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It is official that I will soon be on my own with the lil ones, 4 and 1, and I am really starting to panic about being able to pull off being a wahm and single. Especially since my 13mo ds is extremely high needs. Most of the work I will be doing will be sewing, knitting, computer work, editing, writing, some dog washing <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">, I would really do anything to stay at home with them, mostly though creating items and ideas for my in-home store. I am wondering how it is done...if I can do it. How much time do you spend working? Is it all done while they are sleeping? Because I can barely make food when my ds is awake let alone create something. I know I can do it because I have to. I would get a helper but ds will not go to anyone but me. Not even his dad. It's a real problem.<br><br>
So what as a single wahm do you do? and how do you make it all work? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/nut.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="nut">
 

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It's hard. I did it for a quite a few mos, then started feeling bad for DS. He's 2.5 yrs and was getting really bored while I worked. He spent a lot of time playing alone or watching TV (which I felt guilty about) So now I send him to daycare 3 days a week for 4-6 hrs each day. I get most of my work done while he's there and he gets to play and be entertained while I work. He likes it now that he's older. I worked full-time outside of the home for 2 mos when he was 2 and he was in daycare full time and HATED it.<br><br>
Try to get them as involved as possible. I still end up doing a little work while DS is around and I find that when I let him help we are both happier.
 

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It does get a bit easier. I found that when my youngest was about 18 months, he started to play more with my older child and they kept themselves entertained fairly well. I now get a few hours in a day (not all at once) where the two will go off and play or play in the same room where I am working. I've also found that when they know I am genuinely busy, they start to entertain themselves and each other better.<br><br>
It will get easier and if you have to do it, you will make it work.
 

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I don't have advice, but wanted to wish you the best of luck. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> Take care.
 

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I WAHed for about a year and then also picked up a full time job. Right now, I have a contractor that sews for me because there is absolutely no way I could do all the sewing, plus running the business, working my full time job, parenting, cleaning and dating. If I didn't have a full time job, I would do all the business stuff. But for the year that I did it all at home, the kids pretty much self-entertained. I didn't find it to be aweful, but I did get frustrated at times.
 

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I have been wanting to WAH but I really have no way of getting the start up needed for a buisness. I am a full time student temporarally lining with my parents. Do you know of any good resources for single parents wanting to start buisnesses? Do any even exist?<br><br><br>
Nora mother to Edwyn and Rowan born at home on 2/4/05
 

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I'm an unschooling SWAHM, but my daughter is 10 and is able to entertain herself. What I would suggest is see about a "kid switch" with a friend - you trade off babysitting during the day, one or two days a week. This way you each get a couple of days free to work, clean, write, go to the spa... lol you get the idea (;<br><br>
Or check into Jilian's suggestion of day care a couple days a week.<br><br>
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So what as a single wahm do you do? and how do you make it all work? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/nut.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="nut"></div>
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