[frontierpsych]

Even here on MDC, people see my siggy and say stuff like "Good luck with your homebirth. *I* had to have a c-section. I'm SO lucky I was in a hospital!" in a really consescending way.

 

[Arwyn]

Awwww...

Don't let it get you down. (Yea, yea, easier said than done. Sorry.

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[shell024]

Well I just recently read a real hospital horror story in which one thing after another went wrong because of mistakes on the staff's part and all I have to say is *I* am so happy that I had a homebirth...UNASSISTED!

It does make me sad though, knowing that such horrible things can go on...geeze.. Hospitals are for emergencies!

 

[MamaRabbit]

You are giving birth at the safest place you can... your home!

You will do wonderfully!

 

[prettypixels]

Or you could watch the Baby Story on Discovery Channel for a real eye opener!

Better yet, check out Snakes on a Home Birth... which mocks all those fears in a truly hilarious way!

 

[tiffany21074]

oh....that was so funny!!!!

 

[freebirth2]

Yeah I liked that video. I think that it was trying to say that all homebirths can be safe if you get rid of the fears and negativity and be completley positive, and trust in your body there won't be any complications.

Laura Shanley: When we truly accept the fact that we create our own reality, all fear of pain or complications in childbirth vanishes.

I hate when when we talk about UP/UC they say oh well I had a great hospital birth, well you must have been the small # of women that got lucky.
It frustrates me that women want to go to hospitals. Why can't women see that homebirth is alot safer. I have given out UC phamphlets, but no one from durango, co has come a UC forum, and said they are from durango.

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[veganf]

That's too bad. I wouldn't think you'd encounter that style of thinking here. I occasionally hear people IRL tell me negative things about having a homebirth, though it's mostly from doctors, LOL. Stay strong. You know what you're doing!

 

[frontierpsych]

Thanks. I think she meant I'd never given birth before so I *obviously* have no clue about it, or something to that extend. And fwiw, I do consider myself a mother already: I'm doing my very best to care for the life inside of me. My decisions already directly affect her.

 

[unimatrix0]

I did have a c-section and there are so many things I wish I had done differently. I love hearing about mommas who take charge of their own births! I think you're doing awesome!

 

[itsang]

Don't let them get you down. I see your siggy & say, "you're my hero!"

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[2Sweeties1Angel]

I've had 2 c-sections and I'm planning an unassisted homebirth this time around. I made the mistake of mentioning it to my friend and you know what she said? "I think a homebirth would be cool but way too many things could go wrong. You're better off in a hospital because while you may *think* you know everything, you really don't!" WTF???? I'm not stupid--if something even starts to go wrong I'll transfer. She about crapped herself when she realized that I'm planning to catch my own baby.

Most people just aren't ready to step outside of their comfort zone.

 

[CryPixie83]

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Originally Posted by itsang Don't let them get you down. I see your siggy & say, "you're my hero!" :

I see the siggy and get jealous... I wanted to UC my first but DH couldn't handle it

I think it's totally friggin awesome!

 

[CryPixie83]

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Originally Posted by 2Sweeties1Angel I've had 2 c-sections and I'm planning an unassisted homebirth this time around. I made the mistake of mentioning it to my friend and you know what she said? "I think a homebirth would be cool but way too many things could go wrong. You're better off in a hospital because while you may *think* you know everything, you really don't!"

Gaaaah! I just wanna thwap people upside the head for saying stuff like that. That's like saying "I may go outside and get hit by a bus today so I'm just going to sit here on the couch because it's safer"

: Seriously... you can't live life by only thinking of what could go wrong...

 

[MamaTaraX]

On MDC even??? That's depressing. You'll be fantastic!

Namaste, Tara

 

[moongoddess176]

Just trust yourself and remember that as much as we would like to, we have no control over other people and what they do or say, but that has nothing to do with you. That is their issue to sort out!! Anything that people say, says more about themselves than it does about the situation or person they are refering to. So if people are responding negatively to you, just remind yourself that it says more about their fears than anything else! Best of luck and I am also planning a UC for my first!!

 

[djinneyah]

don't worry, mama! ignore those who are less educated and open-minded.

personally, i wish i'd had the sense to UC the first time around. thank god i opened my mind before i got pg with dd!

you're doing a wonderful thing, mama, don't ever forget that!

 

[Emilie]

yes....i am finding that too...... I hate to see it here.

It also seems there are some here who are wanting to educate us on the dangers of vaginal birth at all- and that makes me very mad. That is NOT what mdc is about.

 

[2bluefish]

Whew, BTDT - I've been on birth boards and UC boards for about 4 years now. I started researching and talking before I was even pregnant with #1. I've heard it all. I was criticized for not being a mother. My thoughts were disregarded. I was even asked to stop talking or leave one UC board because some mother was uncomfortable that I joined in discussions! I've been criticized for believing in UC. I've been criticized for "not trusting enough". I've been criticized for believing childbirth doesn't have to be painful.... I've been in debates and discussions through 2 pregnancies and post partum now - I've come to one conclusion - I *did* have some things to learn AND those people didn't have it all figured out either!

Try not to let it get you down. I know I've made myself sick with anxiety before about things that were said to me on boards. I have to cut myself off when I feel that happening. Sometimes it *is* my issue and sometimes it is theirs.

 

[thefragile7393]

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Originally Posted by frontierpsych Thanks. I think she meant I'd never given birth before so I *obviously* have no clue about it, or something to that extend. And fwiw, I do consider myself a mother already: I'm doing my very best to care for the life inside of me. My decisions already directly affect her.

I think I know what you mean. Every time I mentioned I was giving birth without drugs in water people would always tell me "oh you'll change your mind once the pain hits!" or give me these sympathetic looks like "oh she has no idea what is in store for her." I hated it. And guess what?? I got my waterbirth!

I think you're awesome for going outside the norm and doing homebirth!