'll wait until tomorrow to go and then not come home until Monday morning.<br><br>
Thanks so much for the support mamas!<br><br>
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Good for you! Enjoy your time!
 
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