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I know I sound like a broken record but...<br><br>
SHE'S AMAZING!!!!<br><br>
I had another appointment w/ her yesterday and I can't believe how lucky I am to have found her. It was my 36 week check up, which typically involves testing for GBS but she said, "You know, since you are having a c/section there is no need for that test. And on top of that, I am not even going do an internal exam because it doesn't really tell me much about whether you are going to have this baby anytime soon or not. Are you OK with that?"<br><br>
Uh....OK with not having an internal exam? That would be a resounding YES, thankyouverymuch and three cheers for doctors who use common sense!!!! Needless to say, I was delighted with her decision. Had I been back with my old ObGyn practice I would have had an internal exam and the GBS test because that's "just what you do" at a 36 week appointment.<br><br>
But back to my story: So there I am, lounging about on the exam table (because frankly if someone wants to talk with me, they have to do it while I am laying down because sitting sucks. Period.) She doctor starts talking to me about the upcoming c/section and some of my concerns as it is sooooooooooo not within my birthing paradigm. In addition to the normal fears, I also told her how worried I was that I was going to have a complete come-apart there on the OR table. I told her of my struggles I have been having and how this new baby is causing me to <i>really</i> confront my unresolved issues from losing my daughter 17+ years ago. Thus ensued one of the most open, honest, and compassionate conversations I have ever had with a health care professional about any subject.<br><br>
There was no judgment.. There was no reaching for the prescription pad to write me an Rx for an antidepressant because <i>my</i> emotions were making <i>her</i> uncomfortable. There were no "There, there now, you just need to let go and move on" comments, accompanied by a pat on the shoulder. There was only genuine compassion for my plight as a woman who had lost a child and never been given the permission to grieve that loss. There were tears, both hers and mine, as I unfolded my story. There was horror and repulsion at how I was treated. There was understanding at my need to reconcile my faith with my experience instead of disdain.<br><br>
She sat there with me for the next 50 minutes - her entire lunch time - and talked with me. I am grateful I was her last patient before her lunch break but even more grateful that she is a caring enough physician to help me work through some of my fears. I cannot say enough good about her as a person or as a physician and hope that all of her residents/interns turn out to be doctors just like her.
 

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That's awesome that she was so genuinely caring!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> (((hugs)))
 

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Rock on! So happy for you! She sure does sound above par!
 

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So glad you found her! She just keeps getting better and better. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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Thank you for sharing your experience with her, I have to say it has helped renew my faith in the medical world a bit. I am glad you have her!
 
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