[Worldshakerz]

Well, it is getting to the point now where my husband is adamant about our almost 8 month old sleeping in his crib. Boohoo! I love Jakob sleeping next to me. It's gotten to the point though where my husband more often than not will fall asleep on the couch watching tv because he feels more comfortable that way. Jakob is sleeping longer stretches so I think it could work now, but I'm not ready! We have his crib in our room right now...I did try it the other night and guess what, I couldn't sleep! My Jakob was fine, sleeping soundly. But I just kept peeking over into the crib, tossing and turning, listening for him. He wakes at night to eat, and I love that I don't have to get up to feed him. And I really love it when he wakes me up smiling! His feedings are so short at night, maybe he might even skip a feeding if he is in the crib and not right next to mommy's boobies.
Despite all the things I'll miss, I am going to start trying harder (after that time a few nights ago I haven't really tried at all). I really want my dh to sleep in our bed again....but he better cuddle! And I told him if he really insists Jakob sleep in the crib....he needs to take on a night feeding with some ebm!
*Sniffle*

 

[Quaniliaz]

Would side-car-ing (I don't think that is a word...but you know what I mean) be an acceptable comprimise?? Presumable your husband is more comfortable on the couch because he doesn't have enough room on the bed - side carring would help - plus you'd still be right next to your baby...

 

[Hibou]

I have a 2 yr old, and on the occasions that he has slept in his own bed (in our room) for a few hours, I can't sleep either, even now. I keep waking up to check on him. No words of advice, sorry, just empathy.

I hope you find a sol'n that works for you all soon.

 

[Overproducktion]

My husband said the same thing about all of our kids. "They need to be in their own beds!" Guess where he ended up sleeping? The couch. When he realized that I would not budge on my decision he would come back to bed. And guess who I see cuddling with our little ones in the morning? Mr. Grumpy pants himself. But I do make sure we make time for "alone" time together--if you know what I mean.

Good luck. I know that not all men are pushovers like my husband.

 

[HRC121799]

see if he'll do the sidecar thing, a few friends of mine have gotten their dh's to do that when they weren't keen on co-sleeping for longer. (sorry no capitals, holding baby while typing one handed)

 

[HRC121799]

and good luck too!

 

[Piglet68]

what, exactly, is his problem with it?

if it's space, a bigger bed, another bed beside you, or a sidecar would be one suggestion.

if he thinks it is just bad for baby, find him some literature he can read to show him otherwise.

personally, I would tell my husband to have fun sleeping on the couch. let me tell you something that I'm experiencing first hand: babies grow up, and they do so very fast. you will never have these nights with your baby back. cherish each one.

peace...

 

[zipworth]

Piglet! So true about them growing up so fast.........sigh.

 

[maddysmama]

I support you trusting your instincts on this one, worldshakerz. That's what they're there for!

Good luck, and keep us posted.