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Normally, I get up at 6:30am, shower, dress, feed the child, make her lunch, put my wet hair in a ponytail, drive her to day care, sit in traffic, eventually get to work, & do my makeup at red lights. And not with the steadiest of hands.<br><br>
Sometimes I'll run in two minutes late for a meeting, sit down and have an hour long discussion, during which several people have looked me in the face. Later I realize there were certain spots of my concealer that I didn't get to blend, probably because traffic started moving. Fan-tastic. Most of my clothes are black because they don't need to be coordinated, and nothing requires ironing. Plus some flip flops.<br><br>
(I swear, I used to own suits and heels and get pedicures and haircuts and stuff).<br><br>
The boss had a party at his house this weekend. I got three hours of prep time during dd's nap. When I walked into the party, everyone looked at me like I just got off the set of Extreme Makeover. I couldn't even enjoy it -- I just kept thinking how sad that was, and I was thinking that they were thinking "I had no idea she owned an iron, much less a hair brush". Laughing at myself, but still thinking it was really, really sad.<br><br>
Do the rest of you sacrifice grooming time to get out the door, or have you managed to set aside any time for yourself? Does anyone insist on making themselves presentable before you run out the door, dangling children, bags, meals, toys, sippie cups, keys, and travel mugs???<br><br>
Did anyone else think that single parenting was going to be freeing and exhilirating?<br><br>
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none. i look like crap all the time<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> even when i do have a little time i still look like crap because none of my clothes fit me <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">: usually when i am trying to make myself presentable ds(2.5) starts melting down<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">: i just tell myself that when i'm done lactating and my hormones get back to nrmal and ds is more independent i can start focusing more on me. until then ..yes i am sacrificing grooming time to be the kind of attached mama i want to be ....hopefully when all this work pays off ds will be strong, healthy, independant and i will be beautiful!!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">
 

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I don't wear make up or do my hair, but I wish I had more time to brush it! A lot of days I just jump in and out of the shower (can do that and get dressed in 10 minutes!) and run out the door.<br><br>
My problem (thanks for pointing it out mamademateo) is that only about half my clothes fit well, and I've got absolutely no money to spend on more. I also have 5yo falling apart underwear, but it's just not a priority (I bought new clothes and undies the last time I was fully employed...and if I've got to wait until next time it'll sure be a while!) I can sometimes find good clothes at the thrift store, but with two wild kiddos it's been difficult to search for stuff.
 

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I used to not wear any makeup but now i have to bc of my job (a little) plus i got contacts instead of glasses so it makes a difference. It takes me about a half an hour to shower and everything (i only blowdry my hair on the rare occasion) My kids are older so they usually want to sleep in..It gets easier with that stuff but the kicker is that you no longer have that young baby or child (I long for another one)<br><br>
It used to only take me ten minutes too, until i got contacts.
 

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well I pretty much got it down pat in the morning, get up at 5:45, cup of coffee, shower, brush teeth, put contacts in, put mousse and gel stuff in wet hair, get dressed (easy to do cause i wear scrub bottoms and a t shirt to work <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"> ) put on makeup. It all takes me about 1/2 to 3/4 of an hour with shower. DD is 13 and gets herself ready (she takes so loooong <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> ) and ds who is almost 5 gets himself dressed (with a little reverse psychology from me..<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> we race or he and dd race, and we make sure he always wins)
 

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I usually don't wear much makeup, unless I'm going somewhere special. I am lucky enough to be a SAHM so I'm not in a rush to get out the door in the morning. When I did work full-time I would shower and blow-dry my hair at night after DS went to bed. In the morning I would throw on some face powder, a little eyeshadow and some mascara and go. I'd put lip gloss on in the car. I would do makeup at the kitchen table while DS sat in his high chair eating breakfast. That gave me about 10-15 minutes to get ready.<br><br>
Now my DS is 3 and if I need to put on makeup he'll usually play in my bedroom while I get ready. I'll let him play with something usually off-limits so I can get ready. His favorite things to play with are photos in photo albums and my eyelash curler. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> Sometimes I'll let him play with a ball of yarn from my knitting bag, it's usually scattered all over the floor by the time I'm ready.<br><br>
Please be careful doing your makeup in the car mama!! Get up earlier if you have to.
 

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Now that I got that out.... I can never find any time to do anything for *me*. Normally I take a quick shower either after Owen goes to bed or in the morning before he wakes up. In the morning I try to run a brush through my hair, throw on some clothes, and do the mad dash. This morning, however, I put my foot down. After I took a shower I threw my DS in the bathtub (he loves playing in the tub), blow dried my hair, AND curled it <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/jaw2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="jaw2"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/spitdrink.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="spitdrink"> AND I put it up in some cute clips <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue"> But today is not the norm... I had to do it because I have to see ex's family today, including some really mean people (Owen's great grandparents) who are just horrible. I haven't seen them in over a year but I found out last night that when I left ex, these people told ex's mom that I was going to make a horrible single mother, Owen was going to end up starving, wearing rags, and being taken away by the state <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/demon.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="demon"> When O was born these people said they were going to buy him a stroller. Less than 2 months later, when I left ex, they said that because we weren't together anymore they weren't buying DS anything <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/rolleyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="rolleyes"> Real mature. Anyway, so I had to dress ds up in a cute outfit and actually look presentable myself so I can tell these people where to shove it this afternoon <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/moon.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="moon"><br><br>
Wow that went way off topic... sorry!
 

