M and I have been separated for over two years now. Because of financial situations, and the worry about "control" over the kids (I hate putting it like that, I hope you know what I mean...) I haven't filed for anything legally. He's been paying what the state has said he will have to pay in childcare when we do divorce. Needless to say, I'm hurting financially. I'm doing some babysitting, errand running for the elderly, and I have a rental income, but it just doesn't pay the bills. Right now I'm two months behind on the mortgage (with month number three coming due next week) and two months behind on the car payment. The gas bill is huge, and we've already cut out all the extras. The only way I have internet now is because a friend got a free dial-up disk with her business service through Verizon.
Anyway - I need help. I need lots of help. BUT since we aren't divorced, his income still counts as part of my household income. Shouldn't there be some kind of way that he can write a letter stating that we are no longer together, and that he pays me $X a month in child support, have it notarized - - - something so that I can get some help with utilities, etc.?!
Has anyone else run into this? Any thoughts? Any advice? Anyone have an extra couple Ks laying around that they aren't using?!
Anyway - I need help. I need lots of help. BUT since we aren't divorced, his income still counts as part of my household income. Shouldn't there be some kind of way that he can write a letter stating that we are no longer together, and that he pays me $X a month in child support, have it notarized - - - something so that I can get some help with utilities, etc.?!
Has anyone else run into this? Any thoughts? Any advice? Anyone have an extra couple Ks laying around that they aren't using?!
