[mamamillet]

I have a six yo ds that can be on the shy side. This past spring he wanted to play baseball. We did and he loved it! We were able to get on the same team as a school friend and I think that helped a lot. Well this fall he decided he wanted to play soccer. I gave him the choice of soccer or baseball (can't afford to do both either finacially or time wise) he chose soccer. His age group has soccer evaluations, not tryouts but evalutaions to try and balance the teams. Everyone plays and I have heard good things about the league. ANyway, tonight were the evalutaions and ds lost it. He was hesitant when we got there but I went out on the field and kicked around with him before the coach rounded them up and he was enjoying himself. I watched from the far side of the field with the other parents and things apperad to be going fine. Then I noticed that ds was standing next to the coah away from the action and pointing in my direction. As I walked over I could tell he was upset and crying. Well, he said it was stupid and did not want to do it. He sadi he did not like everyone yelling and telling him what to do. After some discussion later on I was able to gather that there was one kid ( why is there always that one kid?) that was being kind of bossy and mean. I have told him lets wait and see. That they will be picking teams this weekend and we will have practice next week. I am, at thi point, encouraging that we at least go to a practice and see what its like. He was sooooo excited about thie the last few weeks, and even today was dressed and ready an hour before we had to leave. I was torn between feeling bad for ds and frustrated about him giving up so quickly. Anyone else ever deal with something similar? Any advice?

Sorry this is so long...

 

[3timesamama]

My boys are really shy also! My 6 year old is getting ready to start soccer and I'm nervous about it.
My older son who's 10 now started soccer at 5 and had kind of a hard time with it, but it helped that his dad volunteered as a coach.
A couple years later we put him in football and I really think football is what brought him out of his shyness. Of course he's still a little shy, but he has lots of friends and can make friends with anyone. Another thing I think that helped us when he was in football was we made friends with other parents and because of that our kids became best friends and they looked forward to practice every day since they'd get to see each other.
So I think if you just hang in there it will really help him in the long run!