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I know it's such a touchy subject and a hard one to deal with. I've never experienced one. Now I'm hearing you can feel no different & just miscarry and not know it unless you go and hear a heartbeat. That just sounds so scary and sad. I would never be alarmed unless there was bleeding or bad pains. I was going against a u/s, but now I really want one.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I was going against a u/s, but now I really want one.</div>
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My opinion is if your insurance will pay for it and you can afford it if it eases your mind it is worth it. Stressing during pregnancy is not good either. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I know it's such a touchy subject and a hard one to deal with. I've never experienced one. Now I'm hearing you can feel no different & just miscarry and not know it unless you go and hear a heartbeat. That just sounds so scary and sad. I would never be alarmed unless there was bleeding or bad pains. I was going against a u/s, but now I really want one.</div>
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Well ... eventually you would know it. Eventually either your HCP would realize that you aren't gaining fundal height on schedule, or you would show signs of infection, or begin to bleed. Still doesn't make the unknown easier to deal with. If it helps you make your decision, <a href="http://www.womens-health.co.uk/miscarriage/missed.html" target="_blank">this site</a> says only 1% of all confirmed pregnancies will result in a missed miscarriage, out of 10% of all confirmed pregnancies that will miscarry.
 

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I worry about this, too. My first ultrasound is in a couple weeks and I'm so afraid there will be no heartbeat. I have no particular reason to be afraid, just general paranoia. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">
 

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My own experience, two years ago, pregnant for the first time... at about 5 and a half weeks, I started spotting brown and pink, not very heavy, so I was brought in for an early ultrasound. Fetus was visible, a little smaller than I thought it should be (I was pretty sure of my dates since I'd been charting), and no heartbeat. Since it was early, I still had some hope, but a followup scan the next week showed no heartbeat, no growth, and the yolk sack appeared to be beginning to break up. Meanwhile, the spotting stopped completely, and my morning sickness continued to be very intense up until into my 12th week, when I finally miscarried (with a vengeance!). So I know it's possible to have lots of pregnancy symptoms for weeks and not be carrying a viable fetus.<br><br>
It took a long time and lots of trying, but I am now in the sixth week of my next (last?) pregnancy, so far, so good. I go in next Tuesday for my first scan and I am wishing and hoping to finally see that little heartbeat at last.
 

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I have chose not to have a u/s this time for several reasons. One reason is if it is a missed m/c I don't think I want to know right now. My 3rd pg ended in m/c. the baby died at about 8 wks and I didn't start to bleed until a little after 12. That is when the m/c was confirmed and I birthed the baby w/in 24 hours. I would not have wanted to find out at 8 wks and have to walk around for 4+ wks knowing I had a dead baby inside me, just waiting to m/c and i did not want a d & C so depending on how you would want to proceed sometimes not knowing is just better.
 

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I had a missed mc at 6 weeks (lost baby at 13! I carried baby longer than baby grew<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">)<br><br>
However... I did not see a doctor before 12 weeks. They didn't want me in before then. I had NO signs that I was losing baby. I was sick, I had cravings, had all of my usual symptoms.<br><br>
This is why I now get ultrasounds early in pregnancies. But that's my own experience and how I deal with it. It is hard for me to comprehend having carried my baby for 7 weeks... nearly 2 months... after it ceased to thrive. That was 2 months of cravings, morning sickness and worrying how I would raise the baby that I could have never dealt with.<br><br>
When I went in at 9 weeks this time I was so scared they would not find a heartbeat. I was watching the screen and baby was not moving so I automatically thought the worst... but it turned out she was just sleeping. Her heartbeat was 179!<br><br>
So really... its 100% up to you. You cant prevent a miscarriage in most cases. An ultrasound will not change the results. And the chances that you go through what I did are pretty rare... but it happens. If I did not have a history of HG (severe morning sickness) I probably wouldn't do it myself but I cant handle, in my mind, trying to be okay with getting so sick for basically no reason.
 

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A few weeks ago I had constant cramping and the odd discharge spot. So I asked my midwife to prescribe me an early u/s, which she said would ease my mind if all was well. When finally, this Monday, the day of the u/s had come and I saw the heartbeat and heard that all was well, I felt only mildly relieved - because I realized that deep down I already knew it was going well and it almost felt silly to rely on the image. I am still glad I had the u/s, so I have the evidence to ease my nerves when they do play up, and therefore I can recommend it. But I would more strongly recommend getting 'in touch' with how you feel about your pregnancy and take it from there. If all is well, then the u/s is just a nice confirmation.
 

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This terrifies me. I've had almost no symptoms and have my first OB appointment next week. I was taking some drugs that are class C until 2 days before my missed period. Plus, I used a heating pad one night when I had that stomach virus. I just fear that this will be our fate. I've been obsessively thinking about it every day/night. It's awful.
 

