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I know that's a rhetorical (sp?) question because it's only one I can answer, but I still would like some input.
When Owen was almost 2 months old I moved back in with my dad (was living with Owen's dad). It was supposed to be a temporary solution, until I can get on my feet. It's now a year and a half later and we're still here. At the beginning he was good about not swearing/yelling/ect in front of my DS. But it's all gone downhill and I'm getting tired of it. He has my 9 year old sister every weekend (Friday night to Monday morning) and any additional days she wants to spend over here and can sucker mom into letting her. I love her but that child causes such a HUGE amount of stress and anger on everyone here. I won't go into details but she has issues she needs to work on, but it seems that neither dad or mom are going to do anything about it (mom's denying anything's going on and dad just sits there and blames mom
). Monday-Thursday it is so peaceful here (Owen and I are here alone with my 19 year old brother b/c my dad works then). Come the weekend all h*ll breaks loose and I just want to run away. And whenever I DO try and leave, go shopping, a park, whatever dad makes a huge deal out of it and guilt trips me into going with him (and most of the time the 9 year old). Like I can't handle a trip to the park with my DS alone
: We had 2 outings this weekend that we took her along on and she did a wonderful job of ruining both. By the time we got home people were screaming and I just wanted to take Owen and run.
I don't want Owen exposed to this, obviously, and have asked MANY times that it stop. It's become very obvious it won't. My problem is- I don't know if I can afford to move out. I don't make a lot ($150/week, plus $339/month in child support). I guess I could always try and find a 3rd child to watch as extra income, but I don't want to stretch myself too thin and have my DS suffer because of it. I'm working on a degree right now but it'll probably be another 2 years or so before I get that finished.
Sorry, I guess this just turned into a vent
When Owen was almost 2 months old I moved back in with my dad (was living with Owen's dad). It was supposed to be a temporary solution, until I can get on my feet. It's now a year and a half later and we're still here. At the beginning he was good about not swearing/yelling/ect in front of my DS. But it's all gone downhill and I'm getting tired of it. He has my 9 year old sister every weekend (Friday night to Monday morning) and any additional days she wants to spend over here and can sucker mom into letting her. I love her but that child causes such a HUGE amount of stress and anger on everyone here. I won't go into details but she has issues she needs to work on, but it seems that neither dad or mom are going to do anything about it (mom's denying anything's going on and dad just sits there and blames mom



I don't want Owen exposed to this, obviously, and have asked MANY times that it stop. It's become very obvious it won't. My problem is- I don't know if I can afford to move out. I don't make a lot ($150/week, plus $339/month in child support). I guess I could always try and find a 3rd child to watch as extra income, but I don't want to stretch myself too thin and have my DS suffer because of it. I'm working on a degree right now but it'll probably be another 2 years or so before I get that finished.
Sorry, I guess this just turned into a vent
