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and she wants to nurse, but a lot of her side of the family is telling her she wont be able to. she nursed her first son for 6 weeks and her daughter for 18 months. what books would be good to get her? nothing too crunchy, she is very definatly not AP, but something a little mainstream that talks about extended breastfeeding and all the other good stuff.<br><br>
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Congrats to your sister and to you the auntie!<br><br>
You can DEFINITELY nurse twins, and believe it or not, there quickly comes a time when it becomes easy (and WAY easier than bottles). Mothering Multiples by Karen Gromada has a lot about nursing twins... and talking to someone from LLL before she has the babes would probably help. The leader would probably be able to put her in touch with a MoM (mother of multiples) who did nurse or is nursing.<br><br>
If you want to pass on anecdotal info -- I nursed my two until just before their second birthday (and MANY mamas here have nursed longer) -- and I don't think I would have done it, or stuck with it, if it just wasn't so easy and made them so happy. I just took one day -- and sometimes one nursing -- at a time.
 

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Ditto to LoisLane's comments.<br><br>
I don't have a book suggestion for you, but yes, share our anecdotes. My neighbour thinks I'm "alternative" <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/blush.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="blush">, but I'm fairly mainstream by the standards of this community.<br><br>
I'm nursing our twins, now almost 9-months-old. In the past week, there has been a STUNNING increase in their interest in / demand for table food. I'm just HOPPING to try to get enough food into both little mouths quickly enough to avoid hollering and frustration (that would be, THEM hollering and being frustrated! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink">) I'm thinking this might be something like the hassles I avoided by steering clear of formula.<br><br>
It's so much easier to just sit and cuddle and nurse. Although they are old enough to be slightly more patient now, I can't imagine holding two screaming newborns while waiting to warm up the formula - even if I'd been able to have it prepared and bottled.
 

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As someone who ff'ed for a variety of (stupid) reasons, I have to say that it SUCKED to make bottles all the time for babies. Seems like it would have been way easier to whip out a boob.<br><br>
My bff nursed her twins for 13 months. I would say most, if not practically all, mults moms here bf their twins.<br><br>
I saw a lady on Oprah who has sextuplets and she bf'ed them for 6 months! If she can do that...
 

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I second mothering multiples as a good breastfeeding book for MOMs. I've exclusively BFd my twins since they came home (they had 7mls of formula via syringe feeder) and it's really not much harder to breastfeed two then one, it's just more juggling.
 

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I had to supplement in the first 3 months when my twins wouldn't latch (due to prematurity and bottles in the NICU). Once they started latching, they were nursing champs. We are still nursing at 22 months and I am due with our next little one in Dec. She can definitely do it. I agree with the previous book rec.
 

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Yep, Mothering Multiples is *the* book. I read it when I was PG and have looked back on it so many times. It has lots and lots of nursing information, but also how to manage life with two babies. She's somewhat crunchy, but I don't think anyone would find her dogmatic.<br><br>
I nursed my monkeys til they were 28-months old when I led weaning. I couldn't take the sensation of them nursing during pregnancy. What I personally found most helpful was having a post partum doula who knew lots and lots about nursing twins. I credit her with helping me exclusively nurse my girls. It really helps to have good habits right from the start to establish good supply.<br><br>
Good luck to your sis!
 

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I think Having Twins is also a great book. I loved Karen Gromada's website and I actually found it more helpful than her book, to be honest. I spent hours looking at all the pictures of mamas nursing their twins and it really boosted my confidence and helpe me visualize how it was going to be. And now I have my very own nursing pictures up there! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> I feel like a celebrity.<br><br><a href="http://www.karengromada.com/photos/index.htm" target="_blank">http://www.karengromada.com/photos/index.htm</a>
 

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She can do it just fine.....my twins are 17 months and still nursing (wanted to wean them them at 12 months but one won't drink milk). I had no problems with two......once they started sleeping through the night I would get up and pump at 1am and could pump 22 oz at a time. Tell her not to get discouraged.....not sure about books but they sell double boppies which makes it very easy to nurse them at the same time (it straps around you). I still use it.
 

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I agree to all the book recommendations. If you look at the sticky at the top of the forum there are links to websites and so forth as well.<br><br>
I nursed my girls until 3.5 years. People constantly thought I couldn't do it. Now that we're done and I tell them we did it for 3.5 years they are stunned, really stunned.<br><br>
The fact is, though, most things about having twins stun people. People are just stunned by twins. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
I guess what I'm saying is that she's going to hear a lot of "oh you can't do X with twins" about a variety of issues. And a lot (most) of them she'll actually be doing while people are telling her she can't. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">:<br><br>
Hint. Don't be one of those people. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"><br><br>
Did anyone point out that we rock? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/loveeyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Loveeyes">: She can join here. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/loveeyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Loveeyes">:<br><br>
Oh and congrats to you on the little twins coming into your life! Twins rock!
 

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thanks for all the greats recs mamas! i would point her here but she really is very mainstream. no co-sleeping (i.e. cry it out), no baby wearing, pro circ, pro vax, pro junk food, leaves her kids with her mom constantly with formula (she did both, formula and bm) (oh and we have the same dad, dif moms lol). i have tried to woo her to the other side, but no dice...
 

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Nursing twins can be a challenge, but everything with twins is a challenge. The cost of formula for twins would be so so crazy (even if they don't end up needing a special formula). I read some discouraging things before mine were born, but I really wanted to nurse them. It really helped to find my local moms of multiples group and talk with them, asking lots of questions to those who had nursed twins (I did this while pregnant, thankfully; I didn't get back to a meeting until the girls were 5mo). One recommendation they had was to get an EZ 2 Nurse twin nursing pillow, which I loved in the early months.<br><br>
You might mention that co-sleeping can be a lifesaver in the early months. I got a lot more sleep doing that since I woke up too much if I tried to tandem nurse at night. I didn't completely co-sleep with my twins (my 4yo and 6yo boys always climb into bed with us in the middle of the night, and I was sure they'd smother the twins--they both sleep like logs). I would put them down in their crib, and when one would wake, I'd take her to a single bed in the nursery and co-sleep with her until we both fell back asleep. When the second woke, I'd switch babies.<br><br>
You might still mention this forum. I'm more mainstream in some areas than many here, but I've loved the information (and comradarie in this journey) in those areas where my views are similar to those of Mothering.
 

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I'm exclusively breastfeeding our twins and it has been wonderful. I realize I'm lucky--never had nipple pain at all, just a few times engorgement and a couple close calls with clogged ducts. I found the La Leche League to be incredibly valuable--both the literature and the meetings. Where else can you look at real women and babies with good, bad and in-between latches to see how it really works?!!!<br><br>
Also, LLL published an issue of their magazine focusing on nursing twins. Another MDC mom sent it to me when I was pregnant and I'd love to pass on the favor. If you think your sister would be interested, PM me with your mailing address and I'll send it to you for her.<br><br>
Good luck to her for a healthy pregnancy, beautiful birth and beyond!
 
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