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My DH is going to DJ the dance room at the elementary school's spring carnival. The room is only for 5th and 6th graders. One of my friends told her 7th grader DH was doing this and he sent me a list of songs he thought wwould be good, which I thought was nice of him. Obviously DH needs to be really careful about what music he plays at the school so last night I sat down and listened to all of these songs (even though DH kept telling me to turn them off! *LOL*).<br><br>
I really couldn't understand what the singers were saying so I also looked up all the lyrics and some of them were really offensive. Out of all the songs he sent, I think there is maybe one that we could play. I'm just wondering how this kid could think these songs are acceptable but then figured, maybe he can't understand the lyrics either. He said that it took him a while to find some music since he knew it would all have to be "clean". And I'm finding it hard to believe that he thinks an elementary school principal would be okay with someone singing about how he's going to "superman that b*****", etc, etc.<br><br>
Anyway, after listening to them, I thought that I wouldn't want my kids listening to that. But now today, I'm wondering if I should say something to my friend (his mom) about it. I just wonder if she has really listened to this music? Should I just say something if she asks if we're using any of her DS's suggestions? Or should I just mind my own business?
 

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If it comes up you can say that some of the songs weren't appropriate for the school setting I guess. Otherwise I'd leave it alone. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/shrug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="shrug"><br><br>
My Dd loves the song you talking about. It's called "Crank That" by Soulja Boy Tellem and Dd and her friend like the beat and the dance that goes with the song. It's pretty popular right now. We've discussed the lyrics and that she thinks a lot of it is pretty stupid, but that doesn't mean she can't listen to the song, enjoy the beat, or like the dance.<br><br>
My kids are free to use swear words so perhaps that is the difference. We hear words and sentiments in songs we may or may not agree with, but we see no need to ban them.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">If it comes up you can say that some of the songs weren't appropriate for the school setting I guess. Otherwise I'd leave it alone. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/shrug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="shrug"></div>
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I thought about it more and decided that is what I'd do. And I doubt she'll ask because she has a lot of other things on her mind!
 

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He's probably listening to the radio edited version and has no idea what the lyrics really are. I wouldn't say anything to his mother. I let my 12yo to Marilyn Manson (as do I). I really don't think music my son listens to changes who he is as a person. Maybe that's how his parents feel.<br><br>
My son is also allowed to use curse words as long as he knows what they mean. If he wants to use a word we discuss the meaning usually he is too embarrassed to actually use the word in conversation.<br><br>
Really, words only have the power that we give them.
 

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I think in this case the beat of the song has more value than the words. I used to dance to some pretty vulgar songs as a teen but I didn't think about the lyrics much. They were just fun to dance to...<br><br>
Some music has more influence than others, though I think it's important to discuss it so they learn to be aware of what they're listening to. As a teen I blindly sang along with Appelonia, and Frankie Goes to Hollywood, and didn't "get it" at the time... <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink">
 

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I agree this is the right thing to do <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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I knew as soon as my son entered elementary school he would be exposed to bad language. I know that he knows what the words and when to use them. I never restricted the music my son listened to.
 

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Is just the music thats "on" these days, you cannot shelter your kids for that kind of stuff, they will feel left out(horrible feeling, voice of experience)<br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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my brother is 11 and he listens to Eminem, 50 cent and all those rappers, and he's a great kid.
 
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