I know it's early to be thinking about this but do you have a shower with your second? When they are within 2 years of each other? We are not finding out what the gender is so that limits things a lot and I don't even know if I want to have a shower considering with DS, we got nothing we had on our registry...everyone got what they thought they should get. We have very specific things that we actually need this time around not want like bumgenius cloth diapers, an infant hammock, particular breastmilk storage containers, etc... I just don't know if I feel comfortable but I also don't want to be offended is no one offers either! I don't know....what is the expectation??? My close friend does want to do a blessingway so I am excited about that. I want to celebrate the life within me not have obilgatory gifts brought!!!! Maybe I should just hold to that and anything else, I will just return if I can??? i don't know! What do you ladies think???