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<p>I am almost 5 weeks pregnant and single. I was on birth control pills when I got pregnant, so it came as a complete surprise. I am 31 and want children more than anything. It took a few days, but I became very happy about the pregnancy. I had spoken to the father and he said he would be okay with the decision I make. Until I spoke with him last night...</p>
<p>Last night I called him to tell him I made the decision to continue the pregnancy. He freaked out! He spent an hour yelling at me, saying terrible things, and being down right mean. He is not an abusive person or a mean spirited person at all. I have know him for 15 years. We were, and still technically are, married for 6 years. We have been separated for 7 years, but have remained good friends. Recently we started sleeping together. I was very careful with my pills because I didn't want to be pregnant by him, but it happen anyways. I guess I should also mention that he is suppose to be moving to Hawaii in two weeks. He has been preparing for this move for a long time and right before he is suppose to leave, I end up pregnant.</p>
<p>I was so strong in my decision. Fine with being a single mom. I still am. But after his reaction last night, I am questioning myself. When I think about not having the baby, I can't. It's like my mind won't go there.</p>
<p>Am I selfish for wanting this baby when he doesn't?</p>
<p>Is having a baby in these circumstances okay?</p>
<p>Is it possible he was just freaking out, like I did when I first found out?</p>
<p>Is there anyone out there who has or is going through something similar?</p>
<p>Any guidance would be helpful.</p>
<p>~Namaste~</p>
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<p>Last night I called him to tell him I made the decision to continue the pregnancy. He freaked out! He spent an hour yelling at me, saying terrible things, and being down right mean. He is not an abusive person or a mean spirited person at all. I have know him for 15 years. We were, and still technically are, married for 6 years. We have been separated for 7 years, but have remained good friends. Recently we started sleeping together. I was very careful with my pills because I didn't want to be pregnant by him, but it happen anyways. I guess I should also mention that he is suppose to be moving to Hawaii in two weeks. He has been preparing for this move for a long time and right before he is suppose to leave, I end up pregnant.</p>
<p>I was so strong in my decision. Fine with being a single mom. I still am. But after his reaction last night, I am questioning myself. When I think about not having the baby, I can't. It's like my mind won't go there.</p>
<p>Am I selfish for wanting this baby when he doesn't?</p>
<p>Is having a baby in these circumstances okay?</p>
<p>Is it possible he was just freaking out, like I did when I first found out?</p>
<p>Is there anyone out there who has or is going through something similar?</p>
<p>Any guidance would be helpful.</p>
<p>~Namaste~</p>
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