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We had our 2nd therapy session today, and when it was over I gave dsd her new earbuds so she can listen with one ear while hanging out with the rest of us.<br><br>
She was pouty and sullen on the way, but came out smiling. We both threw issues out there and discussed them together with the doc, then she talked with him alone. We had a lot of discussion about natural consequences and how I am trying to change from a yelling punishing mom to a GD and calm mom. I told her I expected her to do at least as much work as I was when it comes to getting along, and there would be no name calling by ANYONE in our household. We will both be mindful of our tone of voice and facial expression and remind each other when we slip up.<br><br>
We touched on the weekly question she asks me, 'did you and dad start dating while mommy was alive?' and the fact that she KNOWS we didn't, and that was just a nasty thing her aunt said trying to cause trouble.<br><br>
An interesting side note, the interfering aunt has been informed by dh's grown son that she is not welcome in his home or at his wedding due to some of her recent behavior. Hopefully in time dsd will come to recognize that teaching her to be sneaky and spiteful was not in her best interest.
 

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I sure hope so. I will be glad when I find a way to not be 'rubbed the wrong way' by dsd so often. We have very different personalities, and we may always clash, but if we can just get to where there is mutual respect in our daily dealings, it can't help but get better. I think the slow reactions and slow moving is just part of how she is, and I have to remember it isn't just to bug me, because she does it with everybody.<br><br>
It's scary how annoyed and enraged I can get sometimes, and I don't know how much to blame on medications and illness, and how much to blame on the parenting styles I've been exposed to.<br><br>
The belly dance thing is a huge help, since not only is it just us girls, she is actually going to pass me up once she gets the hang of it because she's a natural where I'm a klutz.
 
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