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Friends and family really want to have a baby shower for us. I'm invited in on the planning (thank god) and would love suggestions. I'm just not into the foo-foo and hokey. No ribbons on my head please, or passing diapers with chocolate in them.<br><br>
We are having a very small, intimate blessing way the same weekend. The shower will be pretty big, lots of relatives and neighbors (warm aquaintances, not close friends necessarily) Help!
 

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i would just have them throw more of a regular party than a typical baby shower... as in no games or silly decorations. just food, friends, and family. i did this during my last "shower" and loved it. it was so much more laid back and much more comfortable for the men-folk since i like it to be co-ed. the only thing slighty "foo foo" was the opening of the gifts, but who the hell doesn't like to open gifts? just make sure there is going to be lots of good food for that festive feel since you'll be skipping on games and such. and i don't know if your family or friends are the drinking type, but beer will definately make your shower more of a hit with the guys <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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I have the strong feelings about traditional baby showers--they make my skin crawl. Thankfully, my mom (the primary planner of ours) is willing to step outside her comfort zone and help plan something we'd really enjoy. We're going to have a very laid-back (come in your jeans and t-shirts), co-ed BBQ for all our friends and family. We're going to keep the food hearty and simple (burgers, chips, salads, beer/soda and cake) and the games to an absolute minimum (we'll do a board for people to guess when the baby will be born and the winner will get mailed a prize later, and then just have "regular" games--darts downstairs, croquet in the back yard, board games available for those that want to play them). We're hoping that it will be more like a celebratory party to spend time with all of the important people in our lives than a "shower". Best wishes to you for an enjoyable celebration!
 

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Thanks , those are both great suggestions. I feel lighter already!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink">
 

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My shower was a lot of fun, and not "traditional" at all...<br><br>
Basically, a few friends planned it and while I was out they decorated my living room in an Alice in Wonderland theme. I got to wear a "Queen of Hearts" crown and DH was given a vest with a pocket watch as the "White Rabbit"...but that was about as hokey as it got. All the food was Wonderland inspired and instead of silly baby games they arranged word games and brain teaser type things based on the other stuff written by Lewis Carroll (a math prof at Oxford). They also had a croquet game set up in the back yard but instead of mallets they had found plastic pink flamingoes at a dollar store (to mimic the game played in the Wonderland book). All my friends were invited so it was a "everyone come" affair too instead of a "girls only" sort of thing.<br><br>
It was fun and had enough "girly elements" to make my mom feel like it was a "proper" shower but non-traditional enough that I didn't want to run screaming from the room. Mostly it felt like a really fun theme party that wasn't "baby focused" but was more "let's all be silly and have fun hitting balls with plastic flamingos!" Which...ummmm...worked for me. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1"><br><br>
I hope you have a wonderful time with your friends...
 

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I'm having a shower in March, and there will be no games. I don't care about foo-foo decorations, that really isn't a big deal, and the people throwing it have fun with that kind of stuff. However, I don't want people measuring my belly, passing around "poopie" diapers to examine, drawing a baby with a blind fold on....no games!!<br>
It's going to be a nice social gathering with yummy food and lots of friends and family.<br>
I will say though, with my son, we had a co-ed shower around Halloween, and we had a huge costume party with games and silly antics. It was an absolute blast, and I wasn't the center of attention....I liked it that way.<br>
This shower is happening because I'm having a girl, so it's going to be girly (not co-ed). It's spring time, so we're going to decorate with flowers and pretty spring colors. We're going to have a Bellini bar with yummy caprice sandiches and salads. I'm making my cake, because it's THE cake I make for everybody's shower. There will be about 50 women (family and friends) just a nice time to sit and socialize and have good food.<br>
It doesn't have to be a cheesy baby themed party...it can just be a time to get together and celebrate a new life.
 

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At showers I've planned I've skipped all the games except one: I make a list of trivia questions about the mom, dad, and baby. Questions like: Where did the parents meet? Which states has the mom lived in? What's the baby's nickname? etc. It's a great way for those who don't know the family well to get to know them. I gave a gift to the best score and the worst score. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
I also gave a gift to the mom with the oldest child and the mom with the youngest child.<br><br>
I too detest the baby food eating and other assorted gross things. I agree with PPs - a laid back BBQ is a lot of fun and low-key. That would be my pick.
 

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The best baby shower I've ever gone to was a big co-ed poker party, and oh yeah, there are some gifts for the baby. Very nonshowerish -- and lots of fun.
 

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I am in the same boat. I think we're going to do a couple of things. I am definitely having a Blessingway with my sister, mom and several of my close girlfriends. For our "Shower", we are having a casual get-together with all of our friends and family, male and female alike. We are thinking of grilling out something and having lots of snacks and a cake. The only "baby game" that we are planning on doing is a baby birthday pool where everybody bets on the day and whoever wins gets the money, per my friends begging to do this. Otherwise I don't know what type of entertainment we'll have other than a few friends picking on their guitars and outside games like horseshoe and darts that we have set up in our outside play area.<br><br>
I really don't know what to call it though, (on invitations) because it won't really be a typical shower, but I definitely want gifts!!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"> Any ideas?
 

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...good ideas...<br><br>
my boss wanted to throw a shower and i said instead i'd rather have a little potluck-get-together after the baby comes so everyone can meet the little one.<br><br>
i have another friend who had a potluck, no games, and all the gifts had to be gently used items (b/c she didn't really need things anyway)
 

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My SIL's friends threw her a baby shower last year which was not your typical baby shower. It was more mama based and spiritual. I think they got some of the ideas from the book Birthing From Within. We all brought a bead that symbolized whatever we thought of and she made a bracelet out of it to wear during labor to remember all who believed in her ability. The part I really liked was when we all got a candle and made a circular contact list. When she went into labor we were all notified and lit our candles to create a circle of bright faith and support for her.<br>
It was all very sweet and culminated in a pot luck with all the men joining (they had gone on a hike together as his part of the baby shower - which was really bonding and made him feel more supported as well) The only 'normal' part was the gift giving in the end which went well also.<br>
Oh- we all painted onsies too! (Non toxic, natural paint of course)<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/blahblah.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="blah blah"><br><br>
Good luck and have fun!
 

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We had a big co-ed BBQ. It was lots of fun and not at all "showery".
 

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At one friend's shower we all brought beads to make her a birth necklace, which was really sweet.<br><br>
At another shower, we all were given 3x5 cards and asked to write about something our mother did that made us feel loved (or a similar favorite memory). (The answers ranged from teaching us to love our bodies to making french toast together every Sunday.) We read them aloud & then they were then all put into a nice little book for the mom
 
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