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Sick baby - I am getting so stressed out

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My nearly 4 month old DS has a UTI/Kidney INfection. He was in the hospital earlier this week for 3 days but is now home. I am starting to get so exhausted and stressed out. He is a fussy baby at the best of times and very difficult to nurse. Before he was sick it was a full time job getting enough breastmilk in him. Now he is more fussy, more tired, I have to give him oral antibiotics 4 times a day and he is have lots of diarrhea (from the antibiotics) that keeps leaking out of his diapers.

My DH is wonderful but he has to work all day (very important in view of this recent hospital stuff that he keep that great job and great insurance). We have no family in town and all my friends are very busy. PLUS, even if someone could come help me out I cannot be away from DS for very long because of his nursing pattern (basically wants to nurse multiple times an hour for 2-3 minutes at a time).

I. Am. Exhausted.

I do not think there is anything else I can be doing right now other than caring for him constantly. But I am feeling burned out. I usually have endless patience but I feel it wearing thin. I can tell because I am more inpatient with out dogs and my DH.

I just need some words of encouragement and support.
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That sounds really hard. Are you using cloth or disposable diapers? A lot of moms say cloth leaks that runny poo less than sposies do.

Hope things look up soon!

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Couldn't read and not post.

If you can't do anything else but take care of you and your ds right now, then don't do it. It will keep. Tell dh that you both need to recover from this and you need his help keeping the basics done at home. It's ok to put people before things like laundry, dishes, etc. It will get done eventually. Could you possibly hire a maid temporarily to help you with things at home? Is there a teenage neighbor (mother's helper) who could come after school to help with cleaning, or holding your ds while you get a shower and a snack?

Things will settle down and get back to normal. You just need to give it some time. And come on here for as many hugs as you need.
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First of all, I'm so sorry your babe is sick! How much longer on the meds? Hopefully soon so you can get back to some of your more regular days/nights.

Can your DH give you some breaks when he's home? Sometimes a shower or bath or whatever for an hour can really rejuvenate... I hope it's over soon and that he is well!
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hugs to you mama! such a trying time for both mama and son. difficult as it is to bear while it lasts, this too shall pass. meantime, see if DH can help in any way in the limited time he has. someone mentioned cloth diapers, i don't know if at this time you can deal with the somewhat additional work that involves. do what you have to and no more. you sound like a very caring and conscientious person, and i am hoping this tough phase resolves soon. hang in there. sending good wishes your way. let us know how it is going.
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