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I haven't decided for sure that I want to send my almost 4 yo to preschool, but if I do, I'm very attracted to Montessori. But I'm concerned about the descriptions of classrooms as "calm, quite, focused." My ds is very focused, but he likes to talk. CONSTANTLY. I would characterize his learning style as cooperative. Meaning he perfers to talk and work with someone when he's learning.<br><br>
Honestly, I'm worried about how any teacher will handle this. How would/should a M teacher deal with a chatty child?<br><br>
Thanks for your input!<br><br>
Lara
 

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I'm not sure how a M directress would handle it, but I am sure she would! I sent my chatty three year old this year, and the directress assures me everything is wonderful. Part of the "program" is learning grace and courtesy, so the kids learn how to interact in a socially acceptable manner. In my DD's classroom, that means that no more than two children may work on a project together. Only certain work is permitted to be done in pairs (some work is individual work), and the children are taught how to 1) wait for their turn to do the work, 2) approach another working student to ask if they can join them in the work they are doing, and 3) politely tell another student who has asked to join in that they do not want to be joined on the project but would prefer to work alone. In this way, the children have the opportunity to work together or alone, based on their preference.<br><br>
Also, there are Montessori games that are played to teach children to observe quiet time. I don't think it is overly oppressive, and I think it is an interesting skill for a preschooler to develop.
 

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If you think the school and the directress jive with your chatty kid, go for it!! Because Montessori classrooms have so many kids, they need the whole gamut from selectively mute to the diarrhea-of-the-mouth type of kids to be successful!! I would NEVER put either of my kids in a classroom where every kid was silent (CREEPY!!) or where every kid had logorrhea (shrink speak for non-stop chatty) because there should be like a Bell curve of chattiness among the kids. And a Bell curve of activity level, moodiness, intelligence, and just about every other attribute you can imagine.<br><br>
PS DD1 was a chatterbox and did great with Montessori, and DD2 is practically selectively mute and has done great with Montessori.
 

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My son talks all day, every day and is doing well in Montessori. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> They know how to handle it.
 

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The classrooms are calm, quiet and focused as a side effect of the children being so interested in what they are doing, not by some overarching directive to not talk.<br><br>
DD's best friend is a very chatty little boy. They handle him very gently. Certainly they ask him politely to be quiet when reading a story (the last story we read with all the parents there he commented after every line <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">), but I've never seen them do anything other than a gentle finger to lips gesture or soft spoken reminder. They do not tell kids not to talk - certainly there may be some teaching there around how to respect other students, not interrupt them or talk in such a way that they are distracted or unable to do their work.<br><br>
But every school is different, not everyone school called Montessori is true montessori, etc, so the best thing to do is to observe the classroom.
 

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i wouldn't hesitate to send them. any experienced montessori teacher will know how to address this if it is even a problem. oftentimes the child will act very differently from how they do at home.<br><br>
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I would be sure to observe the class before enrolling. We observed several that were very strict about telling kids not to talk or interact with one another. The silence was uncomfortable and the kids didn't seem happy (and not because they were so involved in their projects).
 

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Absolutely! A good fit between teacher and child is what is most important. My son is a non stop talker too. I think that the "calm and quiet" that Montessori refers to is more about the environment that the teachers set up for the children and encourage. On task talking and directed working would still work well, I think.
 

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My ds is a chatterbox at home, but he does not talk quite so much at school. There are other boys at school who have a difficult time sitting still and being quiet, but the teacher is always very gentle and calm when she deals with them. I've never heard her raise her voice... she has the patience of a saint! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love">
 
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