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would you skip your prenatal appointments?

  • don't skip any! its important to have prenatal care now more than ever

    Votes: 6 17.1%
  • skip weekly, go bi-weekly instead. everything has been fine so far, the stress isn't worth it

    Votes: 9 25.7%
  • skip ALL of your prenatals from now on. the stress is going to cause more problems than the prenatal

    Votes: 4 11.4%
  • woman, you should have had a home birth with a traditional midwife!

    Votes: 14 40.0%
  • other (advice below)

    Votes: 2 5.7%
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my prenatals are stressing me out. i'm considering skipping our appt next week. what would you do?<br><br>
we are seeing a practice of certified nurse midwives. we saw the same group when pg with dd. i had PIH with dd, and the end of my pregnancy was a rollercoaster "you're fine" "oh wait, you bp is up, maybe we should induce" "oh wait, you're fine" etc. i ended up being induced.<br><br>
well, its starting again. this time its not PIH. first they were worried the baby was too big. then i started measuring okay again, and they let that go. then i had one high bp reading (went down 5 mins later, and has been fine at the last 2 appts). i was more stressed than the cnms were about the bp. anyway, now i spilled sugar (see <a href="http://mothering.com/discussions/showthread.php?s=&threadid=84881" target="_blank">guess i'm just too sweet</a>).<br><br>
for the last few weeks, it seems like every other appt there is something new to worry about. MY BIGGEST WORRY - > all this worry and stress about my stinkin' prenatals and not knowing what to expect week to week will delay labor from starting, and then all of a sudden i'll be past my due date and induction will be suggested after all i've done to avoid it this time.<br><br>
so, given all of the above, what would you do???
 

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ps. we're full term in a week, btw...and until that bp reading a few weeks ago, all tests and everything were good. since then, my bp has also been good. i feel good, the baby has been healthy throughout.
 

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I didn't vote because I don't really know what sugar in your urine points to...<br><br>
But I did want to say I have skipped prenatal appointments (my 36 week one), and am scheduling my next appt out about a week and a half instead of one week out as well. Just to save myself the stress and annoyance of having to go in to the doctor. However I did that knowing that nothing is wrong and that I and babe are fine. So if the sugar in your urine thing doesn't point to a problem, or you get that problem resolved (if it's pointing to possible GD, then maybe just following a GD diet?) then I'd say yes, skip it! You know you're ok, you can feel the babe is ok, so what in the world is going to come of the appt besides stressing you out? Your BP went down, it was just stress caused, but if your worried about it, go hunt down one of those blood pressure machines at a Long's or something. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"><br><br>
I know how much of a pain it is to suddenly feel like this wonderful pregnancy is now some medical marvel and like you're a lab rat under a microscope. Until I found my current doctor I felt this way, and it was such a weird feeling to go to the doctor and be treated like I was the most high risk pregnant woman in the world and then go to my midwives who wouldn't be seeing me if I wasn't low risk...
 

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i have talked to two of them about being stressed out before appointments re: blood pressure "how am i supposed to keep my blood pressure down at my appts when i'm stressed about my blood pressure being up at my appts???" both were very cool about it and said i had nothing to worry about. having had normal reading the last two weeks since the one fluke reading has made me less stressed.<br><br>
one of the reasons i want to do the 3 hr test right away is so that i just KNOW and don't have to worry about it all weekend. if i don't pass the test, i wouldn't think of skipping appts. if i pass it and know everything is okay, i think i'll skip the appt we have schedule next week and go the following week.<br><br>
the cnm we saw today did express concern that i might stress about this new development. she also seemed to be concerned herself about keeping my birth goals in sight. if i DO have a glucose problem, the baby could get bigger over the next few weeks, which could cause other problems during labor. better to do something now.<br><br>
i understand all this, but it still feels like a rollercoaster...and that the baby and i are getting lost in all the numbers. i come from a medical family, and am very comfortable in hospitals, with medical things in general, so the stress isn't coming from fear at all...its coming from the up and down at each appt when things have been fine throughout this pregnancy.
 

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I wouldn't worry about your bp being high at a couple of the visits. It probably was your worry & anxiety about it that made it go up anyways.<br><br>
As far as skipping prenatals, I don't know what you should do there. You could go and take or leave what they say.<br><br>
Was this the first time you had sugar in your urine?<br><br>
At one of my visits while preg. with ds1, I spilled some sugar also and my midwife said it could be that I had just eaten breakfast. She wanted me to watch my sugar intake, never had a prob. with it again. It could just be a fluke thing with you also.
 

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I've been thinking of skipping mine because nothing new ever happens and I have to pay the darn $15 co-pay. I'd probably skip some of them, but not all of them. Like I might go to the 40 week one or something, I don't know. My friend was telling me she had to go every 3 days after 40 weeks. No way am I doing that!
 

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I have done no prenatals at all this pregnancy and it has been SO much more peaceful than my pregnancy with ds. Last time they were always finding things to test me for, especiallly toward the end. All of a sudden "they" thought I might have had a bladder infection (I had no symptoms) but when the doc couldn't remember which abx besides penicilin, which I am allergic too was safe in pg it was never mentioned again. Then she was unsure of the babies position at 40 weeks (all of a sudden he may have been breech??) so she sent me for an ultrasound, he was head down. Apparently I was also measuring "too small" and even the ultrasound determined ds to be 6 lbs at 41 weeks and they said he looked more like 38 weeks. He was born a week later at 8 lbs 8 oz (which is huge for a woman who is 5'4 and 105 lbs) Every appt. was something else that was all of a sudden an (unfounded) concern. It caused way more worry then anything.<br><br>
This time has so peaceful. This pregnancy has been so much more relaxed! I take care of my own health (which is my responsibility anyway) with no concern for liability insurance or rare complications that I am not at risk for anyway.<br><br>
Only you can decide which is the best option for you, but that is just my take on the prenatal care experience <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
Laurie
 

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Well, after my 30 week appt, they wanted me to start coming in every two weeks. I have chosen not to go in again until 36 weeks, when I'll get the gbs test done. Then I won't go back unless I have cause for concern.<br><br>
As for the sugar, personally I'd just act as though I have GD, and follow the prescribed exercise and diet. (I'm sure there's plenty of info online.)<br><br>
So I voted to skip prenatals.
 

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3 hr gd test came back positive. disappointed and surprised, but at least we know instead of delaying knowing for another week and being stressed. cnm left it up to me if i want to do thewhole blood sugar thing, but i think i will. i won't be skipping any appts here on out now.<br><br>
the funny thing is that i think being worried about PIH again (even though my chances were very slim of getting that again) kept my diet very much in line of what would keep gd at bay too. obviously it did, since i passed my 1hr and wasn't spilling sugar until now. anyway, i'm back on a high fiber, high protein, low sugar diet now!
 
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