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As I'm going to the garbage to dump out the bones from making stock, while I have all the ingredients for egg-free mayonnaise on the counter, and dishes half-done in the sink, a pile of dirt beside my broom and dustpan waiting to be swept and thrown out, a mop and full bucket of water waiting for the pile of dirt to be swept so I can mop the floor, I am approached by DS1:<br><br>
"Mom, since you have nothing to do, can you play with me?"<br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">:<br>
I love him to death and I really *want* to go play with him, but there's all this stuff to do. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"><br>
On the other hand, the dirt will still be there tomorrow but tomorrow he'll be one day closer to not being my baby anymore.<br>
This started out as a vent, since it seems all too often lately that both DS1 and DH think I "have nothing to do".
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/hug2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Hug2"> I was discussing work with my son and he talked about how hard daddy works. I asked if he thought mommy worked hard. He said Oh yes. I was like thanks! He says "But daddy has a REAL job". We then got to discuss that being a mommy is a joy but also a job.<br><br>
Enjoy your time with your little guy, and maybe let him know just how much mommy really does.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">This started out as a vent, since it seems all too often lately that both DS1 and DH think I "have nothing to do".</div>
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How come no one ever says, "Since you have nothing to do, why don't you take a long hot bath, read a book, and sip some wine?" <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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Aaww. I think we've all been in that position. My husband started working from home about 8 months ago, and has become much more respectful of my job since then.<br><br>
I say go outside and play with your little man. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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Well, today I excitedly told my mom that I will start working one night a week at the gym childwatch (free gym membership) and she said: "well, it's about time you had something to do!!" I am SAHM to 2DC under 3. And, she was a SAHM until I was 9......... Love her dearly, chose to ignore her remark!
 

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My husband tried the "you have it easy compared to me" line once. I nearly castrated him on the spot and told him that if he ever said something like that again I would assume it was because he wanted a divorce <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"> It had been a rough day; I may have overreacted just a tad... but he hasn't said that again!
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">As I'm going to the garbage to dump out the bones from making stock, while I have all the ingredients for egg-free mayonnaise on the counter, and dishes half-done in the sink, a pile of dirt beside my broom and dustpan waiting to be swept and thrown out, a mop and full bucket of water waiting for the pile of dirt to be swept so I can mop the floor, I am approached by DS1:<br><br>
"Mom, since you have nothing to do, can you play with me?"<br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">:<br>
I love him to death and I really *want* to go play with him, but there's all this stuff to do. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"><br>
On the other hand, the dirt will still be there tomorrow but tomorrow he'll be one day closer to not being my baby anymore.<br>
This started out as a vent, since it seems all too often lately that both DS1 and DH think I "have nothing to do".</div>
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That's when this mom would have said "I'd <b>LOVE</b> to play with you. Why don't you help me with all this 'nothingness' and then we'll go and have some fun!"<br><br>
Then, they can see all that you do, you'll get help AND you'll have time to connect <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">
 

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I got DS1 to sweep up my dirt, dry my dishes and put away the ones he can reach while I made the mayo. Then we went out and played catch for a little while and I mopped when I got back in. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"><br>
He wanted to play with me longer but I was worried DS2 would wake up from his nap while we were out and disturb DH, who was working.
 

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I think you made a great compromise! Not only did he learn about the work you do, he further learned some valuable skills, and he learned more about taking turns! Awesome! I think that it's really great when you make housework fun for yourself and your children, because if it always seem like a chore they will never really learn, kwim? But at the same time, I could see how they may think that if it's fun you're not working. I think upthread was totally right...it's a joy but also a job. Hopefully that's what your children will learn about pursuing any goal they are passionate about.
 

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How come no one ever says, "Since you have nothing to do, why don't you take a long hot bath, read a book, and sip some wine?" <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"></div>
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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> So true
 

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