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Can't you just do the doppler if you don't want an ultrasound to hear the heartbeat?<br>
I never had an ultrasound with the girls but I did do the doppler.<br>
I'm not someone who normally worries about things I can't control but because I have already told the girls they could go with us to our appointment next week (when we should be able to hear the heartbeat for the first time) I am really hoping it all goes well.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Can't you just do the doppler if you don't want an ultrasound to hear the heartbeat?<br>
I never had an ultrasound with the girls but I did do the doppler.<br>
I'm not someone who normally worries about things I can't control but because I have already told the girls they could go with us to our appointment next week (when we should be able to hear the heartbeat for the first time) I am really hoping it all goes well.</div>
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Doppler uses ultrasound waves too.
 

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I didn't mean for anyone else to think about-it's just something I've been slightly concerned about for some reason. Maybe b/c my best friend had a very early mc before she got pregnant this time around. Maybe b/c I have a 2 yr old I'm taking care of-I don't really know. We haven't "announced" to everyone so it's almost like we r being cautious for some reason. I'm just going to pray about since there's nothing I can do. A heartbeat will make me happy in a few weeks though. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> thanks for listening & sharing ur stories.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I know it's such a touchy subject and a hard one to deal with. I've never experienced one. Now I'm hearing you can feel no different & just miscarry and not know it unless you go and hear a heartbeat. That just sounds so scary and sad. I would never be alarmed unless there was bleeding or bad pains. I was going against a u/s, but now I really want one.</div>
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This is a reason I want one. Like another pp said, I too have terrible morning sickness. I personally could not carry a baby for weeks and have morning sickness knowing that it will just end. For some reason I am very scared this time around because my morning sickness is so bad, I decided I don't want to carry any more children, so I really want to know right away so we can make other plans for maybe adoption
 

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My second pregnancy ended in miscarriage right after the 11 week mark. I hadn't yet been to the doctor or midwife and I was visiting my family on the other side of the US. I had stopped feeling the queasiness around 9 weeks, but I figured I was past it, but I got a little spot of blood one night and knew that was the end. Then I thought maybe it was fine, I should go to the ER and get it checked out. They did an u/s and basically told me there was no baby, it had stopped developing awhile back, there was just a fetal sac and poles or something like that, and that I would start miscarrying soon. I had taken a pregnancy test around 6 weeks just because I was worried, and it was positive. So I don't really know when the whole thing happened, and someone told me maybe it was just a blighted ovum, which didn't really make me feel any better about it, but I never did hear a heartbeat one way or another.<br><br>
Now when the miscarriage actually happened, that was unmistakable, definitely not like a regular menstrual cycle. When I was pregnant again, the OB did a transvaginal u/s right away, just to hear the heartbeat.
 

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I know, but I thought it used less. Perhaps I am using the wrong word...there is no imaging in what I was talking about just sound.
 

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I unfortunately hold a membership in that most unlucky club. I've had two missed m/c's, I found out with both of them via 7/8 week dating/viability sono. The first one I started to spot around 6 1/2 weeks. The second I induced the m/c at 8 weeks and the third happened naturally (with a mini water break) at 9 weeks. The first and third were blighted ovum's.<br><br>
I go for this babies viability scan tomorrow. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/om.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="meditate"><br><br>
I know some folks would rather not know until they miscarry but I'd rather know (even if that means waiting around for the m/c to happen). Neither is easy but it's a personal decision.
 

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I had a missed m/c at 5 weeks with my first pregnancy. It was confirmed by ultrasound at 8.5 weeks. I chose to have a d&c. I still had morning sickness, dizziness and everything else. I just did not want to have to wait it out. I was too devastated.<br><br>
I always get early ultrasounds now for piece of mind.
 

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I was pregnant last December. I was 13 weeks so I thought I was out of the water when it came to m/c. I was wrong. i started light brown spotting and it lasted a few days. By the 3rd day I talked my Midwife into ordering me a us. well No baby. A few days later the miscarriage started, the worst feeling ever! It hurt more than my natural delivery of my dd. I miscarried on New years eve with a little break for the ball dropping then more blood. I spend a few hours standing in the tub just bleeding. All of that to say this time around I got a scan at 6 weeks to see the heartbeat for piece of mind. It helped! I am also glad (I guess that is the best word) that I found out before I actually did miscarry because I was able to deal with the emotional stuff first and then the horrid pain! I don't know if I could have taken it all at the same time, out of state and in the middle of nowhere.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I know, but I thought it used less. Perhaps I am using the wrong word...there is no imaging in what I was talking about just sound.</div>
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I assume you were talking about Doppler fetoscopes, AKA Doptones. Most Doptones and EFMs (used often in labor) do use a lower intensity of ultrasound wave, but it is a continuous exposure instead of a pulsed exposure like the imaging ultrasounds. Is it safer to have a pulsed wave of higher intensity? Or a continuous wave of lower intensity? Is either one really safe? That's the point. We just don't know.<br><br>
ETA: <a href="http://www.plus-size-pregnancy.org/Prenatal%20Testing/prenataltest-ultrasoundsafety.htm" target="_blank">this site</a> has a good discussion of the different ultrasound technologies used on pregnant women.
 

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I have some light, brown spotting today and some light cramps. Yeah... I have a not-so-good feeling about this.
 
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