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Okay, I am on a bit of a rampage here. Never visited the pet portion to hello everyone.<br><br>
I have been a pet owner and lover my entire life. My spouse is also a pet owner/lover.<br><br>
If I counted the money we have spent either directly on the animals or incidentally like building a fence they can still get out of or buying the worming, peeing, de-stinking-stuff we would be one heck of a well-off family.<br><br>
I am so irritated at the animals but mostly me right now. When do I learn to close my heart down so I am not driving 6 hours round trip to rescue a dog we don't need, don't want, will spend a lot more on.....? Or how about the fact that my hand crafted stairs have been chewed to pieces at the base and along the railings? Maybe it's the kitchen cupboards that have been chewed even more. I love my critters, truly I do. And really we are relatively low in numbers right now. These numbers will never go up again. But the money!!! The damage, the stepping in poop at 2:30 in the morning because Katie has worms again. Why didn't we just buy a parrot 25 years ago and that would be that? A life-time pet. Naa, we would rather have our hearts, health, wallet, house crumble repeatedly. More fun that way I suppose. Never can have nice things. Our whole life is built around keeping dogs on one side or the other. Now I know I don't wanna die and at the end say; "look, I have the most marbles", but I would like a little less crazy stuff now and a lot more money. Can't they just adjust and be nice little doggies for a while?
 

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Not sure if you've ever had a parrot, but contrary to popular belief, they are not low maintenance pets. Not if you want to be a good parrot owner anyway.<br><br>
That aside, it sounds like you are feeling overwhelmed. Were you just as overwhelmed when your numbers were higher or is your life just stressful right now?<br><br>
I think it's good to know your limits. For us, it means one or two dogs (one right now.) The most pets I've had at once were 2 cockatiels, 2 quaker parrots, and a dog. Plus a foster dog. Even though I loved them all, I'll admit it was stressful to keep the cockatiels away from the aggressive quakers and all the birds away from the dog/s, and when my son was younger, to keep him away from the birds.<br><br>
I didn't resent the pets, but I learned to think more carefully before bringing pets home. My earlier pet decisions were more based on wanting something else and when I couldn't have that, getting my second choice. I still loved my pets (!), but I realize now that my reasons for getting them weren't the best.<br><br>
I got my first cockatiel because we couldn't have a dog in our on-campus apartment, but I really, really wanted a pet. I got the second cockatiel so our first one wouldn't be lonely. And I loved, loved, loved them so much (still do--they are at a new home because I developed hypersensitivity pneumonitis (bird fancier's lung) and ended up in the hospital on oxygen last spring.) But I was always worried (we had them 9 years) they'd get hurt or something because they are so small and fragile compared to dogs.<br><br>
A few years later, I wanted a dog still. My husband kept saying no, so I got my first quaker parrot. Then I got another one. And the next day brought home a dog anyway. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/Sheepish.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Sheepish">:<br><br>
And the reason I wanted a dog so much is because I really wanted to have a baby, but my husband kept saying, "When we're more financially stable." <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment"><br><br>
Now that it's just my husband, son, dog, and I, it's much simpler and less stressful. I wish dogs had longer lives, because we have the perfect dog for us.<br><br>
How did your pets come to you? Will you do things differently in the future?
 

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Hi Mom of cutie. Our Dogs came to us throgh one type of rescue or another. I love our family. What I was asking was how to be frugal with all of the animals and the irresponsibility of spending so much on them. Now I currently have three keeping my bed warm. I love them. I buy the best food etc, and then we do without. Thats the question.
 

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I *think* I understand the question.<br><br>
It sounds like you have a few different issues.<br><br>
Part of living frugally is good organization, good luck, and good organization <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> I struggle with this daily!<br><br>
If you are stepping in dog mess and feel the house is chaotic and overwhelming, you *can* do something about that. It can make a difference to your budget.<br><br>
It doesn't sound like the dogs have a very strict routine. If they are peeing on stuff and stinking up the house, only you can change that.<br><br>
Are the dogs crate trained? Do you have basic obedience down? Is there a set routine for the day? All of this is very important to keeping the house under some control with that many animals. Also, a routine helps you notice health problems before they get out of control. You will notice if your pet is acting strange, not eating at the normal time, acting sluggish during the walk etc.<br><br>
Health problems--remember that stress...including *your* stress level...can impact the overall health of pets. Get organized, get them on a routine, make sure you have a safe place to put them so you can get a break.<br><br>
Diet-good food is important to good health but it doesn't have to break the bank. You can read up on threads here about this, but when I am organized enough to buy, prepare, and property freeze meat for the cats, it is *not* that costly. Others have said the same for dogs. Buying prepared foods is very costly. The more I can prepare on my own, the bigger the savings. Then you can supplement with a mid-grade kibble if necessary, and the dogs are still getting a better diet than most.
 

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Momtomany-- I saw this post earlier, your first post sounded so overwhelmed (maybe you were having one of thos super stressful mom days that happen to al of us every once in a while). I wondered if maybe if you posted more about your situation if we could write specific situations. How many/what kind of animals do you have? Did you have the animals long before your kids arrived?<br><br>
I understand that having a family is so much hard work, and topping that off with a lot of pets who have very specific and time consuming needs and that can make it tough.<br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 
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