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Hi everyone.<br><br>
My DS will be three in January. We've had a potty in our bathroom since last March (DS was about 26 mo then). We've never pushed it. We go in waves. Some days if he doesn't want to wear a dipe, I encourage the potty. But that is only occasional. He's peed a bunch of times on it and pooped just a few. DH and I have talked about picking a weekend, perhaps after the holidays, to full-on potty-teach. Like, have a completely naked, or diaper-free weekend and see if that works to get him out of diapers. I'm not really worried about this, but as he approaches 3 yo, I wonder if he's late, or if we're being lazy, or what?<br><br>
Whaddaya think?<br><br>
Also, we're a co-sleeping family. DS has a twin bed in his official bedroom that we call his "special" bed. We talk about sometimes, but DS has only ever slept there for about 2 hours or so the first week we got it (back in March or April of this year). Should we be encouraging him to be in his own bed? It's pretty darn crowded-2 adults, 1 child, and one baby in a queen bed. So, thinking about having the space again is really nice. But I love our cozy bed. I love slipping into an already-warm bed with one kid on one side, and one on the other.<br><br>
Whadday think? How old were your kids when they transitioned to their own space at night?<br><br>
I just want to know that it's okay that we're not pushing either of these things. TIA for any insight.<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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My DD didn't potty learn until she was 3 years and 5 months old. I never potty trained her, either. She found a reason to motivate herself - she wanted to go to a My Gym camp and they only take potty trained kids. I told her this, she decided right then and there she would use the potty.<br><br>
You'll hear this from a lot of people but it is true, if you wait until they are ready then you don't have to potty train, they'll just do it themselves.<br><br>
He's not even three so I can't say from any of the experience that I've had that he is at all late.
 

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Dh read somewhere that the average age for a BOY to be physically ready for potty training is 3 1/2. I've had one one each end of the spectrum. If you really think he's ready, go for it, if not, don't bother. It will be easy if he's ready and hard if he's not. I'd first pay attention to how long he can stay dry on a day he's wanting to use the potty. If it's not at least an hour, I wouldn't bother (my older son was nearly 4 before he could go more than an hour. My 2 1/2 year old can go 2-3 hours now.)<br>
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lovebeads-Thanks for your reply. My MIL said that DH did this same thing at around 3. Just decided one day he didn't want to weaer a dipe anymore and he started using the potty.<br><br>
2boys-Thank you. I think I've read this, too. That physically boys aren't ready until much later than most parents think. This is something for me to keep in mind whenever I feel that we're "late".
 

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My Ds was in pre-school when he PLed at 3.5. He was in a class with 14 other kids. About half PLed before him and about half did some time after him. I think you Ds is not even close to being a "late" PLer <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
For the co-sleeping, maybe you can try doing something to make his bed seem really cool. Or you could bring the bed into your room. Or just have the matress by the bed. When Dd is about 2 or so I'm thinking of putting a crib matress by my bed so she can climb in or out easily whenever she wants.<br><br>
My Ds just turned 6 yesterday and he still has a little bed of blankets on my side of the bed. I think its a nice way to transition to their own bed.
 

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Ds will be 3.5 in Feb. He is not even close to PL'd. Last winter he went through a phase where he used the potty pretty well, and he has been able to stay dry for hours for a long time, but he is bothered by the potty. He would rather do it in his nice comfy diaper. Because he has a speach delay and SID the therapists are always freaking out about him still being in diapers, but I am not concerned. I know he will use the potty when he is ready. It seems like every one has the mentality of sooner is better, but I don't intend to force my child to use the potty when he isn't ready, and I am not about to put up with the fighting and the accidents of an uncooperative learner. So I guess what I am trying to say is that I don't think your ds is late. My friend told me her son started using the potty at 4, and another mom I met recently told me the exact same thing. They said one day the kids just decided to use the potty and that was it. A handful of accidents and no other problems.<br><br>
As for the bed well I don't know what to tell you. Ds is still happily co-sleeping, but we have a king sized bed and he is an only child right now. I have thought about buying him a nap mat or something to put at the foot of our bed so he could sleep there if he wanted. I figure he will get tired of sharing our bed eventually and want the privacy of his own room. He does have a room and bed all his own, but right now it is filled with Christmas presents and wrapping paper. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">
 

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My middle dd wasn't a full time potty user until a week before her 5th birthday. My oldest was right before her 3th birthday. My 2 year old asks to go now here and there, but I don't push.<br><br>
People used to ask constantly why Lauren wasn't using the potty, esp when she was 4 and still in pull-ups (she's a big girl and outgrew any kind of diapers).<br><br>
My standard reply..."Do you know anyone your age who doesn't know how to potty?" While they took a minute to think, I reminded them I don't know anyone my age who never learned either & that everyone learns to use the bathroom at some time or another. In other words, everyone gets it one day or another so shut your trap.<br><br>
She, my 5 year old, also still comes in some nights to sleep with me. We've had some household changes and sleeping with me makes her feel better. I do put a pillow between us since she kicks really hard. As long as no one is kicking me, I don't mind.
 

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Your DS is well within the normal range for still wearing diapers and cosleeping. As with many tasks in parenting, using him as your guide. Keep encouraging him and guiding him as you are now and let him set the pace. If you think a little nudge now and then will benefit him(the diaper-free weekend, napping on his own bed on the floor next to yours, etc) then you should try it and see how he reacts. You are doing a great job so far! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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My DS did not PL until just past 3.5 years old. Any encouragement on the part of DH and I prior to him being ready was met with resistance, and pushing it would have been a disaster. DS will be 4 in February, and he sleeps on a twin bed that is attached to our king bed. He loves sleeping near us and relishes the snuggles he gets in the early morning. He is in no way ready to be sleeping alone in his own room. You're doing great <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up"> . I think you can feel totally comfortable taking these things at your DS's pace.
 

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Bearsmama, you and I seem to be on the same track recently!<br><br>
My son is also not potty trained. He talks about it alot, and "pretends" to go potty, but has only actually gone in it once. I haven't been pushing it at all, since we are moving across country in three weeks! I figured, why bother? He'll just regress then I'll have to start all over again. He seems to be interested, but not quite "get it." He'll sit on his potty, and say "look I peed!" or "Look, I pooped." But there is nothing there. I, too was starting to wonder since he seems to be one of the last of both his online playgroup and RL playgroup. But I was also hoping to wait until he "taught himself." I am comforted by some of these responses. Hopefully I'm on the right track. I recently bought those pull-ups that are supposed to feel wet when they go, so maybe that will gently encourage him.<br><br>
As for co-sleeping, I'm afraid we had to discourage that a long time ago when he was 15 months. He just wasn't sleeping well at all and neither were we. Now he is in a toddler bed in a room he shares with little brother (who co-sleeps in the morning when he wakes up to nurse), so he isn't alone. So I don't have much advice there.
 

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Well we're no where close, but younger than your guy.<br><br>
Friends from church have kiddos slightly older than Austin. One turned 3 last month. No where near potty training him. Parents aren't concerned at all, he'll go when he's ready. Sometimes he does, usually not.<br><br>
Other parents kid turns 3 next month. Everytime he goes, he gets 'hosed' down in the shower as punishment for not using the potty. He's nowhere closer to being 'trained' than the other kid at church.<br><br>
Don't push it or worry.
 
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