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So, ds1 seems to have heard somewhere that he is shy. I'm not sure, but I can certainly see that coming from my mil. In any case, he seems to be clinging to that label. My dh took him to and picked him up from his preschool summer camp yesterday. Ds1 told dh that everyone had snowcones, but he didn't. He said that they asked him if he wanted one, but he was too shy so he didn't answer. I'd really like to get him to think of himself some other way. I was/am "shy" and introverted and it is painful to see how he acts sometimes. I really think that if I can come up with a way to talk to him about it, things could be a bit different. I don't want or expect him to be crazy extroverted, but he is definitely holding back and keeping himself out of things more since I discovered the word shy. I guess I'm just asking for any advice on how to talk to him about this that doesn't involve pushing him to do things he doesn't want to do. I could tell him that it's okay to take a little while to warm up to people and situations, and that I'm the same way, but I'm afraid that will just get him to be more attached to the shy label.