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Hardly any. In fact, I've been horrible about even getting ds up in time to have breakfast in the morning before school. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/blush.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="blush">
 

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Get pretty?! roflmbo I'm lucky if I get 2 showers a week. I don't put make up on anymore. If I remember to brush my hair, then I feel 'polished'. And I'm so sick of my cruddy old clothes. Tired of wearing huge sizes...I just want to be able to shop in a NORMAL store (and have the money to do it). And I want to be able to shower at least every other day.<br>
Sigh.
 

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I can do makeup in about 5-10 minutes. I usually feel a lot better when I take the time to look good.<br><br>
From the shower to out the door is usually 1/2-3/4 of an hour for me and that includes hair & makeup.
 

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I have to be out the door by 6 am at the very latest (5:45 preferably)...I normally shower at night if I can, and its just a matter of brushing my teeth, deoderant and cologne and out the door w/ hair in a pony tail or bun. But thats b/c I'm allergic to most make up and rarely wear it and my hair and I have issues (allergies, but we're doing no poo so we'll see) I use the Motivated Mommies list and that keeps me on track with clothes since I set them out the night before, but most days I do feel a little less than polished, and I've just accepted it. IN all, I get about 30-45 minutes to get me completely ready, fed, CDs packed, lunch packed and DS out the door <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/shy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="innocent">
 

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It takes me about 30-40 minutes to get ready in the am. That is including a shower, getting dressed, blowing my hair 'almost' dry, tinted moisturizer, mascara and a bit of lip gloss.<br><br>
I have never been a high-maintenance girl, in regards to getting ready in the morning. I am too lazy.
 

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Get pretty? With kids? You're kidding, right?!<br>
I try to get a shower every other day. I do brush my hair afterwards and put on clean clothes, and I make sure I brush my teeth once a day. But that is IT! I'm lucky if I look in the mirror once a week!<br>
(Oh, and technically I'm not a single mama at all, but my husband travels a lot, so it often feels that way for a week or so at a time. But I just had to respond! LOL.)<br><br>
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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> I'm so glad I'm not alone - I've felt so bad going to work with wet hair the last few weeks - using the heater vents in the car to dry it before I get to the office <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment"> Luckily, mine is naturally curly and dark, so I can sort-of pull off the wash n' go look. Personally, I'm a blush and lip-gloss girl, so my make-up routine is next to nothing.<br><br>
As for clothes - I made a haul at Old Navy after Christmas ($4 pants on clearance) - so I actually have an entire new wardrobe of work clothes that fit <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"> - It's sooo nice - all my old pre-preg clothes were way too big. Of course, then DS weaned and I've gained 5 lbs <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">:<br><br>
I'd say all-in-all it takes me and the boys about 1-1.5 hours to get out of the house, but we take it pretty easy in the AM - When I have an early meeting, we can all get out in about 30-40 min (I've made it in 20 minutes a couple of times, but those are always the mornings when ds forgets his backpack or something and we have to turn around half way to school <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/duh.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="duh"> )
 

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hmmm. maybe 10 minutes if I get a shower <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> it takes me about that long to detangle my hair. though I have been known to use those 10 min here (like what I'm doing right now lol) but combing my hair, putting on moisturizer & brushing my teeth is about the extent of it.<br><br>
I stay up super late some nights so I can soak in the tub otherwise I haven't plucked my eyebrows in almost a year haven't had a pedicure or haircut in months. yes I admit I'm a mess <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/shy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="innocent"> i did buy some new clothes since DD was born (as I have been basically pregnant for the last 2 years!) i rarely wear makeup other than lip balm. i do need to get new glasses and contacts though. thanks for remindning me!
 

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I prepare myself before I wake YDS ... at 5:30AM. I get up at 5:10AM, so that gives me 20 minutes to toss on the clothing I set out the night before, go to the bathroom, brush my teeth and hair and if I'm feeling the need, toss on some eyeliner and eyebrow definer.<br>
I figure either I've got the natural-pretty thing going on or I don't. Hey, look at it this way - if someone hits on me (and it's happened) when I'm going au naturale, then there is no chance I'll get the "Well, you USED to take care of yourself back when we first met..." line. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">
 

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Hey, you have time to shower??!?!?<br><br>
No fair.
 

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I don't have much time. It takes an hour to get makeup on and dressed for me, on a usual day. I have long straight hair, which helps, as it's quite easy to "style." I am late a few times a month because I'll suddenly realize it's been a week since I've plucked. And I'll stand there wasting time pulling my eyebrows out. Ug.<br><br>
I still get pedicures.<br>
I don't get manicures. I've never been very fond of fake nails.<br>
I get my hair trimmed now and then but for the most part, I leave it alone.<br><br>
I find it gets easier as my daughter (4) gets older. When she was a baby I was in a ponytail and sweat pants every day.
 
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