Our two boys (age 7 and almost 5) are having so many sibling issues it’s pushing my husband and I over the edge. We’re yelling, threatening and all of the above over their hourly/by the the minute conflicts. Everything is an argument, the little one antagonizes the big one and the big one takes EVERYTHING so personal. I have tried the whole “narrator vs referee” and trying to validate feelings and that doesn’t work either. We are at a loss and it’s causing stress in our family. Please help! Here’s an example of a recent argument. Younger brother was making waffles, I told him to get the syrup from the pantry it was too high so he came back to get a stool. Older brother thinking he was helping goes in to get it and younger brother says “hey mom told me to get the syrup”. Older brother got mad and got in his face and he doesn’t hit him but he will touch him on his arm in an aggressive way. Older brother said “he was being rude to me and he is always rude to me”. Something like this happens every hour or more. We’re exhausted, please help.